Jasmin 0 #26 June 12, 2002 I do agree.Trust is sooooo important.In my case, it wasn't really there to begin with. I was being assured I was in an emotional relationship, his actions proved otherwise.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #27 June 12, 2002 1) Anything with anyone other than your significant other.. To include kissing, or flirty emails talking about sex.2) Under what circumstances?? If you have to confess you are screwed anyways.. That's my story and I am sticking to it..3) Wouldn't know? Haven't done anything at the DZ.. It's more like what happens OFF the DZ people don't need to know about.. lol Blue Skies ..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #28 June 12, 2002 SoA) What about swingers?B) I always flirt, and anyone with whom I am in a relationship knows it. If they go into a relationship with that knowledge, then can he (or she) who flirts really be considered a "cheat"?C) what you are describing in your first answer seems to me to equate to saying that you cannot look in your text book during an open book test, because 90% of tests are not open book. Do you really consider it to be that black and white?I think that just as there is a difference between killing and murder, there is a difference between kissing another and cheating, or having sex with another and cheating, etc., which is dictated by the relationship, just as the circumstances of a death will dictate whether an individual has been "killed" or "murdered".Steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #29 June 12, 2002 I guess as long as the parameters of your relationship are defined ahead of time that is your perogative??I'm just not one to share my woman with anyone.. And when I am with a woman she is my world.. I have no need for others.. Why go out for beef jerky when you have steak at home.. Blue Skies ..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,087 #30 June 12, 2002 Cheating is lying to your SO about your relationship with someone else. To me, it's simple.-bill von Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #31 June 12, 2002 QuoteCheating is lying to your SO about your relationship with someone else. To me, it's simple.you make it[us] sound so simpleHave fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #32 June 12, 2002 Life is not black and white.Don't be too quick to judge things like this until you've first taken a lot of trips around the sun.Life is very complex.quadehttp://futurecam.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #33 June 12, 2002 I guess as long as the parameters of your relationship are defined ahead of time that is your perogative??--------------I agree--------------I'm just not one to share my woman with anyone.. And when I am with a woman she is my world.. I have no need for others.. Why go out for beef jerky when you have steak at home..--------------For myself, I agree. I just believe that it is wrong to judge someone who is in a relationship that may or may not share those beliefs. In terms of your relationship, you have no responsibility to me or my beliefs, only to those of yourself and your SO.Steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
canopycudler 0 #34 June 12, 2002 In honor of anne.. who is *BUSY* at the moment.. i would like to take a moment to reflect on what she would say.....IM NOT TINA GODDAMMIT, IM ANNE!!!! good skydives, good friends and good beer.. thats what its all about... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #35 June 12, 2002 QuoteLife is not black and whiteit is when your giving advice"the best that you can do, the best that you can do, is fall in love!" ( i dont know why I quoted that song but i've been online for a LONG TIME and it popped into my head so I wanted to inject it into yours....Have fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,087 #36 June 12, 2002 >>Cheating is lying to your SO about your relationship with someone else. To me, it's simple.>you make it[us] sound so simple . . .Well, that's just what works for me. Everyone's different. There are actually people who would rather not know, which blows my mind. To each his (or her) own I guess.-bill von Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #37 June 12, 2002 Cheating is lying to your SO about your relationship with someone else. To me, it's simple----------------If you have had sex with another while in a relationship in which you are not free to do so, and you are on your way home to tell your SO, you have still cheated, even though you have not lied as of yet. I would say that cheating is being untrue to the commitment that you have made to the other person. It's picky, but figured I'd throw it out, if we are looking for a definition.Steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #38 June 12, 2002 Quote.....IM NOT TINA GODDAMMIT, IM ANNE!!!! Tina.. Stop kidding around!!! we all KNOW you aren't Anne...One shot... HEY!!! Mas Tequila!!!! Two Shots HEY HEY!!!! Three Shots....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lindsey 0 #39 June 12, 2002 I think that if you're in a relationship with someone, you have sex with someone else, and he's surprised, then you've not been particularly honest all along the way.....Please accept this post in the spirit of love in which it was composed....Peace~LindseyYa' know Smack-water Jack he bought a shotgun'cause he was in the mood for a little con-fron-ta-tion Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #40 June 12, 2002 good point...it's not an issue in itsself, but a symptom of something greater. I don't mean it's not an issue, just that it's not the end of the story. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mffi422 0 #41 June 12, 2002 Holy shit...I'm going to HELL huh? lmaoWork hard...Play harder!Dino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SBS 0 #42 June 12, 2002 Save us some good seats. :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mffi422 0 #43 June 12, 2002 LMAO@sbsWork hard...Play harder!Dino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #44 June 12, 2002 billvon-when I quoted you it was to say look there is a good definition.(its just fun to try to explian these things..you find out so much about "blurring the lines"Have fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E150 0 #45 June 12, 2002 1) What constitutes cheating? Is it only sex? NO! IT'S ANYTHING (KISSING ETC). 2) Under what circumstances MUST one confess? (and if you do confess, should you tell them who with?) TRICKY ONE. I THINK IF YOU HAVE CHEATED ON SOMEONE THEN THEN THERE IS FUNDAMENTALLY SOMETHING WRONG IN YOUR RELATIPNSHIP. YOU SHOULD JUST SPLIT UP WITH THEM AND DON'T BOTHER SAYING ANYTHING - UNLESS THEY ARE LIKELY TO FIND OUT. 3) "What happens on the DZ, stays on the DZ..." Is this a true sentiment? BOLLOX. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E150 0 #46 June 12, 2002 Agree, mental abuse can be just as bad a phsyical. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E150 0 #47 June 12, 2002 Hopefully, when you are married, it is to 'The One'. But, why should a rule be different for somoene your married to than someone your dating? Surley you dated the person you married before you were married? Does this mean you can be un-faithful to the person before your married? Also, surley by a certain age, you date somone who for all you know might just be 'The One', so why stuff it up be being unfaithful? I belive in treating others as you wish to be treated. That is being faithful. Yes we all make mistakes, but would be stupid if we did not learn from them. You reap what you sew. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #48 June 12, 2002 QuoteI belive in treating others as you wish to be treated. That is being faithful. Yes we all make mistakes, but would be stupid if we did not learn from them. eggactly!QuoteYou reap what you sew. its a good thing i didnt know how to sew when I was younger.Have fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #49 June 12, 2002 If you have to ask if something is cheating, then to you it probably is.RemsterMuff 914 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #50 June 12, 2002 I wish it worked that way with the word AltruisticHave fun, Live free, SKYDIVE!!http://community.webshots.com/user/jtval100 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
