Finding the words to say...

[banesanura 1]

I was jumping this weekend, and despite the blitzkreig manner in which I have come to the dropzone.com, I tend to be quiet around the DZ and in general public.

I am asking all of you for some advice.

How do you approach some one? When ever I go to a club/bar- I am quite the conversationalist- but it tends to be because I had a few drinks to ease "edge" off. I always leave clubs with a new friend- however when I am sober- only time I can have conversation if some one else initiates it.

I can't seem to approach a stranger and just start talking- I start thinking to much about what to say...and if I am imposing on time/current circumstance/emotions...etc.

I am asking for help on how to strike a conversation without the intent of having sex or have a sexual stigma placed. Just stimulating conversation and fun activities to share.

Men and Women alike- How would you want to be approached?

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[chuckakers 426]

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I can't seem to approach a stranger and just start talking- I start thinking to much about what to say...and if I am imposing on time/current circumstance/emotions...etc.


Men and Women alike- How would you want to be approached?

Volunteer to be a packing weight. Who could resist?

[banesanura 1]

That's a good idea for IN The dropzone- hahahahaha

- what about outside of it?

Thats majority of where I struggle- at the DZ everyone around has a common interest- skydiving- so its a bit easier to strike up a conversation.


I was almost crying at my desk when I read your reply! hahahaha.

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[aresye 0]

Funny, I used to be really bad at keeping a conversation going, but now I've somehow done a 180, and now I have trouble starting conversation in the first place.

Personally, my favorite way to be approached is either somebody asking what I'm doing, or kind of going along with what I'm doing.

Skydiving: You either learn from other's mistakes, or they'll learn from yours.

[RALFFERS 0]

This may or may not help you - I'm very simplistic when it comes to human interaction...to be blunt - I don't care what happens; I just approach random people and start a conversation. This can be done very easily in and of itself - either ask a question or give them a compliment (however, if it's the latter just make sure it's genuine ) Whatever your intensions are in a given situation, just don't look for any particular result and you wont be disappointed. Look at it this way....most people will like you, some wont...so what?!... Just go out and be "you."

Oh, and the reason it's easier after drinking is because alcohol is a anti-inhibitor; everyone has inhibitors and they stop you from doing things you're naturally not comfortable with, for whatever reason.

Hope that makes sense.....maybe it'll even help.

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"from your first Oshkosh when the three of us were riding to or from one of

[banesanura 1]

I've studied human behavior A LOT and I love humans- the problem is as of the past 2 years interaction majority of my interaction with the male/female species (outside of my friends/family) has been for humilation/manipulation fetishes.

Majority of why I tend to stay quiet is because I don't want to disturb people in their natural state. Once I start asking questions- I just study them- and I find that terribly unfair to the subject.

My major problem is just being able to relax- deep breath- and just going with the flow....

Now the intent and motivation of the bdsm study was to figure out WHY these people do it- (I ultimately lost my grip of the vanilla world) and I have to "refresh" myself when it comes to going back into the normal realm of society. Though I haven't fully removed myself from the "lifestyle" I certainly cut down from the # of clients I have. It becomes more of a burden than a blessing- plus its not really what most people thing it is- its more of psychology and a release for the fetisist.

I just need a breath of fresh air-

Maybe I will pick up bowling

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[RALFFERS 0]

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Maybe I will pick up bowling [Tongue]

BLASPHEMY!!!

Dialogue/commentary between Divot, Twardo & myself -

"from your first Oshkosh when the three of us were riding to or from one of

[ryoder 1,590]

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Maybe I will pick up bowling

You are welcome to come along with Walter and myself.
We've been needing a replacement for Donnie.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[banesanura 1]

I used to bowl in high school.


I have the pictures to prove it hahahahahah

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[Nightingale 0]

Start with "Hello." and go from there. If you feel really awkward, carry a loaded pez dispenser and start with "Hey! Want a pez?" Humans tend to bond over food.

[banesanura 1]

Actually that is a great idea- it seems that generally any food around the dz is what has to be made (generally grilled food or frozen food) or mcdonalds/burger king.

