Conundrum 1 #26 September 27, 2007 Quote All I know is I loved my ex unconditionally for 10 years, forgave him time and time again (maybe that was dumb on my part,) Unconditional love between a man and woman does not exist. Quote but isnt that what true love does? Um, no, it's not. I really hope you've figured that out by now. Quote I don't think I will ever get invovled in another serious relationship, it just takes too much time and effort. And for what to be lied too, cheated on, abused? You're probably goning to lead a very lonely life with that mentality. You put in too much time with a guy who treated you like shit, and hopefully you learned from it. With that knowledge, you should be able to correclty identify a good man and not stay with an asshole because you "love him". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydivermom 0 #27 September 27, 2007 I have known many women (my mother included) who came out of long-term relationships and have no desire to get into another one. My mother has been extremely happy for 10 years without a man. Part of it is because she is okay with who she is. She is not lonely at all. Everyone is different for sure, but deciding to not have a man in your life doesn't necessarily mean you will be lonely. People can and do lead very fullfillilng lives without being in a "relationship" with someone else.Mrs. WaltAppel All things work together for good to them that love God...Romans 8:28 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #28 September 27, 2007 Quote Quote Quote I can relate to how you feel on this, as my experiences unfortunately, are similar to yours. I am begining to believe those of us that trust and love unconditionally attract people bent on betrayal. My ex should be forced to wear a warning label I think your on to something here... I know mine definitly needs a warning label.... Well, they have this program that works well for bears ROFLMAO!!!!! I think the tag should be on the tally-whackers for men tho..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #29 September 27, 2007 Quote Unconditional love between a man and woman does not exist. I disagree there, I still love my ex and always will, I have just come to the realization that we can't and shouldn't be together. I do love him unconditionally, still and there isnt anything that can change that. One of the reasons is becuase he is the reason I am a mother to three of the greatest kids in the world. And regardless of our marriage failing, I would still be there for him if he needed me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gonzalesna 1 #30 September 27, 2007 Quote Quote Quote Quote I can relate to how you feel on this, as my experiences unfortunately, are similar to yours. I am begining to believe those of us that trust and love unconditionally attract people bent on betrayal. My ex should be forced to wear a warning label I think your on to something here... I know mine definitly needs a warning label.... Well, they have this program that works well for bears ROFLMAO!!!!! I think the tag should be on the tally-whackers for men tho..... Some people refrain from beating a dead horse. Personally, I find a myriad of entertainment value when beating it until it becomes a horse-smoothie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #31 September 27, 2007 Quote I have known many women (my mother included) who came out of long-term relationships and have no desire to get into another one. My mother has been extremely happy for 10 years without a man. Part of it is because she is okay with who she is. She is not lonely at all. Everyone is different for sure, but deciding to not have a man in your life doesn't necessarily mean you will be lonely. People can and do lead very fullfillilng lives without being in a "relationship" with someone else. I agree, I am not lonely now, I dont have time to be, working full time, going to school part time and spending time with my kids keeps me too busy to be lonely. My mom and dad always "broke their necks" per se to get remarried. My dad has always had someone on the string b4 letting the "old" one go and my mom was remarried 9 months out of her 16 yr marriage to my dad ending and when that didnt last was remarried 4 years later, but was in a steady relationship from the get go that one ending. Im so not like that. I don't "need" someone per se, right now I have someone that I hang out with (we both have insanely busy schedules) and so far this is working out great. Dunno if it will ever go any farther... if it does great, if not Im sure we will remain friends... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NtheSeaOrSky 0 #32 September 27, 2007 Quote Then I hear the "Im not looking for a relationship" line... which screams to me that Im not good enough to be considered for an exclusive relationship... Sorry, I am definitely no relationship expert, but I had to point this out to you: Be careful to never determine your worth based on someone else's actions. I have told several people the same thing about not looking for a relationship - and it certainly was not because they were not good enough, it had to do with where I was in my life at the time.Life is not fair and there are no guarantees... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #33 September 27, 2007 QuoteQuote Unconditional love between a man and woman does not exist. I disagree there, I still love my ex and always will, I have just come to the realization that we can't and shouldn't be together. I do love him unconditionally, still and there isnt anything that can change that. One of the reasons is becuase he is the reason I am a mother to three of the greatest kids in the world. And regardless of our marriage failing, I would still be there for him if he needed me. This is an extreme example, but think about it and think about what "unconditional" means. If your (ex) husband, who you claim you love unconditionally, killed one of your children (on purpose, i.e murder), would you still love him? If you say yes, I'm afraid for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #34 September 27, 2007 QuoteQuoteQuote Unconditional love between a man and woman does not exist. I disagree there, I still love my ex and always will, I have just come to the realization that we can't and shouldn't be together. I do love him unconditionally, still and there isnt anything that can change that. One of the reasons is becuase he is the reason I am a mother to three of the greatest kids in the world. And regardless of our marriage failing, I would still be there for him if he needed me. This is an extreme example, but think about it and think about what "unconditional" means. If your (ex) husband, who you claim you love unconditionally, killed one of your children (on purpose, i.e murder), would you still love him? If you say yes, I'm afraid for you. OH hell no.... He would be dead, by my own hands, but I tend to not think about the bad things in life... even tho I am a woman scorned right now, I still see the good in people. Im just not letting myself get close to anyone... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #35 September 27, 2007 Then how can you say you love him unconditionally if you wouldn't love him if he did something horrendus? See what I'm getting at? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #36 September 27, 2007 QuoteThen how can you say you love him unconditionally if you wouldn't love him if he did something horrendus? See what I'm getting at? Ok... you made your point... Its damn near unconditional love then, I know he would never do that tho, he loves our kids as much as I do.... I know crap like this goes on in the world and it sickens me to no end. Im just not geared to think like that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #37 September 27, 2007 QuoteDo you believe in love at first sight? yes I'm certain that it happens all the time.... Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
