LuckyMcSwervy 0 #51 October 13, 2009 Quote Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Being yourself works every time. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #52 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Being yourself works every time. Yes but which self to be? www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #53 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Being yourself works every time. Yes but which self to be? I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #54 October 13, 2009 Quote I'd rather be myself. Jeans/sweats/sundress, ponytail, no make-up. Meet someone fun at the grocery store, dz, pet store, the beach. I've had no problems so far. Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Hay The same goes for online except that it's just switched to 11 since it's easier to be picker and more rude online.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #55 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Quote Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Being yourself works every time. Yes but which self to be? I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest. but aren't they drowned out by the one in your pants?www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #56 October 13, 2009 Quote Yes but which self to be? I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest.but aren't they drowned out by the one in your pants? Word... Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #57 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote Screw dressing up fake and striking a pose at a bar. Blech! Being yourself works every time. Yes but which self to be? I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest. but aren't they drowned out by the one in your pants? You guys are killing me Shah: I'm an attractive girl - how the hell are the boys supposed to chat me up since I don't go out?? I walk to work. I work all day (usually without leaving my desk). I work for a beauty company (mostly women + a few gay men). I walk home from work. Repeat every day except weekends, where I'm indoors studying. Are the boys supposed to notice me from my window??!! Oh wait - I'm in a basement flat.. I don't *have* windows!!!"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #58 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest. but aren't they drowned out by the one in your pants? The ones in my head are more articulate; e.g. one of them sounds remarkably like Dr Gregory House. The one in my pants sounds more like Tim (the tool man) Taylor, i.e. "Ooh, Ooh, Ooh, Argh, Argh, Argh!" So it is very easy to distinguish the voices."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #59 October 13, 2009 Quote Shah: I'm an attractive girl - how the hell are the boys supposed to chat me up since I don't go out?? I walk to work. I work all day (usually without leaving my desk). I work for a beauty company (mostly women + a few gay men). I walk home from work. Repeat every day except weekends, where I'm indoors studying. Are the boys supposed to notice me from my window??!! Oh wait - I'm in a basement flat.. I don't *have* windows!!! Would it be rude if I said that if you don't make time for them why should they make time for you? Come on, you can't afford one evening per month to go out for 4 hours? All I'm saying is look at where you are casting your net. You may not like the kind of fish you pull in.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 858 #60 October 13, 2009 pig tails are twice the fun... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BadNinja 0 #61 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Buy a cheap throw away phone with one of those pay as you go services so you don't have to give out your number till you know someone. Oh my god, that's GENIUS!!! Ha ha ha!! A "dating" phone!!! Eh. Sign up with google voice. It's free and will just forward the calls to your real phone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #62 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Quote I usually just go with whichever voice in my head is talking loudest. but aren't they drowned out by the one in your pants? The ones in my head are more articulate; e.g. one of them sounds remarkably like Dr Gregory House. The one in my pants sounds more like Tim (the tool man) Taylor, i.e. "Ooh, Ooh, Ooh, Argh, Argh, Argh!" So it is very easy to distinguish the voices. Strange. I have the opposite going on. Except the one in my pants thinks he's british. www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #63 October 13, 2009 QuoteWould it be rude if I said that if you don't make time for them why should they make time for you? Come on, you can't afford one evening per month to go out for 4 hours? All I'm saying is look at where you are casting your net. You may not like the kind of fish you pull in. Umm.. It wouldn't be rude, but not incredibly perceptive either.. The whole point of trying out the online dating is that I don't like crowds and I don't like "going out". I like doing stuff, but a lot of it isn't conducive to meeting new people.. Take running for instance.. Easy to *share* with someone.. Difficult to *meet* people whilst you're doing it.. Get it? If I were casting my net at clubs, I can't imagine I'd find what I'm looking for.. I absolutely *hate* going clubbing.."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BadNinja 0 #64 October 13, 2009 Quote I'm an attractive girl - how the hell are the boys supposed to chat me up since I don't go out?? I walk to work. I work all day (usually without leaving my desk). I work for a beauty company (mostly women + a few gay men). I walk home from work. Repeat every day except weekends, where I'm indoors studying. Are the boys supposed to notice me from my window??!! Oh wait - I'm in a basement flat.. I don't *have* windows!!! Ah, you're like me! (Except I'm not a girl.) My entire world is a total sausage fest. The dropzone is 85% dude. Programmers are 98% dude. I don't like to socialize at the gym. I don't like to go "out" and I don't drink. And, well, that's my life! Haha. The internet is my dating salvation. Don't worry, you'll get used to it. Try okcupid.com. It's free and, I think, better than eharmony or match. Eharmony seems designed for the socially inept and match is just a total drag to use. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #65 October 13, 2009 Quote pig tails are twice the fun... Gotta work with what you are given. