Darktreader 0 #1 October 20, 2008 Maybe Its just me.... I am always one to open and hold the door for the next person even if it means waiting and holding for someone thats 50 feet away on the way in...but it really erks me for some reason when those people reach out and hold the door when they enter. I would rather you just said thank you and walk in. Its a courtesy that I am giving. When I open the door for you I dont want you to grab the door so I can leave, I want you to walk on in and say thanks nothing more....does anyone else feel this way or am I just nuts."Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #2 October 20, 2008 I don't expect anything, when I hold a door open for someone.... then I'm not disappointed. There's a lot of rude folks out there but I'm not about to become one just to fit in (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #3 October 20, 2008 Screw them. If you hold the door for them you end up in line behind them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darktreader 0 #4 October 21, 2008 Its usally as I am leaving somewhere and I see someone walking in, I stay and hold the door for them to enter and everytime they reachout and grab the door. I hate that...just walk in ...I am not waiting for the right moment to let it go to hit you I promise!!!! "Before we waste time talking and getting to know each other, let's just have sex once and see if we're compatible" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #5 October 21, 2008 Quote Maybe Its just me.... I am always one to open and hold the door for the next person even if it means waiting and holding for someone thats 50 feet away on the way in...but it really erks me for some reason when those people reach out and hold the door when they enter. I would rather you just said thank you and walk in. Its a courtesy that I am giving. When I open the door for you I dont want you to grab the door so I can leave, I want you to walk on in and say thanks nothing more....does anyone else feel this way or am I just nuts. Nah thatr dont bother me so much, but i have been abused for holding doors. There's been a couple of threads previous about people getting pissed because someone was polite and held a door for them. FuckheadsYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ghost47 18 #6 October 21, 2008 Quoteit really erks me for some reason when those people reach out and hold the door when they enter. I would rather you just said thank you and walk in. Its a courtesy that I am giving. When I open the door for you I dont want you to grab the door so I can leave, I want you to walk on in and say thanks nothing more But aren't they just giving the same courtesy to you? You hold the door open so that they don't have to open it themselves. That's courteous. But then they hold the door open as soon as they can, so that you don't have to continue holding it open. That's also courteous. It seems to me like they're acknowledging your courtesy, and saying thank you by being courteous back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linebckr83 3 #7 October 21, 2008 I love the situation of the double door. I get to the beginning door first and hold it open for the guy/gal behind me. Now Im right behind him approaching the second door and he barely opens it enough for him to squeeze thru and it closes behind him. Maybe I just expect the same gratitude back but I usually just laugh at how ironic it seems. "Are you coming to the party? Oh I'm coming, but I won't be there!" Flying Hellfish #828 Dudist #52 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #8 October 21, 2008 Quote or am I just nuts. Yes. Courtesy doesn't need to be thanked. Its not like you were reshingling their roof. I simple smile, maybe a nod of the head and I do expect them to reach for the door as well. I normally don't hold the door for people unles they are carrying something. When someone holds the door for me I thank them and I reach for the door (unless I am fully loaded)My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #9 October 21, 2008 Quote... but i have been abused for holding doors. I held the door for the girl. She got pissed saying, "Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean you have to hold the door for me. I can do it myself." Says I, "Sorry, I didn't recognize you. You don't look like a woman." The irony? No, she really didn't. It's memorable to me because that was the only time I was ever called a male, chauvinist pig.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #10 October 21, 2008 I agree with you in this case. But, overall, you are nuts.You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #11 October 21, 2008 Quote I agree with you in this case. But, overall, you are nuts. Yeah...like YOU ever open a door for anyone! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #12 October 21, 2008 I think it's nice when people hold doors for others. I do it, too. I doubt that anyone intends it as a slight to you when they take the open door from you--with, of course, the oddball exceptions who have something to prove. I suspect it's more of a, "thanks, I've got it now" gesture than an attempt to negate your courtesy. Don't spend too much energy on that one, but keep opening doors. We need all the courteous gestures we can get! TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
simplyputsi 0 #13 October 21, 2008 Quote I love the situation of the double door. I get to the beginning door first and hold it open for the guy/gal behind me. Now Im right behind him approaching the second door and he barely opens it enough for him to squeeze thru and it closes behind him. Maybe I just expect the same gratitude back but I usually just laugh at how ironic it seems. we have a double door at the building entrance of my work. I've never seen this happen, but if it did, especially to me, I'd have to let out a sarcastic Thanks! Sounds to me like you just have an asshole or two around you.Skymama's #2 stalker - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airathanas 0 #14 October 21, 2008 I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? http://3ringnecklace.com/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jewels 0 #15 October 21, 2008 You can see it as an insult if you like, I suppose, but really . . . who holds the door with the purpose of being rude to someone else? There's nothing wrong with self-sufficiency, but I don't see anything wrong with accepting an act of politeness, either. I know you said you know people are trying to be nice, but I think it's a stretch to say that they are being rude to you by holding the door for you. I guess we can just disagree on this one.TPM Sister #102 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shell666 0 #16 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! Does the same apply if a WOMAN holds it open for you?? Quote I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? Hmmm. So are they being nice, or are they being rude. And I'm guessing you never hold a door open for anyone either.'Shell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 897 #17 October 21, 2008 what goes around, comes around Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #18 October 21, 2008 Quote I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? Wow. This makes me sad to read. Rude would be to NOT hold the door for whomever is following. To take that simple act of common courtesy and see it as a personal affront is frightening. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #19 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? you contradict yourself in your own post and you need some attitude adjustments. it's not about holding the door for YOU it about holding it for the person behind me regardless of whom ever they are.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #20 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! That there is just plain crazy talk -Guys/Gals holding doors open for other is just good manners, where I was brought up and good manners cost nothing... nothing at all. Quote I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? WTF? Oh no they are NOT, they are being POLITE. They don't have the problem here so maybe someone else does. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #21 October 21, 2008 The discussion of holding doors crops up periodically... I think I understand what you are saying... I imagine it can be a bit awkard transistioning the door from one holder to another... so I can see how it would be annoying. Ultimately I don't exercise any gender bias when I'm holding doors for people... and if someone (male or female) has a problem with me holding a door for them I'm perfectly content to shake my head and snicker as I walk away... because ultimately the complainer has a problem in that situation not me. In my experience most people seem to not have any misgivings when I hold the door for them... but perhaps that's just because I seem pretty harmless... Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #22 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? Wow - talk about some deeply seeded control issues. I have to guess that you were over controlled by at least one of the male authority figures in your life, and a seperate issue, you tend to over compensate.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #23 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? How do you feel about guys who put the toilet seat down?www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
simplyputsi 0 #24 October 21, 2008 Quote I HATE IT WHEN GUYS HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR ME!!!!! I have arms. I know how a door operates. I can do it myself. Even when I was on crutches I would get the door myself. I know people are just trying to be nice, so I just smile and walk through. But I don't say thanks though. I know that makes me rude, but they are being rude to me, so it all evens out??? Do you mind if I use this post as proof of my theory, or at least as an example to support my theory Skymama's #2 stalker - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
