boinky 0 #1 January 5, 2008 In a different thread, I was asking about people being considered single. Leave it to Billy Vance to bring up a controversial comment. QuoteTechnically, yes. Until they marry, they're fair game! Which brings me to my current question........How long are you considered single? Are you off the market as soon as you have a S.O.? Or is it up until you say, "I Do"? And if it's the latter, is it okay for a person in a relationship, but not married, to: *Go to "Single's" get togethers alone *Bars alone *Parties alone *Dance with other people *Go do things with people of the opposite sex, but not the S.O.Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snowwhite 0 #2 January 5, 2008 Quote In a different thread, I was asking about people being considered single. Leave it to Billy Vance to bring up a controversial comment. Quote Technically, yes. Until they marry, they're fair game! Which brings me to my current question........How long are you considered single? Are you off the market as soon as you have a S.O.? Or is it up until you say, "I Do"? And if it's the latter, is it okay for a person in a relationship, but not married, to: *Go to "Single's" get togethers alone *Bars alone *Parties alone *Dance with other people *Go do things with people of the opposite sex, but not the S.O. Streaker and I have been married for almost 34 years. We each go to bars alone, parties alone, dance with other people, have meals with others. etc. Man, you young people have some really RESTRICTIVE ideas. If we didn't allow each other some flexibility, it would have been over about 34 years ago.skydiveTaylorville.org freefallbeth@yahoo.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #3 January 5, 2008 Many of those answers would depend alot on what is agreed upon within the relationship. Otherwise we would all be getting some on the side. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #4 January 5, 2008 Yeah, I'm with Snowwhite on this one. Of course you continue doing things alone even when you're in a relationship. I don't represent myself as available but I don't stop doing things by myself or with other people without my SO being around. I still interact socially with people of the opposite sex, but no, I don't date them. I'm not much into hanging out in bars in general, but I'd go to a bar by myself if the situation presented itself [case in point - I had Christmas dinner in the lounge/bar of an airport hotel by myself. Should I have ordered room service instead of being by myself in a bar since I'm in a relationship and my SO wasn't there? Seems awfully antiquated to me]. I might even talk to a man! But I wouldn't try to pick him up and if he tried to pick me up I'd make it clear that I was in a relationship - and that'd be the same now or if there were a ring. I probably wouldn't go to a "singles" event, since the point of that would seem to be to find someone to date and I'm not in the market for that... but otherwise, the rest seem to be fair game. My SO doesn't dance. So if I wanna dance, I have to find my own dance partner! "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #5 January 5, 2008 Quote *Go to "Single's" get togethers alone *Bars alone *Parties alone *Dance with other people *Go do things with people of the opposite sex, but not the S.O. Heck, I'm married now but I'll still do all those things except the Single's get togethers. Well, I probably won't go to bars alone because I've never liked to go alone and get hit on, but the others are fine. My husband doesn't skydive, so I'm always going to be going to be going to the dz and boogies without him. He likes it because then he gets to hang out with his buddies or stay at home without me giving him chores to do! She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #6 January 5, 2008 Quote In a different thread, I was asking about people being considered single. Leave it to Billy Vance to bring up a controversial comment. Quote Technically, yes. Until they marry, they're fair game! Which brings me to my current question........How long are you considered single? Are you off the market as soon as you have a S.O.? Or is it up until you say, "I Do"? And if it's the latter, is it okay for a person in a relationship, but not married, to: *Go to "Single's" get togethers alone *Bars alone *Parties alone *Dance with other people *Go do things with people of the opposite sex, but not the S.O. IMHO, I would say no to the singles get together if you have a boyfriend, people typically go to those to meet people. But I have no issues with the rest, b/c (at least speaking for myself) I can engage in those activities just for fun w/o thinking I am doing just to meet someone else. I have a boyfriend now, we are exclusive to each other, however I still refer to myself as a single mom, but tell everyone that I do have a boyfriend... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #7 January 5, 2008 It's okay if you're old fashioned but wait til you get to the 1990's theres a question about oral sex not being considered cheating that will blow your mind.