Maybe I should bring dinner....yummmmm

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[mnealtx 0]

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or mcdonalds

Crackburgers!!!!!!

Mike
I love you, Shannon and Jim.
POPS 9708 , SCR 14706

[lawrocket 3]

Here's how I normally would start a conversation with a stranger.

"Hi, my name is Jerry."

Really - that's always the best place to start. Say "hi" and introduce yourself.

Also, if you are interestd in "without the intent of having sex or have a sexual stigma placed" then try someplace other than a bar or club. Some great places to meet people for conversation is a library, a coffee shop, a bus stop, etc.

Choose your locale properly and you can have great conversation.

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[banesanura 1]

Nothing like coming to the DZ dressed like the
ham-burgler stuffing every one with burgers.

Omg- that would get a bit of interesting conversation.

But then again- the pilot will hate me at the end of the day- those burgers tend to turn quite a few stomachs.....

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[Remster 30]

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"Hi, my name is Jerry."

Daisy: You may find that people look at you funny if you say your name is Jerry.

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[banesanura 1]

They did- I tried it on the elevator the guy didn't say a word!

Then he ran out!


So much for that.

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[mnealtx 0]

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Nothing like coming to the DZ dressed like the
ham-burgler stuffing every one with burgers.

Omg- that would get a bit of interesting conversation.

But then again- the pilot will hate me at the end of the day- those burgers tend to turn quite a few stomachs.....

I think you just figured out your costume for the Halloween party at the dz, nicht wahr?

Mike
I love you, Shannon and Jim.
POPS 9708 , SCR 14706

[tigra 0]

OK, seriously, a really good place to start would be to not think of or treat other people like they are a completely foreign species that you are studying. Its kind of hard to bond with a lab rat, isn't it?

[woady 0]

You don't have any problem meeting new people, but here's the most over looked advice I could think of and this should help.

People LOVE talking about themselves. Whether its an old friend or complete stranger they always have themselves to talk about. We have twice as many ears as we do mouths so we should listen twice as much as we talk. Its how we relate one thing to another. The key to starting any conversation with anyone is talking about them. Ask them a question, introduce yourself give a 5 second summation of yourself and keep talking about them.

For instance, "Hey, what kind of canopy do you fly?"
*Person's response (blah blah blah)
"Sweet, man, (continue talking about whatever) or btw, I'm Patrick, I'm here working on my level A cert." Their response should open you up to a dozen other questions you could ask them. This really works with women. Men, at least me and the guys I work with, don't feel like we always gotta talk all the time so if a guy doesn't keep a conversation a half hour or more don't take it personally.

Trick is to not give a flying f*ck. Be happy by yourself, doing your own thing, and the rest falls into place.

You know what's similar between Cops and Firefighters? They both wanna be firefighters.

[woady 0]

To add, buying people a beer or their meal REALLY works wonders. People really think that's awesome. I always bring beer and/or water when I go to the DZ. I buy lunch at work every so often and the guys really appreciate it.

You know what's similar between Cops and Firefighters? They both wanna be firefighters.

[airtwardo 7]

Really - that's always the best place to start. Say "hi" and introduce yourself.

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~then show a body part and say...

"Ever seen one of these~~~~~ever seen one DO THIS?"

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[banesanura 1]

yeah- that's my thing- I've been trying to separate the two.

I've met quite a few people where I interacted with them here and then met at the dz (by accident) but its easier because then we already have a rapport.

Its kinda ironic to be writing/studying so much about human behavior (majority of the study on deviance) and being so involved you actually lose sense of yourself!

Best Girl Scout Ever.

[banesanura 1]

Patrick- Hows the jumping at the farm going along?


I actually have a picture of you sandy and jack in my cube along with bolas in his wedding get up.

Keeps me motivated at work

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[rynodigsmusic 0]

I am asking for help on how to strike a conversation without the intent of having sex or have a sexual stigma placed. Just stimulating conversation and fun activities to share.

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Be interested in them, the conversation will flow from there.

"We didn't start the fire"

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[ryoder 1,590]

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They did- I tried it on the elevator the guy didn't say a word!

Then he ran out!

So much for that.

Obviously gay.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.