Nice Xmas present

[akarunway 1]

Daughter gets arrested tonight for DUI, crack cocaine and child endangerment (my only grandaughter). Should I bail her out or let her sit?I'm 3000 miles away. Kid's OK tho w/ the ex

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

[ACMESkydiver 0]

Damn.

I won't begin to try to give advice on that situation. I'm not qualified, and to be honest, I sure hope I never am...

Your granddaughter is safe though...so there is your Merry Christmas, grandpa. I am very thankful for that; I bet you are, too.

~Jaye
Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action.

[longtall 0]

Sorry. Sit; It may be the first step in recovery....J......

" 90 right, five miles then cut."---Pukin Buzzards

[dannydan 5]

With regrets to say this.... been there, done this (but no crack just dui)..... SIT and suffer! It sucks man, but if you bail or anyone else does then the NEGITIVE "enabling" starts allover again....

Road of hard knocks sucks, but...... consequences

[akarunway 1]

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With regrets to say this.... been there, done this (but no crack just dui)..... SIT and suffer! It sucks man, but if you bail or anyone else does then the NEGITIVE "enabling" starts allover again....

Road of hard knocks sucks, but...... consequences

Just found out survivng son locked up for 9 mths. grand auto theft. MOM's DID A NICE JOB> Arrggh Merry Fuckin Xmas, Guess I sould have been around more often

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

[dannydan 5]

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Guess I sould have been around more often

Man let me express something here... My father left my Mom, my two older sisters and me when I was one year back in 1964! There comes a time in a so called ADULTs life that one needs to REALIZE that life is not a fairytale or fantasy that is not without responsibilities, priorities and rewards and consequences for our actions. Period!!

Whats in the past is just that, and we as adult individuals either learn or don't learn it. I could blame my dad for a lot of shit and I did for awhile up till I became married some 20 years ago, but then someone told me shortly after we had met and a year or so into my marriage that I was the adult now and I had better start acting like one because "its about the kids now bobby not you" (me) Ellie and Molly my kids were 3 and 2 at that time...

Hit me like a brick wall! Like a spanking from God i changed big time and grabbed life and responsibilty by the horns. YES i would be a liar if I say that i didnt do silly stuff since then, but I did it knowing that if I fucked it up then I had to PAY and pay big time!!

YEAH...maybe you should have been there more, but that is just a "what if" that still wouldn't guarentee that your daughter wouldn't have gone down this path... You do relize that there are kids with both parents at home, wanting for nothing and sometimes make way worse decisions...?

DO NOT beat yourself up over the past, but do what you can to help for the future. It may well be moving back the 3000 miles to help raise your grandaughter! Who knows, I don't know what is best for you and Her and or your daughter, but we have all heard it before and esp in here that "life is too short, make the best of it"...
The legacy began a long time ago!!! How do we break negitive cycles? We hit em head on, we conquor and overcome, we dont just throw them over our shoulder and wait and see if they will go away by tomorrow! Because WE all know that they won't UNLESS we take care of business today!....

I sent you a pm with my cell earlier... Call me if you NEED or want to, but I basically would express the same thAng over the fone as I have here... But call anyway if needed BROTHER!!!!

Stay calm, stay collected and go easy on YOU! However, be dilligent in doing or saying what is BEST for YOUR LEGACY!!!

:DD

[dannydan 5]

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However, be dilligent in doing or saying what is BEST for YOUR LEGACY!!!

Let me be clear about this comment, I am NOT saying "cover your ass", I am talking about your lineage down the line! re; grandaughter, great grand kids and their kids etc...

Our asses are not any more covered if WE open them up with poor decision making in our youth or young adult and then esp older adult years!!

[ladyskydiver 0]

Sorry to hear. Hugs!

Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.

[kbordson 8]

Hopefully, your Christmas present will be your daughter getting the help that she deserves without anyone truly getting hurt or dying.

I'm truly sorry for the situations.

[galvar2439 0]

Gods speed to you and your grandaughter, Be strong and let her sit it out, If you bail her out, there are no consequences for her actions. Good luck and be there for her but she has to own up to what has happened. I speak from personal experience with similiar family situation. IT is tough but be strong.

So i just broke up with this woman who wasn't even my girlfriend!

Hellfish #782, POPS #10664

[CSpenceFLY 1]

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Daughter gets arrested tonight for DUI, crack cocaine and child endangerment (my only grandaughter). Should I bail her out or let her sit?I'm 3000 miles away. Kid's OK tho w/ the ex

How old is she? Does she have a history of being in trouble?

That would be two of the things I would look at before helping her out.

[airdvr 210]

Give yourself a break. I know it's tough. I'm in the middle of it right now and sometimes it's really hard. I've seen some kids turn out great and some turn out bad, and it doesn't have as much to do with the parenting as you might wish it did (or didn't). I just try to be there for mine as much as possible.

Give their Mom a break too. You can't throw mud in that situation without getting some on yourself.

Hope things work out.

Please don't dent the planet.

Destinations by Roxanne