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #66 October 13, 2009 Quote Umm.. It wouldn't be rude, but not incredibly perceptive either.. The whole point of trying out the online dating is that I don't like crowds and I don't like "going out". I like doing stuff, but a lot of it isn't conducive to meeting new people.. Take running for instance.. Easy to *share* with someone.. Difficult to *meet* people whilst you're doing it.. Get it? If I were casting my net at clubs, I can't imagine I'd find what I'm looking for.. I absolutely *hate* going clubbing.. So...go to a cafe? Go to a smaller quieter pub. Go to where you want to go with your potential date. Some times life is simple we just make it complicated because we are afraid.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDeere 0 #67 October 13, 2009 QuoteIf I were casting my net at clubs, I can't imagine I'd find what I'm looking for.. I absolutely *hate* going clubbing.. That was my biggest problem when i was single. I didnt like clubs or most bars, so it was hard to meet people since i worked so much. Most of the people i have dated were setup's from friends.Nothing opens like a Deere! You ignorant fool! Checks are for workers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #68 October 13, 2009 Quote Quote Umm.. It wouldn't be rude, but not incredibly perceptive either.. The whole point of trying out the online dating is that I don't like crowds and I don't like "going out". I like doing stuff, but a lot of it isn't conducive to meeting new people.. Take running for instance.. Easy to *share* with someone.. Difficult to *meet* people whilst you're doing it.. Get it? If I were casting my net at clubs, I can't imagine I'd find what I'm looking for.. I absolutely *hate* going clubbing.. So...go to a cafe? Go to a smaller quieter pub. Go to where you want to go with your potential date. Some times life is simple we just make it complicated because we are afraid. Dude.. Seriously?? I don't like "going out" so your suggestion is for me to "go out?" I should just start hanging out at cafe's and quiet pubs?? Single people don't just sit around waiting to meet people - that's crazy. The whole point is that the stuff I enjoy tends to be solitary (or full of women).. Running, yoga, reading, curling up to watch a DVD, cycling, riding (though I only just started).. So I'm trying something new. I thought maybe there are people out there like me.. Solitary types who like sharing their solitude.. Wouldn't really expect you to understand - you seem to think attractive girls just whimper and 20 guys fall at their feet just begging them for hot sex.. 'Cause after all.. Easy sex is all anyone wants, right? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #69 October 13, 2009 Hey Nataly Nice to see you're getting a lot of valuable info on going out! How about this: use the pastimes you do like as opportunities. I'm sure there are running clubs in London. How about joining one of them? Even if you dont meet anyone there directly, you may make some new friends who have friends who you may like. Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #70 October 13, 2009 I just did a search of dudes in my area on Match.com. I picked the things that *I* like about the guys (Caucasian/Latino, age range, no kids, etc.) and there was a ton of guys that popped up. 32 pages worth! Maybe I'll give it a shot again... I wonder if they know what "no whuffos" means?? Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ghost47 18 #71 October 13, 2009 QuoteNo no.. I mean when you set up your profile, you have to select all this stuff about your ideal match and rate it's importance.. So I answered all the questions, but none of the questions were about the stuff I really care about.. Anyway.. How does one filter and search on personality?? Doesn't seem to work. Ya, it can be difficult. Especially because in online dating, everybody and their mother has a sense of humor, loves to laugh, and likes long walks on the beach. Sometimes you can tell a little about their personality by how they write their profile, but really, nothing beats meeting in person and having a conversation. The problem of course is that this takes time, and you can easily meet a lot of incompatible people before you find a good one (if you ever do). Maybe try keyword searching on things that you enjoy? Skydiving / parachuting / yoga / whatever. There' a decent chance that if someone likes what you like, they might also have similar personality traits. QuoteI've done a bunch of searches, but am not having much luck. Yes, I've taken the lead and messaged some people.. Still finding it hard to "read" people's personalities online.. For obvious reasons, I'm reluctant to give away personal info like my phone number, because I think there could be some scary people on there.. Maybe the trick is to go on some coffee dates?? I think coffee dates are a good idea. It's not a lot of time, and if there's something there, you can make plans for a further date, and if there isn't, then after you finish your cup of coffee you can say thanks, and just walk out. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #72 October 13, 2009 Yeah, I thought about that.. But it's the whole crowd thing again.. I like 1-on-1, but 3's a crowd But I get what you mean.. Maybe I'll just take up a new sport that is testosterone-rich.. Like climbing?? Why not? Probably be more fun than blocking 12 fuckwits per day on Match!! Ha ha ha!! Anyway, I didn't really post this for dating advice from you lot - more for entertainment value.. And BTW, you've all made me laugh LOADS, so THANK YOU "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mutumbo 0 #73 October 13, 2009 Quote I just did a search of dudes in my area on Match.com. I picked the things that *I* like about the guys (Caucasian/Latino, age range, no kids, etc.) and there was a ton of guys that popped up. 32 pages worth! Maybe I'll give it a shot again... I wonder if they know what "no whuffos" means?? it would prolly cut those 32 pages down quick fast and in a hurry.Thanatos340(on landing rounds)-- Landing procedure: Hand all the way up, Feet and Knees Together and PLF soon as you get bitch slapped by a planet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #74 October 13, 2009 Quote Maybe I'll give it a shot again... I wonder if they know what "no whuffos" means?? Quote it would prolly cut those 32 pages down quick fast and in a hurry. It sure did. When you use "skydiving" or "skydiver" as a search term is mostly returned people who want to "try" it "someday".Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #75 October 14, 2009 I've had good luck w/ dating sites. Met a lot of very interesting women. Haven't really met "the one" yet, but I've made some friends, had a few brief relationships, and had a lot of fun doing it."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
