Squeak 17 #26 June 30, 2008 Quote Quote Co-worker 1) "WOW looks like it must have just been his time." Gia) It's so sad Co-worker 2) "HA, another good example of thinning of the herd." OMFG - I so wanted to bitch slap this dude. I took a deep breath and walked to the back of the office to make some tea. I can't even imagine someone saying something like that - it's so heartless, insensitive, and callous. g Granted not everyone knows how to deal with death, that comment about "his time" was just plain stupid and insensitive...[pirate It's only insensitive if the guy knew that Shindig was a friend of Gias. Otherwise it's not at all an uncommon type of comment. You will see comments like that all the time on here.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybill 22 #27 July 1, 2008 Hi Guppie, 'Ya coulda' bet yer' reserve rip cord that some whuff at the office was going to say sumthin' like that. It never fails and I've had the same gig at the shop many times, some even when there wasn't an incident. They go on about how "Dangerous" skydiving is and that our death is inevetable...blah....blah... etc..and how long have you been jumping?? "44 years." (or however many at the time) ..........I say.......and they just stand there and work their jaw but don't know how to answer.SCR-2034, SCS-680 III%, Deli-out Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheAnvil 0 #28 July 1, 2008 That guy's an insensitive bastard of the lowest order. What a fucktard. Congrats on keeping your cool. Vinny the Anvil Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL JACKASS POWER!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
denete 3 #29 July 1, 2008 QuoteGood job keeping the temper in check. In similar situations, I find that a simple stare for an uncomfortable length of time and then turning and walking away does more than the slap may have. Or try this phrase "Better to remain silent and be thought an idiot, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." I'll have to agree. Having a temper-fueled response does no good, except to give you a moment of catharsis. Now that some time has passed, if it is still bothering you, I would suggest just telling the guy the truth. Remember, I don't know you or him. I don't know your working relationship. I don't know your work environment. I do, however, know how things like this can get stored away and turn people into three-headed monsters down the road. "Do you remember what you said about my dead friend and thinning the herd? Can you remind me of the comment that you made so that I don't misquote you? Okay, thanks for reminding me. That's how I remember it also. Do you think that was an appropriate comment to make to me? I'm going to go ahead and type it out to make sure that I don't forget what you said. I'll also include what you've just said about how you do/don't feel that this was appropriate, but you decided to say it anyhow. Would you mind signing it just to verify that this is how you chose to communicate with me regarding the tragic death of someone that I knew." Usually, people will start to backpedal and apologize around the time that they have to verbally repeat the phrase. For apologies, my response is usually something like this. "You don't have to be sorry. It's no problem. It just tells me more about the kind of person you are and you can't change that, so it's cool." I usually do all of this in the calmest possible manner. It either evokes some serious soul-searching for the other person, or sends them into a rage. Either way, things change for the better...for me. Your mileage may vary.SCR #14809 "our attitude is the thing most capable of keeping us safe" (look, grab, look, grab, peel, punch, punch, arch) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pylades 0 #30 July 1, 2008 there is something to be said about the satisfaction of the moment of catharsis.This is no dress rehearsal, we are professionals & this is the big time... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TypicalFish 0 #31 July 1, 2008 GIIIIIIIIIIAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!"I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #32 July 1, 2008 QuoteGIIIIIIIIIIAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!! HOWDY Matt! g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
