Guru312 0 #76 August 16, 2008 Quote....well which is it...yes or no, discuss your dating style and why? Given my age, I should be reading and posting in SH&T but this subject is a favorite of mine. Putting any kind of "requirement"--such as number of dates, weeks known or any other criteria--on such an issue is, to me, laughable. One woman I met, and with whom I had massive mutual attraction--said to me, "I never have sex on the first date!" To which I responded, "Do you have sex on the last date?" Our mutual attraction was highly intellectual as well as physical. She pondered my question, seemed to recognize an intellectual disconnect, looked at me with a big grin, and said, "OK, smart ass" and began smothering me with kisses. We had sex on the first date and every date there after for a number of years. I'll never for get...ah, ah, what was her name? Damn, proper names are the first thing to go.Guru312 I am not DB Cooper Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #77 August 16, 2008 Quote You should wait to find out if you are attracted to the person intellectually, then take it a step further. Knock, knock.. turtle.. are you in there? Is that really you? Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #78 August 16, 2008 Quote Quote You should wait to find out if you are attracted to the person intellectually, then take it a step further. Knock, knock.. turtle.. are you in there? Is that really you? Yes, I just forgot to put the "Also" after intellectually . . .I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #79 August 16, 2008 Quote I'm married to a sex on the first date. I knew a couple who were married 3 days after they first met. (I assume there was first-date sex.) A co-worker recently told me the story of being at a bar with a close buddy, when a chick across the bar started giving his buddy the eye. The two started drinking and dancing together, got in his car to leave...and didn't even make it out of the parking lot before the flames erupted. Last he knew they were still married 14 years later."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
countzero 7 #80 August 16, 2008 no, i like to play hard to get.diamonds are a dawgs best friend Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #81 August 16, 2008 Quote Quote Quote Hmm - so far all my relationships have been long distance! (Except the present one - but it _started_ long distance.) Quote My long distance relationship so far has been wonderful and perfect and special.. and.. and.. What's the distance? I'm in Cali, he's in Florida. Walt moved to Florida ? "No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MikeForsythe 0 #82 August 16, 2008 Quote Walt moved to Florida ? Don't know, but MY name is Mike!!!Time and pressure will always show you who a person really is! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #83 August 16, 2008 I have friends about to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary- very similar story. I was there on the night they met, and briefly considered stepping in and not letting my drunk friend go home with some guy she just met but ........................... Guess its a good thing I just let it be ............. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #84 August 16, 2008 Quote Quote Walt moved to Florida ? Don't know, but MY name is Mike!!! So what did you do with Walt?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #85 August 16, 2008 Quote ....well which is it...yes or no, discuss your dating style and why? Yes, inquiring minds want to know.... Definitely no sex on the 1st date. Good things come to those who wait. Very good things!!!I haven't seen anyone mention anything about pre-fuckfest STD testing! Condoms are mandatory, but you know, there's some other scary shit out there. I'm about 6 months out of a 1 1/2 year relationship and made him wait 9 dates (over a few weeks or so). Maybe I subconsciously knew that it wouldn't work out in the end and I didn't want to get "dickmatized" (meaning: blinded/hyhpnotized by the dick) and lose focus on getting to know him. Now that I'm almost ready to date again (waiting until I get all of my AFP levels done), I have to start thinking about this shit again! Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #86 August 16, 2008 I'll don't get that waiting period for dating after a relationship ends. Dating is just going out, having fun, being social, and enjoying someone else's company. Maybe I'm just a guy and am emotionally resilient but I'll never understand what makes a person "not ready to date."www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #87 August 16, 2008 Quote I'll don't get that waiting period for dating after a relationship ends. Dating is just going out, having fun, being social, and enjoying someone else's company. Maybe I'm just a guy and am emotionally resilient but I'll never understand what makes a person "not ready to date." For me, I like to enjoy time by myself for a while after having someone pretty much surgically implanted up my ass for the last year and a half (that's why I ended it - he was smothering me, I didn't want to get married to him and I wasn't crazy about his kids.). I like time alone with my friends, the bed to myself, no one else messing up my house, etc. Alone time for me is very therapeutic! I think that's the first time I've actually held off from dating. Well, that and the fact that I haven't been asked out!!! Plus, if I hadn't taken the "me" time I was so desperately craving I would've put off skydiving for the hundreth time. But that's just me. LOL.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaH 0 #88 August 16, 2008 Depends on what type of "date" it is. If it's a 'let's just have fun' date, sure... why not? If it's a 'will/can/do I want, this go further' date, maybe not.Be yourself! MooOOooOoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darktreader 0 #89 August 16, 2008 I totally agree it is laughable when I hear restrictions put on sex with dates... Personally I think sex is one of the best tell-tell signs to use when dating someone. After all first dates are interviews! I have dated people before only to break it off right after the sex...due to not being what I was looking for, only to get the comment "thats all you wanted huh?" news flash for you ladies out there that have said that....usally its not "all" we wanted, but more likely Not we what we wanted. Becuase you can find out alot of information about someone thru sex. Peoples sexaully compatibilitys are very very different. I can tell after having sex one time with a girl about how sexaully active she has been, what turns her on and off, how apt she is towards giving and recieving, how corrupted she is or is not, I can go on and on. we all know some sexual partners are shaped just right for you or move just the right way naturally that works just right for you. Heres is my point why wait and invest time, money, and energy exposing yourself, learning someone else, and starting a foundation for commitment and finally you decide to have sex and all of these things dont click then you have set yourself up for disappointment, sure you can learn each other in bed and communicate and "somtimes" you can teach each other to do what works for you. But most often its just a compatibility issue that is most often only spoken about after things are over. No-one wants to hear your not doing it the way I like it or your to loose or you smell bad or your too small or too large."Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #90 August 17, 2008 I think you have a new pickup line: Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #91 August 17, 2008 I just go on a date to have fun and see where we'll end up, so to speak. Quote tigra Are you less likely to pursue a relationship with a woman who "puts out" on the first date? Are there some women men just have sex with and others they "date" and get involved with? That's the sterotype isn't it? Or the more stereotypical reason a woman would wait or hold out until after the magical 3rd date? I don't know.. if she's not ready (or I for that matter) I am willing to wait until we both are. If there's merely a number that needs to be fulfilled, be it three months or three dates I think she and I might not be each other's type after all. Quote Dough I found that often girls will get strange after sex on the first date, even if it is an awesome date and a lot of good sex. I don't know why but it is 9/10 a disaster afterwards. But waiting just one more date doesn't end up like that? "Good" for both of you? Maybe you're just horrible in bed... Quote darktreader why wait... Because like you yourself noted all that invested time, money, and energy exposing yourself, learning someone else, and starting a foundation for commitment is the basis for good (or even better) sex? Knowing each other well enough means that you're comfortable enough to deal with any of those compatibility issues. I'm not doing it right for you? Then talk to me, or I'll think I am. My ego can take it. After all, we know each other well enough. "That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darktreader 0 #92 August 17, 2008 I like it.....has a nice ring too it think i may try that one next time"Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tbrown 26 #93 August 18, 2008 It's been 28 years, but yeah, I've done it and liked it. So did she. I don't think we even had another date, so I'm just as glad we did. And just for the record, she dumped me, so I wasn't a thoughtless cad. Met my wife-to-be a few weeks later anyway, so it was all good. Your humble servant.....Professor Gravity ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
johnski 0 #94 August 18, 2008 If ya don't shag em on the 1st, there is no 2nd To easy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cloudseeker2001 0 #95 August 18, 2008 Quote Quote I'm married to a sex on the first date. I knew a couple who were married 3 days after they first met. (I assume there was first-date sex.) A co-worker recently told me the story of being at a bar with a close buddy, when a chick across the bar started giving his buddy the eye. The two started drinking and dancing together, got in his car to leave...and didn't even make it out of the parking lot before the flames erupted. Last he knew they were still married 14 years later. HAHAHAHA!!!! I was out with a friend one night and same thing happend to him. This smoking hot girl jumped all over him. They left and went back to his place. He called me the next day with ALL the details. Almost exactly 1 year later she shows up with a double stroller surprise-twins! He did not even remember her name when he opened the door! "Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance, others mean and rueful of the western dream" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Redline165 0 #96 August 18, 2008 It depends usually on whats going down and what im lookin to get out of the night. Usually i dont press to hard but ill usually let her to the trackin :) i just play along nicely. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #97 August 18, 2008 I did it once. And once was enough. We both were young and stupid. It wasn't even a date to begin with. I met up with an old high school friend for the first time in years. He was a shitbag then, but I thought I'd see if he'd changed since and have a good time. So he, his girlfriend and her best friend and I went to the bar to shoot pool. Well, he gets into an argument with some bar patron and nearly gets into a brawl, their left hands around the other's throat and their right hands cocked. Manager asked us all to leave even though he was the only one being stupid. The two girls refused to leave with him, so he peeled rubber out of there mad. Feeling bad for the girls, I took them for a ride around town just to try and forget that episode. Three hours later I drop them off at their apartment, only to find shitbag hiding behind the bushes. He jumped out and put a knife to his girlfriend's neck and threatened to cut her. We just stood there frozen in shock. She broke free and ran up to her apartment and tried to lock the door but he got there before she could. We heard her screaming, then she ran outside after 5 seconds, a fresh shiner on her eye. The apartment manager came out and stopped shitbag in his tracks and threatened to call the police. He peeled rubber outta there too. So, I take the girls to their friend's place to stay the night, and the unattached girl invites me to stay with her as shaken as she was. 17 years later and I'm still shaking my head at the entire evening. She was a good fuck, but zero common sense in the head, not that I had much myself then either. The one good thing is I never saw shitbag again. So... yes, I had sex with a girl just a few short hours after I met her for the first time, no it wasn't a real date. And no, I wouldn't do it again, date or not. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #98 August 18, 2008 Quote Quote hmm I prefer to wait. I did have a rule of at least 3 dates before having sex, I tried to stick to it, but there was a time when things just sort of happened. The 3 dates thing.....AGREED! "...but when things just sort of happended" Yes, I know what you mean....that sort of energy is just dangerous! You girls have three dates thing backwards...it's a maximum, not a minimum! Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #99 August 18, 2008 QuoteI did it once....... blah blah blah...... old high school friend...prattle prattle......He was a shitbag then......ramble ramble..........something about hands and cocks...on and on and so forth.....back to his trailer.....yada yada....he pitches, billy catches-end of story edited for brevity and accuracyYou are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #100 August 18, 2008 I don't get all these silly rules. Either it works out or it doesn't work out. I wouldn't stop dating a woman because we didn't have sex. I would stop dating a woman if she told me she had rules associated with sex and dating. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
