skydiverbry 0 #1 July 29, 2008 When it comes to relationships(boy,girlfriend,husband,wife,etc...) How do you define forgivness;what is forgivable,what is not?-------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PeteW 0 #2 July 29, 2008 Most things are forgivable. Cheating isnt. I dont care how much it wood hurt or how long we have been together. That would be a deal breaker for me. I told my SO that pretty quick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #3 July 29, 2008 QuoteWhen it comes to relationships(boy,girlfriend,husband,wife,etc...) How do you define forgivness;what is forgivable,what is not? I think most things are forgivable. Can't define it. It just comes naturally.Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Orchid 0 #4 July 29, 2008 Forgiveness: many different things....many different ways....many different situations... Forgiveness works! It is often difficult! Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. You do not have to forgive AND there are consequences. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable. The greatest misconception about forgiveness is the belief that forgiving the offense, such as an affair, means that you condone it. Not true. In fact, we can only forgive what we know to be wrong, it does not mean that you have to reconcile with someone who badly treated you. Forgiveness is the key to your own happiness. "Love is doing small things with great love." Lacrosse: Legally beating men with sticks since 1492 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #5 July 29, 2008 Agreed and well said!www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
iamsam 0 #6 July 29, 2008 Quote Forgiveness: many different things....many different ways....many different situations... Forgiveness works! It is often difficult! Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. You do not have to forgive AND there are consequences. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable. The greatest misconception about forgiveness is the belief that forgiving the offense, such as an affair, means that you condone it. Not true. In fact, we can only forgive what we know to be wrong, it does not mean that you have to reconcile with someone who badly treated you. Forgiveness is the key to your own happiness. a most excellent post Lock this thread that's all that needs to be said, people take note of the words in red.but what do I know Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BIGUN 1,483 #7 July 29, 2008 Well, it depends on how well they explain their absence for a year. I thought we had a relationship, man. I thought you loved me. You just leave, don't write, don't call. Was I supposed to sit around waiting on you? Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #8 July 29, 2008 True forgivness is unconditional as is true love. I also believe that it can still be difficult, but it takes time to process your feelings. When you betray by adultry, it is the one basis in the bible given for a divorce. However, in the past, my hubby and I hurt each other that way. It had alot to do with the drugs we were doing. We quit all of that, forgave each other, and we do not bring that past shit up anymore and throw it in each others faces ever. We are still happily married to this day and fully trust each other, and we are coming up on our 11th year of clean. Some people cant do it, the violation is larger than the love. But there are some people who can. Is Jesus going to have to think about it for a while when my time comes? True forgivness is unconditional.-Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #9 July 29, 2008 I think it’s different for everyone. You mentioned relationships. I thinks lies are unforgivable. I am not going to fool my self that I have an honest relationship when someone has lied. I deserve someone who will be honest and loyal if they are not then to the relationship is dead. When I have been lied to or manipulated in the past that person simply is dead to me. I don’t waist anger or any emotion on them. I also wouldn’t piss on them to put a fire out. They simply become a mistake. I have seen people with great honest relationships why would anyone not think they deserve the same?I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #10 July 29, 2008 agreed Orchid! very well said indeed!-caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
millertime24 8 #11 July 29, 2008 This thread reminds me of the song "Im NOT Jesus" by Apocalyptica. Muff #5048 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbry 0 #12 July 31, 2008 All,very well said and I agree. Dilemma. what if a person is believed to have cheated.Most,if not all the evidence could support it. There where lies in the past,none for along time. It's like you hear of people going to prison,all the while maintaining innocence,and they are,in fact innocent. Does that person take forgiveness for cheating on the other? They did not in fact do it,or what?-------------------------------------------------- Growing old is mandatory.Growing up is optional!! D.S.#13(Dudeist Skdiver) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
