happythoughts 0 #1 February 20, 2008 MSN clicky I just can't make this up. Quote"My boyfriend has no ambition" Dr. Gail Saltz advises a girl on what to do about her unmotivated partner. TODAYShow.com contributor Wed., Feb. 13, 2008 Q. I love my boyfriend and have never been happier, but he has no ambition. While it's not a problem now because we are young and I am still in college, I am afraid it will be one day down the line. He has absolutely no dreams other than to live life. Are you skydivers paying attention here? Do you dreams "other than to live life". Are you just "enjoying" yourself? Happiness? Slacker-losers! QuoteI feel this is a problem because I have big dreams and when I am done with school, I am going for them. ...How do I help him believe in himself and make him see that there is more to life? QuoteA. You might not be able to. It sounds like you want your boyfriend to change but he is content with how he is. Pointing out how he could change, and the advantages of doing so, either will or won’t move him to action. So if you can’t change your man’s behavior and you can’t change your own attitude, you should take a pause and examine whether this relationship can work well for the long term. People, what can be done? The MSN "Relationship Counselor" is out of ideas. Perhaps it is appropriate, at this point, to suggest an "action intervention". We must join together and just beat this lazy bast*$%# until he sees the truth of doing what we want him to do. (For his own good.) I see no option. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #2 February 20, 2008 I dunno...personally, I couldn't see myself living with someone without ambition, either. If you're not prospering, you're perishing. Doesn't have to be about money, but damn no motivation in a person is depressing to have to be around. I'm thinking chickie-poo needs to move on. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #3 February 20, 2008 ah yes because acquisition of materials and wealth, fame and prestige is what creates happiness..anything else would be unAmerican, I say we burn the heretic!i'm sure if she amplified on her 'big dreams' they would pretty much amount to 'nice car(s), big house(s), and lots of money to leave to our(multiple) offspring' sounds like he needs to dump the material girl since he's much farther along the path to enlightenment than she ____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #4 February 20, 2008 Quote ...If you're not prospering, you're perishing. Yeah, I can see that. "Prosper" all your young life so that you can "perish" when you retire....makes sense in a screwball sort of way. I say screw the "prospering" and get right into the "perishing" bit...it's much more fun and a whole lot less worrisome. My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #5 February 20, 2008 The little lady is missing the point. He IS ambitious and he's doing a really good job! It takes guts, willpower, stamina and heart to float through life...only those tough enough can actually do it and succeed. Congrats to him!My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #6 February 20, 2008 I have a buddy who is a commercial bass guide. His wife was a veterinarian when he met her. She wanted to have a career and kids, so he is a stay-at-home dad. He does a great job at it and they are both happy. He rents boats and the kids hang out in the tackle shop. He doesn't make near what she does, but the kids are being raised by their dad, not "whoever" in daycare. Maybe the gal in the column just needs to trust the guy a little. If she really does love him, then, she has probably found something about him that is more valuable than his credit card. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #7 February 20, 2008 Quote I dunno...personally, I couldn't see myself living with someone without ambition, either. If you're not prospering, you're perishing. Doesn't have to be about money, but damn no motivation in a person is depressing to have to be around. I'm thinking chickie-poo needs to move on. Shit i have little to no ambition, never have had, BUT MY LIFE ROCKS[/PURPLE] I have EVERYTHING I need and a hell of a lot of my wants. Geez IF i did have some ambition maybe I could amount to something My school report cards ALWAYS said Squeak could do amazing (great) things if he applied himselfI got "A's" all my life without any effort at all, Just imagine where i could be if I had ambition, i could be working a 50-60 hour week with 4 weeks paid leave per year. Running a big company and having to take Blood presure medication That would be so much better than my current 36 hour week and 12 weeks paid leave per yearYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #8 February 20, 2008 Quote I got "A's" all my life without any effort at all, Just imagine where i could be if I had ambition, i could be working a 50-60 hour week with 4 weeks paid leave per year. Running a big company and having to take Blood presure medication That would be so much better than my current 36 hour week and 12 weeks paid leave per year Ding, ding, ding... we have a winner... now I have to go stress about and write my own annual performance report... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #9 February 20, 2008 It takes guts, willpower, stamina and heart to float through life...only those tough enough can actually do it and succeed. Quote Amen My Brother ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
grannyinthesky 0 #10 February 20, 2008 Quote"Prosper" all your young life so that you can "perish" when you retire....makes sense in a screwball sort of way. I say screw the "prospering" and get right into the "perishing" bit...it's much more fun and a whole lot less worrisome. My brother scrimped and saved all his short life. He was just talking about starting to do the things he dreamed about when he died from cancer at 51. Material things don't count for much if you don't live life along the way. That has a lot to do with why, after that first tandem, that I decided to continue skydiving."safety first... and What the hell..... safety second, Too!!! " ~~jmy POPS #10490 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Royd 0 #11 February 20, 2008 The little lady is missing the point. Quote He IS ambitious and he's doing a really good job! It takes guts, willpower, stamina and heart to float through life...only those tough enough can actually do it and succeed. Congrats to him! Homelessness is a finely honed art. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
