npgraphicdesign 3 #1 October 27, 2009 So when is it acceptable (or not acceptable) to date multiple people? Should you let them know of each other, or would you not even bring it up? But if they asked you 'are you dating anyone else also' would you tell them the truth or lie? So, what do you think? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kj126 0 #2 October 27, 2009 Define dating..... better yet define girlfriend... I Am Sofa King We Todd Did!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #3 October 27, 2009 Quote Define dating..... better yet define girlfriend... Girlfriend - someone who's not just a different girl you try to go out with every single week and bed after one night of drinks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kj126 0 #4 October 27, 2009 Quote Quote Define dating..... better yet define girlfriend... Girlfriend - someone who's not just a different girl you try to go out with every single week and bed after one night of drinks Nope, thats my ex wife!I Am Sofa King We Todd Did!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #5 October 27, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Define dating..... better yet define girlfriend... Girlfriend - someone who's not just a different girl you try to go out with every single week and bed after one night of drinks Nope, thats my ex wife! Oh ok. How many drinks does it take? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
k-dubjumps 0 #6 October 27, 2009 Acceptability is up to the individuals involved. I have friends who date multiple people and others that are totally against it. As long as all parties involved are OK with it, that's all that matters right? Communication is definitely key! If I am seeing more than one person I don't keep it a secret, but they don't need to know who the other person is. If someone wants to be exclusive, then we talk about it and go from there. I'm a very up front person and don't like secrets and have no reason to keep them, but that's just me.Adrenaline is my crack DPH #3 D.S. #16 FAG #12 Muff Brother #4406 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #7 October 27, 2009 Quote Acceptability is up to the individuals involved. I have friends who date multiple people and others that are totally against it. As long as all parties involved are OK with it, that's all that matters right? Communication is definitely key! If I am seeing more than one person I don't keep it a secret, but they don't need to know who the other person is. If someone wants to be exclusive, then we talk about it and go from there. I'm a very up front person and don't like secrets and have no reason to keep them, but that's just me. So...how YOU doin'? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #8 October 27, 2009 I'm with k.. As long as you're honest with (all) the people involved, I think in theory it's ok. Personally, I've never done it & I don't see the point. If I like someone I'm not interested in anyone else. If I'm not that interested, there's little point in pursuing anything. So by default I've never had any desire to date more than one person at a time."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #9 October 27, 2009 unfortunately, not everyone thinks that way.. “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cheach 0 #10 October 27, 2009 It's okay as long as the people involved know....but why? You can't really invest yourself in someone while you are dating someone else.I woke up next to a blowup doll Ash....so what do you think? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
metalslug 36 #11 October 27, 2009 QuoteIt's okay as long as the people involved know....but why? You can't really invest yourself in someone while you are dating someone else. "Invest yourself" ? It's a date, it's not marriage. I think it's quite possible to like, and to get to know, two or more people at the same time, up until you decide which one you like the most. The early stages of dating is not that much different than social engagements with platonic friends. You're still learning about each other from each encounter until you know enough to mutually agree to take it to the next level, and only then would it become a conflict of interest. I think the question really depends on what level the relationships are at, at the time of dating. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cheach 0 #12 October 27, 2009 If I go out on a date with someone...I know immediately if I will ever want to go out on another date. I don't need to waste my time. Like I said....I am not against it. It is just not for me.I woke up next to a blowup doll Ash....so what do you think? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 616 #13 October 27, 2009 Quote So when is it acceptable (or not acceptable) to date multiple people? Should you let them know of each other, or would you not even bring it up? But if they asked you 'are you dating anyone else also' would you tell them the truth or lie? So, what do you think? Well since I think that monogous lifestyles don't necessarily suit everyone, I have not problem with it in principle. As others have said though honesty is absolutely key to all this. I think that most people have a very narrow view of relationships and see things through the prism of sexual relationships. I think that it is quite reasonable to expect that forming intimate relationships with more than 1 person is possible and in my view more healthy.Experienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #14 October 27, 2009 QuoteIf I go out on a date with someone...I know immediately if I will ever want to go out on another date. I don't need to waste my time. I can agree with that.. mostly. But define 'waste my time'? For me a date is a