banesanura 1 #1 May 28, 2008 Does any one still do this? I remember growing up my parents would tell me that I shouldn't 'do the nasty' until I was ready to get married. Parents of dz.com- Do any of you tell your kids of this? Or just tell them to be safe? If you tell your children to be safe- and they ask whats a good # of people in a life time do you give them a figure? What do swinger parents advise their children?Best Girl Scout Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamajumps 0 #2 May 28, 2008 I do, and when my daughter is old enough to appreciate it and understand it she will get a purity ring (ring that sorta looks like a wedding ring, and is worn on the same finger). I wish someone would have taken the time to talk to me about this, but I was a nusance to my parents . I have told me daughter for the past year or so that "True Love Waits". My boys are much younger than she is, but when they are old enough to understand, they too will be talked to about this. Im sure I will get flammed for this, because Lord knows Im not an angel, but I do try to raise my kids in church with values and self-respect. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #3 May 28, 2008 good Lord...the discussion we could have TODAY!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #4 May 28, 2008 I will encourage my son to wait as long as possible before having sex. I don't need a teenage boy running around fucking all sorts of chicks, knocking one up, and ruining his life. There's the whole STD thing, too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #5 May 28, 2008 Quote I do, and when my daughter is old enough to appreciate it and understand it she will get a purity ring (ring that sorta looks like a wedding ring, and is worn on the same finger). I wish someone would have taken the time to talk to me about this, but I was a nusance to my parents . I have told me daughter for the past year or so that "True Love Waits". My boys are much younger than she is, but when they are old enough to understand, they too will be talked to about this. Im sure I will get flammed for this, because Lord knows Im not an angel, but I do try to raise my kids in church with values and self-respect. Good for you. I think that’s a great idea not for religious reasons but just to value your self and the act of being intimate.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brenthutch 444 #6 May 28, 2008 My wife waited until she met me, she was 22 I was 35 we have been together sense then and we got married a year and a half ago. It does happen just not often. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #7 May 28, 2008 I told my kids that I would be VERY happy if they waited until marriage, but that decision is ultimately up to them - it's not like I could have kept them in durance vile, obviously. It's definitely a rarity these days, with casual sex being portrayed as an "everybody does it" thing in movies, music videos, etc...Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #8 May 28, 2008 Try posting your question here: http://www.slashdot.org/ "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
banesanura 1 #9 May 28, 2008 I am curious as to the response would be..... With all the boobies, name that (body part), MILF's and DILF's- flashing the pilot for "extra altitude"- naked skydive pictures- messing around at boogies- etc on this website- I always wondered what those of you told your kids. Me? I don't have any kids- so I am trying to figure out where I stand with this question.Best Girl Scout Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #10 May 28, 2008 Out of total curiosity, and I completely understand if you don't want to answer, but do you lead on this one by example, or is more of a 'do what I say, not as I do' kind of thing? How many of those parents who advocate waiting actually waited themselves? We're going to be adopting in the near future, and the kids will be older (9+), so I'm making mental notes for them, this isn't just nosiness Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
banesanura 1 #11 May 28, 2008 That's EXACTLY my dillema- My mom got prego at 15- and she wants me to wait. How do you justify an answer like that?Best Girl Scout Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MrFreefall383 0 #12 May 28, 2008 Been waiting for the right one. It started by accident, I had some ugly relationship history in my high school and college years, and now it's by choice. I don't date now because I figure the right one will find me, so why go looking for trouble? That said, I'm going to reinforce the same of my kids when I eventually have some."If at first you don't succeed... well, so much for skydiving." - aviation cliche Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NWFlyer 2 #13 May 28, 2008 I don't think that how you advise your children to think about sex has to necessarily be related to a concept like "saving yourself" for marriage. I think you can educate your kids about the fact that becoming sexually active adds a level of emotional complexity to a relationship (casual or not) that many people aren't prepared to handle at a young age. Teaching kids to respect themselves and their sexuality doesn't necessarily have to mean saying "wait till you're married." It does, I think, mean, "wait till you're ready to deal with the realities of being a sexually active human being." Kids being kids, they'll probably