nerdgirl 0 #1 May 28, 2009 After dinner with a few close female friends (from outside the skydiving community) last weekend, one of them asked for input (essentially advice) on an ongoing discussion with her boyfriend. He asked if she would be willing to have a 3-way with another woman. She’s game to try … but she wants him to be willing to take part in a 3-way with another man too. They’re both in their mid-thirties. They’ve been living together for a few years and dating for about five years. So what do you think? Reasonable request? Outrageous? Curious what others might have suggested, especially the guys. /Marg … sitting in National airport, waiting to go home… Act as if everything you do matters, while laughing at yourself for thinking anything you do matters. Tibetan Buddhist saying Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #2 May 28, 2009 Oh... nevermind. I thought that said, "squid pro quo" and they were going to offer to pay the bill for the calimari this time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #4 May 28, 2009 almost welcome home marg um....sounds like a doomed relationship. www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #5 May 28, 2009 that's a friday bonfire question, on a thursday though....i got nuthin actually two is one, one is none...soooo in theory two snatches or cacks as it may be are better than one i guess. in case one breaks you knowif you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nerdgirl 0 #6 May 28, 2009 Quote Do it Marg! Only if you can video. [Seriously not me, at least afaik, ... & if it was, I wouldn't be advertising it on the internet. Sorry to dissapoint the 2 or 3 of ya.] Act as if everything you do matters, while laughing at yourself for thinking anything you do matters. Tibetan Buddhist saying Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #7 May 28, 2009 Sounds reasonable to me, if it's something that they both really want to do - not just one agreeing to do it because the other really wants to. I'm sure they both realize that there are risks involved, so I guess they just have to decide if they think it will be worth it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #8 May 28, 2009 If the guys are not jumpers they would probably get stage fright I have to look for my shirt that says; If this Otter is Rockin, Don't Come Knockin! Unless you bring your GF. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tigra 0 #9 May 28, 2009 Reasonable request- good for the goose and all that- but I agree with the "doomed relationship" comment also. I don't think too many couples can survive bringing 3rd parties into their beds without jealousy, insecurity and other issues. Sure there are exceptions, but they are exceptions .............. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #10 May 28, 2009 Quote um....sounds like a doomed relationship. + 1 A friend of mine and his wife were swingers. His now ex-wife ended up privately banging one of the guys they would swing with, without telling my friend. Lots of drama ensued... and now he doesn't go to the same swing parties anymore... Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #11 May 28, 2009 Quote Lots of drama ensued... and now he doesn't go to the same swing parties anymore... damn swingers, can't take em anywhere!!if you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #12 May 28, 2009 +1What you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #13 May 28, 2009 Doing 1 on 1 is only bad if you said you would not do so. If it was talked about and approved then it is just crying over spilled...looks like milk. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #14 May 29, 2009 Quote If it was talked about and approved then it is just crying over spilled...looks like milk. daannggg!!if you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #15 May 29, 2009 Only 1 man in a 3-way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 898 #16 May 29, 2009 sharing is icky. period. it WILL erode trust in a relationship. ewwwwww. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #17 May 29, 2009 QuoteReasonable request- good for the goose and all that- but I agree with the "doomed relationship" comment also. I don't think too many couples can survive bringing 3rd parties into their beds without jealousy, insecurity and other issues. Sure there are exceptions, but they are exceptions .............. Well, I think that the couples who bring 3rd parties into their beds are exceptions to begin with. And I think we're all more likely to hear about the ones that don't work out than the ones that do - drama and all that. I don't know. It certainly has the potential to go horribly wrong, but it also has the potential to make them closer - if it's something that they are both truly interested in and OK with. Personally, most of my experiences with jealousy have had little or nothing to do with actual sex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #18 May 29, 2009 Quote Only 1 man in a 3-way. There was 2 in ours. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #19 May 29, 2009 Are you calling Bolas a man? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #20 May 29, 2009 Quote A friend of mine and his wife were swingers. His now ex-wife ended up privately banging one of the guys they would swing with, without telling my friend. Lots of drama ensued... and now he doesn't go to the same swing parties anymore... Because that never happens in every other situation you can think of where couples do things together?quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #21 May 29, 2009 Quote Quote A friend of mine and his wife were swingers. His now ex-wife ended up privately banging one of the guys they would swing with, without telling my friend. Lots of drama ensued... and now he doesn't go to the same swing parties anymore... Because that never happens in every other situation you can think of where couples do things together? Which? Banging the other guy, or the drama? Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #22 May 29, 2009 Quote Only 1 man in a 3-way. I guess I am old fashion but I have to agree with you. The first thought that pops in my mind when someone says three way would be 1guy and 2 women.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
porpoishead 8 #23 May 29, 2009 LMAO!!! where is the legendary bolas he still aroundif you want a friend feed any animal Perry Farrell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydemon2 0 #24 May 29, 2009 Quote Quote Only 1 man in a 3-way. I guess I am old fashion but I have to agree with you. The first thought that pops in my mind when someone says three way would be 1guy and 2 women. Got a friend? Actually if you want to have 3 ways it should go both ways, Im not saying you gotta be gay or anything but if having a nekkid guy there freaks you out then you prolly aint ready for swinging!Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone! I like to start my day off with a little Ray of Soulshine™!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #25 May 29, 2009 Quote Are you calling Bolas a man? Since he was wearing a jumpsuit, and not a thong on this occassion, yes. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
