TheBachelor 5 #51 June 23, 2009 I've done it before, and I voted for "Not a good idea." The relationship usually ends before the job does, and then you're stuck with an awkward situation, or worse...There are battered women? I've been eating 'em plain all of these years... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #52 June 23, 2009 QuoteQuoteI find this a professional issue I don't find anything wrong with a person (male or female) who is dating a superior (male or female.) On the other hand, I have LARGE problems with a superior dating a subordinate. It is wholly unprofessional and dangerous from a liability standpoint. I don't blame subordinates. I blame the superiors. ...which I agree with, and which is a fair refinement of the points I joined-in on up-thread. I know of some employers that, for a long time now, have had written policies that simply "asking out" anyone who might be considered one's subordinate constitutes, by employer definition, sexual harassment. I think that's a good thing; and it's consistent with the above. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver30960 0 #53 June 24, 2009 Quote>I'd say give 'em some rope, sit back and watch the drama play out. My thoughts exactly: Clean up your resume, gonna be a couple of great job openings in the near future! Elvisio "what's the base pay?" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #54 June 24, 2009 QuoteClaims are to be taken seriously, regardless if they come from a man or from a woman. The role reversal thing was discussed in particular, probably because what you mention here is a common misconception. Riiiiiight.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
iluvtofly 0 #55 June 24, 2009 Note: I did not read the other posts in this thread so if someone already said this...sorry. I have dealt with this situation first hand at my old job. The boss was sleeping with one of the EMT's. They tried to be sneaky but EVERYONE knew about it. She got favored in every way possible. She got the best shifts and never had to do a basic transport that she didn't want to. It was a family owned and operated ambulance service and it got bad enough that the boss's own family wanted to quit working there. We had protocols in place as far as which crew would go on which call/transport but those all went out the window when this certain person was working. If we tried to have her do something she didn't feel like doing in a matter of minutes we'd get a call from the boss at home (even at 2am) telling us to do something else resulting in her not having to do anything. It caused alot of friction in the workplace. No one wanted to work with her. Several people quit because of her. Less than a week before I quit and moved down here the shit truly hit the fan. They were caught red handed and the boss's wife (co-owner) came running into the station screaming, "Tell that whore that if she wants him she can have him!!!" (Mind you they had 8 kids together that are being drug through this mess.) The EMT ended up quitting and from what I hear things got even worse after I left (probably because the boss wasn't getting any any more.) In my opinion this is just a bad idea on every level possible and there is absolutely no way for it to end well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #56 June 24, 2009 QuoteI don't believe that you should have a relationship with someone that you work with IMO there's a world of difference between 'people you work with' and 'people you work for' The first can be ok, the second most definitely is not."That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #57 June 24, 2009 Again, I don't think the problem is a relationship with someone you work for. I think the problem is the other way 'round - a relationship with people who work for you. I underdtand why people see no difference. To me it is a matter of power. Luv2fly's story showed the problem was not the employee but the boss who did not treat the employee as an employee. The boss wouldn't assign the employee to certain jobs. The boss would make other employees cover the slack. It is what the boss does that is troublesome. The boss destroyed the environment and the business - not the employee. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #58 June 24, 2009 IMO with/for is just splitting hairs. Yes a boss can show favoritism, but there are ways for a coworker to do the same thing. Personally, I think it's ALL a bad idea! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stitch 0 #59 June 24, 2009 Does she have big boobies ?"No cookies for you"- GFD "I don't think I like the sound of that" ~ MB65 Don't be a "Racer Hater" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