think they're ready before they are, but if they're brought up with an open, honest relationship with their parents, hopefully the parents will be around to help them through the rough times if it's not exactly what they expect it to be. I'm not just talking about the tangible stuff like pregnancy and STDs, but also the less tangible stuff like how early sexualization changes how kids (especially girls) think about themselves and how they value (or devalue) themselves. There can be a heck of a lot wrapped up in it, and few teenagers are mature enough to take it all in stride. It's all part of growing up, but I'm sure glad I waited till I was 19 - and even then it was a hell of a confusing mess for a few years. "There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences." -P.J. O'Rourke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpin_Jan 1 #14 May 28, 2008 QuoteThat's EXACTLY my dillema- My mom got prego at 15- and she wants me to wait. How do you justify an answer like that? Full disclosure: I'm not now nor have I ever been married. I do not have any children I would guess that your mom is providing you with an OPPORTUNITY to learn from her experience and avoid the same situation yourself. If she thought it was a good idea she would advocate the same for you IMneverHO PULL! jumpin_Jan"Dangerous toys are fun but ya could get hurt" -- Vash The Stampede Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yamtx73 0 #15 May 28, 2008 QuoteThat's EXACTLY my dillema- My mom got prego at 15- and she wants me to wait. How do you justify an answer like that? How about with the time honored "don't mess your life up like I did"....The only naturals in this sport shit thru feathers... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #16 May 28, 2008 I discussed this a little with my stepson (BOY!!! was that an.... interesting conversation). I didn't pretend to be so foolish to assume that he wasn't already or hadn't already been involved. I didn't even want to ask or imply that he should be a virgin. We just talked about RELATIONSHIPS. Discussed respect for the women that he dates. I mentioned sexually transmitted disease prevention... but he didn't want to talk about THAT!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Broke 0 #17 May 28, 2008 I bet you can bring home some really good visual aidsDivot your source for all things Hillbilly. Anvil Brother 84 SCR 14192 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #18 May 28, 2008 QuoteI do, and when my daughter is old enough to appreciate it and understand it she will get a purity ring (ring that sorta looks like a wedding ring, and is worn on the same finger). My friend's daughter has one of those. They're Southern Baptist and are involved in their church. She just took it off before she had sex at 16. Save your money.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #19 May 28, 2008 Quote Out of total curiosity, and I completely understand if you don't want to answer, but do you lead on this one by example, or is more of a 'do what I say, not as I do' kind of thing? How many of those parents who advocate waiting actually waited themselves? Had a buddy in high school who had a pair of those hard-nosed bible-toting parents. One day he was thinking about the anniversaries and birthdays of everyone on the family, and it suddenly struck him: Oldest sister was born too soon. Boy was Mom embarrassed!So much so, she wouldn't even discuss it."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyD 0 #20 May 28, 2008 QuoteQuoteThat's EXACTLY my dillema- My mom got prego at 15- and she wants me to wait. How do you justify an answer like that? How about with the time honored "don't mess your life up like I did".... Probably not the greatest idea to tell your kid they messed up your life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #21 May 28, 2008 Quote Quote I do, and when my daughter is old enough to appreciate it and understand it she will get a purity ring (ring that sorta looks like a wedding ring, and is worn on the same finger). My friend's daughter has one of those. They're Southern Baptist and are involved in their church. She just took it off before she had sex at 16. Save your money. Why did she take it off?? Did she think the dude was too wholesome to bang a chick with a purity/wedding ring on?? "No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #22 May 28, 2008 Quote Why did she take it off?? Did she think the dude was too wholesome to bang a chick with a purity/wedding ring on?? I would think it would be hot to seduce a chick while she was wearing a purity ring."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #23 May 28, 2008 Quote Quote Why did she take it off?? Did she think the dude was too wholesome to bang a chick with a purity/wedding ring on?? I would think it would be hot to seduce a chick while she was wearing a purity ring. NO SHIT!!!!! "No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #24 May 28, 2008 Quote I bet you can bring home some really good visual aids With some of the pictures?! I coulda scared the boy away from sex for a LONG LONG time.... but I didn't. I used my powers for good. - but he did almost piss me off enough with the whole slut thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #25 May 28, 2008 I wasn't able to save myself for marriage, but I am saving myself for divorce. "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