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaM 0 #8 January 5, 2008 Quote Streaker and I have been married for almost 34 years. We each go to bars alone, parties alone, dance with other people, have meals with others. etc. Man, you young people have some really RESTRICTIVE ideas. If we didn't allow each other some flexibility, it would have been over about 34 years ago. Now I have only been married 6 years which pales in comparison to your 34; but I think it is whatever works for your personalities. My husband and I love the same things and we do them together. We don't hang out separately. It works well for us. We have told people in the past "it's because we LIKE each other" . It's whatever works for the couple, IMHO. ~ Lisa ~ Do you Rigminder? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #9 January 5, 2008 Well that would depend on if you are hiding those activities from your SO or are open abut themDivot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #10 January 5, 2008 Quote It's okay if you're old fashioned but wait til you get to the 1990's theres a question about oral sex not being considered cheating that will blow your mind. My ex-husband used to say that "eatin ain't cheatin and suckin ain't F***kin" I couldn't disagree more!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snowwhite 0 #11 January 5, 2008 Quote Quote Streaker and I have been married for almost 34 years. We each go to bars alone, parties alone, dance with other people, have meals with others. etc. Man, you young people have some really RESTRICTIVE ideas. If we didn't allow each other some flexibility, it would have been over about 34 years ago.[/re It works well for us. We have told people in the past "it's because we LIKE each other" . We really like each other too. I consider him to be my all time best friend. However we live over 400 miles apart. When we set up the convention, I move to Rantoul and live with 12 guys that I hang out with for a month. We are all really good buds, eat together, drink together and spend lots of quality time setting up fences, mowing grass and pitching tents. When Streaker arrives for his 10 day stay, I can hardly wait til he gets there, but then we both hang out with our buddies. It's whatever works for the couple, IMHO. Boy, isn't THAT the truth!skydiveTaylorville.org freefallbeth@yahoo.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
selbbub78 0 #12 January 5, 2008 I would consider myself single until i have an S.O. and you are exclusive with that particular person. I think there's a difference between casual dating, and being exclusively with a particular person. I'd have to say once you have talked about it, and consider your sig other to be a boyfriend/girlfriend that's when you're not single anymore... ...that's my thoughts anyway! CReW Skies, bubbles"Women fake orgasms - men fake whole relationships" – Sharon Stone "The world is my dropzone" (wise crewdog quote) "The light dims, until full darkness pierces into the world."-KDM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #13 January 5, 2008 Quote My ex-husband used to say that "eatin ain't cheatin and suckin ain't F***kin" I couldn't disagree more!!!! While I agree with you on this aspect, I think the original post is leaning way too much on interdependance. If you you can't trust you S/O why stay?My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #14 January 5, 2008 I thought about this the other night. I haven't considered myself single since I met Billy, pretty much.But, we were at my friend's wedding the other night and "all the single ladies" were gathered to catch the bouquet. I was gathered. I went. I stood in the back. Afterward, I realized had I had a moment before being yanked by the arm and rushed off to the floor with all the other "hopefuls" I would have politely declined. What the hell do I need to catch a bouquet for? I'm not single. And really it's just for the single guys to see who the eligible bachelorettes are anyways.In a related, but off-topic comment: At this time I have no desire to marry. Billy and I will be together forever--no doubt. I'm nuts about him. But (and no offense to the married couples) I feel like every day we are together it's b/c we really want to be, not b/c we agreed to be. Everything we have & do is joint. We have no real "problems" in our "marriage". We're just best friends who are attracted to one another and completely in love with each other. I told him, "Maybe when I'm 60 and you're 70 and we've been together 40 years we'll marry. And then we can brag about being newlyweds and go on a honeymoon." Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rapter 0 #15 January 5, 2008 as long as no one finds out any different Only the good die young, so I have found immortality, Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #16 January 5, 2008 Quote My SO doesn't dance. So if I wanna dance, I have to find my own dance partner! Totally.We both do things alone, but I'd be lying if I said we don't do pretty much everything together. We even get together for lunch during the week when we're working and we just saw each other that morning, and will have dinner together that night.We've been together more than 7 years. We've lived together more than 6 of those. And we're still not tired of each other's company.Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
