jasonRose 0 #26 September 20, 2005 QuoteQuoteIf the magic is there and you can feel it. Chances are he is feeling the exact same way and thinking the same thing too. I definitely think it is there....just don't know how to pursue it without messing with the friendship between him, his roomate, and me. I met the roomie first, but knew that we would only be friends. Now that the roomie is seeing someone.....do I go for it?? Very touchy situation. Hmm tough one.. I always make the chick make the first move, mostly because I am very shy when it comes to that stuff. But once I'm passed the ice breaker prepare to get woooed. Try getting your face extremly close to his and turn and look him in the eye and say hi. The kiss might be un avoidable.. Some day I will have the best staff in the world!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #27 September 20, 2005 QuoteI still believe that if a man is really interested in a woman, he will pursue No, he won't. I was the one to make the first move.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #28 September 20, 2005 I'm fat and my knees have some miles on them, so I never chase anything very far. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #29 September 20, 2005 QuoteTry something novel like asking him if he is interested. I always find that open honest conversation works well! Good point...but why do I have to do it?....isn't it the mans job to pursue the women..... Like how I put my hijacking back on topic?! *** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sinker 0 #30 September 20, 2005 QuoteQuotewhat do you think the likelihood is that it WILL negatively affect the friendships if you pursue? IMO, life is too short to live w/ regret... but will you regret not pursuing, or will you regret messing up friendships, if that's the possibility... I figured that you 'guys' had this unspoken code of 'I met her first' kinda thing...that is what I am betting on in this situation. But I could be totally wrong. To answer the question....I really don't wanna lose either of them as friends, but I think that I would regret not pursuing even more. i've never really had that code, unless I had strong feelings for the girl too, but if that other dude is already dating someone, tough! he can't have you both, can he? but it is mature of you to think of not disrupting their friendship as well as yours with them over this, but as another poster said, try just being open w/ the guy... if you think there is reciprocation from him, it would be a good way to have your perceptions validated. and who knows, a wonderful relationship could ensue. -the artist formerly known as sinker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Channman 2 #31 September 20, 2005 Chase her, heck I would trip her just to insure she's falling for me. Worked with my wife, twenty three years together, looking forward to the next 30. She still has'nt been seeing so good after that fall...heheheh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
monkycndo 0 #32 September 20, 2005 I like the old saying, "You chase a woman until she catches you." Too true.50 donations so far. Give it a try. You know you want to spank it Jump an Infinity Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MikeForsythe 0 #33 September 20, 2005 QuoteGood point...but why do I have to do it?....isn't it the mans job to pursue the women..... What are you, property? Do you stay in the kitchen and wear white like all of the appliances? What makes you think that it is anymore up to the man than the woman? I think that it is up to whoever has the feelings. And it is equal on both sides. Or the other option is keep going through life wondering.Time and pressure will always show you who a person really is! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #34 September 20, 2005 QuoteFunny you should ask! I just mailed a letter to a girl, have not seen or contacted her in 21 Years! Damn,You'll have to start a thread about that one and let us know how it goes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #35 September 20, 2005 QuoteSo what do you do if you can't tell the guy is interested. Ask Casie. She's the expert. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #36 September 20, 2005 QuoteWhat are you, property? Do you stay in the kitchen and wear white like all of the appliances? What makes you think that it is anymore up to the man than the woman? I think that it is up to whoever has the feelings. And it is equal on both sides. Or the other option is keep going through life wondering. Was just trying to put my posts back on topic I actually would love to make the first move and have in the past....but it has burned me before and now I am just too much of a chicken!!*** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #37 September 20, 2005 QuoteQuoteSo what do you do if you can't tell the guy is interested. Ask Casie. She's the expert. Yeah, what ever happened with that guy?"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #38 September 20, 2005 QuoteAsk Casie. She's the expert. Did she end up doing anything?? I never read what the result was.*** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #39 September 20, 2005 There is no result. Same story, different day. If you read this, though, Casie, I still love ya! It's just good-natured ribbing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #40 September 20, 2005 Quote met the roomie first, but knew that we would only be friends. Now that the roomie is seeing someone.....do I go for it?? Very touchy situation. Wait a minute. I dont have a Roomie. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SudsyFist 0 #41 September 20, 2005 QuoteQuoteI still believe that if a man is really interested in a woman, he will pursue No, he won't. I was the one to make the first move. *Every* time? Or just the most recent? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skychick312 0 #42 September 20, 2005 QuoteQuoteSo what do you do if you can't tell the guy is interested. Ask Casie. She's the expert. Damn Kelly!! Call a girl out why don't cha...hahaha...just playin'... Personally I like the guy to show he has interest in me 1st (make the 1st move). I have been in this situation and some friends told me to go for it. If you feel like there is something mutual then why not make the 1st move. Hell if you 2 decide to just be friends then it will be ok! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Be the change you wish to see in the world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #43 September 20, 2005 QuoteI actually would love to make the first move and have in the past....but it has burned me before and now I am just too much of a chicken!! Don't worry, he's gay, it doesn't count. As for the guy code on other women. I picked up a girl in college one night and we had nothing in common, introduced her to my roommates and she kinda clicked with one of them. He asked me if he could take her out and I said sure. I think they're still married. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #44 September 20, 2005 QuoteI still believe that if a man is really interested in a woman, he will pursue. I completely disagree. There have been many women over the years that I have been VERY interested in, However if I do not know for certian that she is also interested.. I will NOT continue to "Pursue". Chasing a Girl who does not clearly show interest is RUDE in my opinion. Cutting up and flirting is one thing (I do this with almost all my female friends) but if I am interested in something more and she does not somehow communicate to me that she is also interested, I will just avoid them. Men are just as insecure as women (more so in many cases). If you really like a guy, Make sure he knows it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #45 September 20, 2005 QuoteFunny you should ask! I just mailed a letter to a girl, have not seen or contacted her in 21 Years! Careful. My brother ended up married when he called the girl he hadn't seen in 12 years!"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonstark 8 #46 September 20, 2005 You chase until one catches you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChasingBlueSky 0 #47 September 20, 2005 QuoteI still believe that if a man is really interested in a woman, he will pursue. Nope. Did in the past - not worth it. Won't ever again. I'd rather be single then deal with that drama ever again. There isn't a woman out there worth that effort._________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #48 September 20, 2005 You sound bitter. I guess if things don't work out the first time, remember that and give up and never try again. Or, you could learn from past mistakes and move on.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
noblesmelissa 0 #49 September 20, 2005 Wow... Sorry you've been burned... But I do agree on the "no games" theory...I told my husband "I had a crush on you in high school" when we ran into each other after 6 years or so...worked pretty well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,114 #50 September 20, 2005 >If you really consider a woman worthwhile, are you gonna chase her? Nope. I think relationships should be basically equal. If one side has to pursue, cajole and overcome the resistance of the other side, the whole relationship is going to be like that - and that's no fun. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
