Deresssion...man this kind of sucks

[shah269 0]

Oh I am dating....some ok....but mostly crap.
I guess I'm too inpatient.

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[turtlespeed 226]

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Oh I am dating....some ok....but mostly crap.
I guess I'm too inpatient.

THAT could very well be the best freudian slip ever.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

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Oh I am dating....some ok....but mostly crap.
I guess I'm too inpatient.

THAT could very well be the best freudian slip ever.

+1

[Sapphire 0]

Yanno, sometimes I wonder why people bash you so much on here... I mean, we all like what we like (though most of us only to a certain extent) and at least you're honest about it. However, there are times you say things so ridiculously silly (and borderline rude) and I finally get it.

You describe yourself as being 'fat' (and have several times in posts) - so what is it exactly you bring to the table to attract these sub size 8 ladies? Obviously you want them to see you for other things other than just your appearance, correct? So, why is appearance one of the main deciding factors for you?

I'm no sub size 8 - I have been - and hope to be again, but certainly not for any man. Regardless of what size the scale, or my clothes say I am, I'm still the same person with a lot to offer. Don't you ever wonder what you may potentially be missing out on by being a little too particular? (read: shallow) Everyone appreciates a good looking guy or girl, everyone! The difference is, MOST of us know that looks are not all that matter in the long run. I hope someday you can learn that, too - may make life a little happier for you!

"One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar" ~ Helen Keller

[Stewie 0]

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Comparing dating in early to late 30's for a guy to that of a girl is akin to the analogy of throwing a bullet and shooting one!
If the woman is at all in shape and at all stable just point at two friends tell them to fight to the death and the winner may ask you out.

That aside, I need to reorganize my life. The bitch may have not have taken a dime but killed my self esteem but I have to get it back or else she wins.

But my fear, and you women are going to hate this so brace yourself, is that I let go of my values and "settle" for a + sized girl. And with 75% of the female population + sized in my age bracket it is a strong possibility. I want my next long term relationship to blow my x out of the water. I want he to be a weapon. Smarter, kinder, move compassionate, and size six. I want my x to look over and my fat dumb happy face take a knife and carve out her heart and eat it.

I'm Persian, we don't play to the death, we play to the pain. And I want her to suffer........mix one half depression with one half desire for revenge and you get the perfect storm.

Christ, dude. I didn't bother reading through all your crap but you really need to shut down the computer and find a reason to like yourself.

"Fuck that. I'll take a good ass-pounding over a bj any day." -- pyrotech

[Nataly 38]

Dude.. It takes time.

But it'll happen.

Then one day - possibly a year or more from now - you won't even believe you were ever this upset.

The pain will go away.

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse."
- Chris Hadfield
« Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. »
- my boss

[turtlespeed 226]

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Dude.. It takes time.

But it'll happen.

Then one day - possibly a year or more from now - you won't even believe you were ever this upset.

The pain will go away.

Don't get his hopes up -

Don't listen to her - it only gets better after you spend about 30K on hookers and blow.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[skyrider 0]

This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

[amstalder 0]

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This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

Nice.

[d_squared431 0]

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This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

I didnt notice it until you pointed it out....

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[mdrejhon 8]

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This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

I didnt notice it until you pointed it out....

Same. I never noticed the typo in the thread until now.

It's ALLLLLLL Bender's fault. ALLLLLL!

[wolfriverjoe 1,523]

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This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

I noticed it from the beginning, but I figured Shah had enough on his plate without being hounded by the "Grammar and Spelling Police".

"There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy

"~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo

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This many post, and all us folks with Dyslexia, Have not said anythinmg about the typo in the title...( I read it dozens of times today), and just now noticed!

I noticed it from the beginning, but I figured Shah had enough on his plate without being hounded by the "Grammar and Spelling Police".

+1

[shah269 0]

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Dude.. It takes time.

But it'll happen.

Then one day - possibly a year or more from now - you won't even believe you were ever this upset.

The pain will go away.