success if we both had fun. That doesn't necessarily mean long-term relationship potential, or even romantic potential at all. At what point does it stop being a date and becomes simply 'hanging out with a friend'?"That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cheach 0 #15 October 27, 2009 QuoteQuoteIf I go out on a date with someone...I know immediately if I will ever want to go out on another date. I don't need to waste my time. I can agree with that.. mostly. But define 'waste my time'? For me a date is a success if we both had fun. That doesn't necessarily mean long-term relationship potential, or even romantic potential at all. At what point does it stop being a date and becomes simply 'hanging out with a friend'? I have went out on a date with someone, and then became good friends. I can tell if we are going to have any chemistry relatively quickly. I just like being honest about it. If he asks if I want to go out again I just explain that we can hang out as friends, but I just don't see any romantic future. It's better than leading someone on!I woke up next to a blowup doll Ash....so what do you think? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Baksteen 84 #16 October 27, 2009 Certainly, and thanks for clearing that up "That formation-stuff in freefall is just fun and games but with an open parachute it's starting to sound like, you know, an extreme sport." ~mom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmills0705 0 #17 October 27, 2009 For me dating multiple people at the same time is completely acceptable. Dating to me does not imply sleeping with. Sleeping with multiple people at the same time is not acceptable. Until the "exclusive" talk is had then I think it is ok to accept a date with more than one person. This doesn't mean I make a habit out of doing that. Say I make plans to go to dinner with a guy. Then I am asked to dinner by a different guy for a different night. I am interested in both. I would like to pursue and see which one has more of the qualities I am looking for. I would definitely accept both dates, feel no obligation to tell either and go from there. Maybe I am weird but I am not one to KNOW after one date if I want to be exclusive with someone. People's true personalities can sometimes take a few dates to come out.Kim Mills USPA D21696 Tandem I, AFF I and Static Line I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #18 October 27, 2009 I don't mind going out w/ multiple people early on in the dating process. Not sleeping with just going out with and getting to know. I tend to decide fairly early if it is somebody w/ romantic potential, so by the third of fourth date if I am not at least thinking about exclusivity (whether or not I'm ready to have the talk) there is really no reason to continue dating somebody. I don't usually tell women unless they ask. My assumption is that they are also dating (or at least talking to) other people until we mutually decide otherwise and I am okay w/ that."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #19 October 27, 2009 By at once, do you mean at the same time on the same date? Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mutumbo 0 #20 October 27, 2009 Im cool with it as long as youre straightforward with all people involved, once it gets serious with someone, cut ties with the others. thats my theoryThanatos340(on landing rounds)-- Landing procedure: Hand all the way up, Feet and Knees Together and PLF soon as you get bitch slapped by a planet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnDeere 0 #21 October 27, 2009 QuoteI'm with k.. As long as you're honest with (all) the people involved, I think in theory it's ok. Personally, I've never done it & I don't see the point. If I like someone I'm not interested in anyone else. If I'm not that interested, there's little point in pursuing anything. So by default I've never had any desire to date more than one person at a time. Could not agree more!Nothing opens like a Deere! You ignorant fool! Checks are for workers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmills0705 0 #22 October 27, 2009 Even if I am interested in the guy, he may or may not have the same level of interest for me. I feel like if I wait for him to figure that out then I am perhaps missing opportunities. And chances are he is going out with others too. I don't think that is a conversation you have on date one or two. "Hey, by the way, are you going out with other people". After two or three dates it becomes more appropriate. And let me also say that this doesn't happen to me a lot... my experience has been when I did the stupid online dating thing. I would have conversations with a couple people... make plans to meet a couple of them and go from there. I have made plans with more than one in the same week. Then it is determined if you are going to go to second date and beyond. I consider that "dating". Seeing if you are compatible enough with someone to see where it goes. Whats wrong with doing that with multiple people in the same week or two?Kim Mills USPA D21696 Tandem I, AFF I and Static Line I Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #23 October 27, 2009 I wonder how many tandem masters responded to this? I hear those guys have lots of girl friends, some of which they even remember their names!Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 893 #24 October 27, 2009 Only in your warped version of reality and engineering. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #25 October 27, 2009 Quote Only in your warped version of reality and engineering. So, Mark, what you're saying is that you remember all their names? ;-) (I know I know, sharing is icky.. whatever lol )Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
