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With the "post the reputation" and some of the other thread/comments that I've seen, I was just wondering what people think about who they are and the converse of whom others think you are.

Does it truly matter if someone thinks you're selfish and uncaring? Or do you really care if you are perceived as weak and a victim? If someone calls you a Republican/Democrat and you're not... Or if they call you shallow for discussing your feelings?

How important is the internet becoming? Has the answer changed in the last 5-10 years? What might the answer be in another 5-10 years?

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Have a guess what i think of others opinions of me:ph34r:

If i respect you, your opinion matters to me, if I dont, your opinion does not mean squat to me.
There are a couple of people on here I respect. but not many:ph34r:

You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

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Many years later, the only thing I can tell you is that of all the people I've met online first, only one was the same in real life as he presented himself to be online. He's a moderator here.

It's seductive. People start to think it matters, and then you get:

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and this:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v715/rayskwire/Random/Too_Much_Computer.gif

Your friends are the people you spend real time with, not the people with whom you exchange repartee on a web board. That doesn't mean that real relationships don't form as a result, but basing your opinion of someone on their words in a one-dimensional medium is absurd. Just because someone seems smart and expresses himself well doesn't mean he is a going to be a good person to have in your life; the converse is also true--one's ability to communicate with the written word is not indicative of one's character.

I can't tell you how many times I've seen someone get locked into a position he didn't really hold because of the perceived need to support a friend, because he didn't like the person he was arguing with, or because he just felt like trolling a little, and it got out of hand. What does the result of that tell you about someone? That he's a total asshole? Or is it just that he's loyal to his friends, has a hot temper or likes to have a little fun pulling one over on someone else? How can you tell?
If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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I woke up in a Soho doorway
A policeman knew my name

He said you can go sleep at home tonight if you you can get up and walk away:)
You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky)
My Life ROCKS!
How's yours doing?

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It's effect is the same as any other information distribution tool. The only difference is that it is a two-way street.

Think of the impact of television on our perceptions or expectations about life?
Was real life supposed to be like Leave It To Beaver?
Are Ward and June role models?
Were all parents as dumb as the ones on the Disney shows on Sunday evenings?

People obsess about the issues of the mythical "Jane" on Days Of Our Lives (or any daytime soap opera).

In the 40s, people cared about Clark Gable.
This same personality now is concerned about every aspect of Britneys life (and that of her soon-to-be-whacked-out sister).

Now, it is a two-way street. YouTube.
Online communities have replaced actual ones.

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I'm typically harder on myself than others are. Not because I want people to like me, or because I want to make a good impression. Simply because I want to be a good person.

IMO... Belittling, demeaning, and being downright rude just b/c someone feels they are better than someone else, or more educated is not appropriate behavior whether it's on-line or in person. There's a reason those words are derogatory.... :S

Then again, I'm just a dork... :ph34r:;)

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I'm typically harder on myself than others are. Not because I want people to like me, or because I want to make a good impression. Simply because I want to be a good person.

IMO... Belittling, demeaning, and being downright rude just b/c someone feels they are better than someone else, or more educated is not appropriate behavior whether it's on-line or in person. There's a reason those words are derogatory.... :S

Then again, I'm just a dork... :ph34r:;)

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Short too.:ph34r:
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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Then again, I'm just a dork...



Since we are cosmic twins... am I a dork too? :P:ph34r::ph34r:


Only if you wanna be!

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"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?"
Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU
OMG, is she okay?

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Have a guess what i think of others opinions of me:ph34r:

If i respect you, your opinion matters to me, if I dont, your opinion does not mean squat to me.
There are a couple of people on here I respect. but not many:ph34r:



I had an online friend who had my respect and admiration. I thought he was brilliant and wise.

In real life, he turned out to be a racist, narrow-minded fuckhead. A loud one, to boot. Embarrassingly so.

I have several stories like that.

I also have stories of people who I thought were total assholes online who turned out to be really terrific people in person.

I have several stories like that too.

And there are people who have stories like that about me too.
If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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Many years later, the only thing I can tell you is that of all the people I've met online first, only one was the same in real life as he presented himself to be online.



Interesting. I've had the opposite experience in that everyone I've met online first has turned out to be pretty much exactly what I expected when I met them in person.

I've never noticed much difference in people's online vs. offline personas. But I guess that could just be a perception thing.

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I wonder if this can be made into an avatar? :D

I've seen a few animated avatars on here.

sorry for the thread hijack
"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban

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I am human and I need to be loved,
Just like everybody else does,

I am the son, and the air,
Of a shyness that is criminally vulgar,
I am the son and heir,
Of nothing in particular

(.)Y(.)
Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome

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Interesting. I've had the opposite experience in that everyone I've met online first has turned out to be pretty much exactly what I expected when I met them in person.

I've never noticed much difference in people's online vs. offline personas. But I guess that could just be a perception thing.



I've had very similar experiences to yours, Keely. Although I've met some posters in person first, the posters whom I've met online first were as I had expected them to be, when I met them in person. Any surprises or subtle differences were usually interesting and didn't turn me off to them as people.

Personally, I don't think that most people set out to be a specific "online persona". People often just favor one communication style over another, allowing some to express themselves more easily through written word, than others.

The posts that we witness on here do not fully capture the full spectrum of someone's personality. It's just another piece of the puzzle of who that person is, or how he/she might be feeling at one given moment.

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I wonder if this can be made into an avatar? :D


Apparently yes.

Look quick, it's disappearing soon.

Edited to add: Well, okay, it uploaded just fine, and I could see it on the profile page, but for some reason, I'm not seeing it here. I'm going to give it time to update, and then it gets deleted anyway.

Edited again to add that I'm an idiot. After uploading an avatar, you have to select the avatar. If you want to use it, Billy, I'll be taking it out of my profile as soon as you see it. Maybe sooner.

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I've seen a few animated avatars on here.

sorry for the thread hijack



No you're not. ;)
If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

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