Thank you Nat I greatly appreciate it
Right now the best way I can say is that I'm living for Saturdays. Not that I'm going out but rather my EMBA classes. I'm fortunate enough to be in a very tight class with a lot of great people. And simply being in class and then having a beer or three after really does help me to feel human.

And the dating has been ok, I am good at it, every sunday I've had a date from day one, but never comfortable. It all felt fake, but you have to do what you have to do right? Not like your next soul mate will fall out of the sky...hopefully under a canopy
As for me being "fat" ask the ladies from Atlanta, I don't think I'm fat but rather it's the Persian self deprecating sense of humor. I'm 5'8" and 175lbs with a 33 in gut. I think I look okish. And what do I bring to the table for a size 8 / medium / stable girl? Nothing but myself. Because that is all I have to give.

That and I'm a good cook and actually kind of sort of enjoy chick flicks.

I'll survive, I know, I have to. Tomorrow will be better than today.

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[airtwardo 7]

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Tomorrow will be better than today.

In THAT case...I'm goin' back to bed!

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[skymama 37]

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And the dating has been ok, I am good at it, every sunday I've had a date from day one, but never comfortable

Why don't you just not date for awhile into you feel into it.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[shah269 0]

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And the dating has been ok, I am good at it, every Sunday I've had a date from day one, but never comfortable

Why don't you just not date for awhile into you feel into it.

Mama,
You know everyone tells me that.
And the best answer I can give and I know this sounds stupid and dumb and all those things and more but my x wife did a very good job making me feel ugly and that I was no more than just the hired help. To cook, clean, make dinner and pay for her education. I guess you can say love is blind.
And I know this sounds dumb but by going out with these various girls, it's sort of like therapy. I don't feel ugly and I don't feel unwanted.
Three weeks back a girl came over, date three , for dinner and I did what I always do. Made a nice light healthy dinner and after I put away the dishes...like I always did. She asked if that's how I normally am and I said "Yes" and the smile on her face.....well I felt great. I felt appreciated. It was nice.
But, this is dangerous. By seeking reassurance from others one stops being human and starts being a shark. Living off of one pick up like to the next. Avoiding the depth charges of rejection.
But I'll make it ( the divorce) , just weighs heavy on my chest.

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[Sapphire 0]

Shah -

You sound like there is a really nice guy in there. Sadly, you have these appearance standards that make you seem shallow, but being shallow has only led you to heartbreak.

The gorgeous woman used you and I suspect others in the past have, too! This is not to say ALL gorgeous women will - but maybe being single and sorting out Shah for a time is a good thing. Accepting you and loving you is something YOU need to do before anyone else can. Maybe you will find a gorgeous woman in the end that will love you and that you will love... maybe she will be gorgeous on the inside and out, but maybe you will find the most important part will be that she is truly beautiful on the inside!

Best of luck to you... I truly mean that!

"One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar" ~ Helen Keller

[wmw999 2,569]

Then treat dating as a fun pastime for now, but don't look for a girl. Really.

Until you figure out what makes you happy (not what other people can do to make you happy) and you can work at achieving it, it's nearly impossible to give someone else access to the keys to your heart and have a chance at success in the relationship. Because you end up blaming the other person for not understanding you, when you don't really understand yourself.

Dating can be fun -- it's not always a way to find a potential mate, sometimes it's just a way to have a nice evening or few out with someone nice. And you're worth that, too.

Wendy P.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[shah269 0]

Thank you, I hope I find that girl.
And I hope that it is sooner rather than later. But if it's later....I guess what the universe wants is what the universe wants.

And believe it or not my idea of gorgeous is kind of wide. I guess....you can say I'm looking for someone who is "healthy" that way I will do my upmost to stay healthy as well. I understand that women's sizes are all over the place. So let's just call the future Ms. Perfect "Healthy"
You know kind of like this
http://s2.bikewalls.com/pictures/Ducati_Monster696-ok_2008_01_1024x768.jpg

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!