Nataly 38 #1 July 11, 2010 I got into skydiving because someone I knew was so passionate about it I wanted to see what all the fuss was about. I was dating the guy at the time, and I remember when the relationship went sour, he actually forbade me from going to the DZ.. I thought he had some nerve to claim the sport as his, and the DZ as his territory. Obviously I ignored this ridiculous request. So now my recent ex has *just* taken up the sport. And quite honestly, I still can't understand what the big deal is.. Ok, he has that annoying newbie enthusiasm, but apart from that, I think it's great that he's getting into the sport.. Why would anyone feel possessive about a sport that is open to everyone??"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wayneflorida 0 #2 July 11, 2010 Simple. Power and control. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #3 July 11, 2010 Why don't you forbid your recent - ex from going to your DZ... and see how it goes... Anyway, wayne already pretty much answered your question... to which I'd add "spite" and "hatefulness". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #4 July 11, 2010 Quote I was dating the guy at the time, and I remember when the relationship went sour, he actually forbade me from going to the DZ.. Sounds like some serious anger going on there... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #5 July 11, 2010 Quote Why don't you forbid your recent - ex from going to your DZ... and see how it goes... Anyway, wayne already pretty much answered your question... to which I'd add "spite" and "hatefulness". Or *maybe* it was just some really clever reverse-psychology!! Maybe he was afraid I would give up on the sport and he knew telling me I couldn't jump anymore was just the thing I needed to hear to keep me going!! I wouldn't *dream* of forbidding my ex from jumping.. It's a beautiful sport - I'm glad he's enjoying it."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #6 July 11, 2010 Quote Quote I was dating the guy at the time, and I remember when the relationship went sour, he actually forbade me from going to the DZ.. Sounds like some serious anger going on there... Good point... hopefully she keeps a really really really close eye on her rig when the ex is around. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #7 July 11, 2010 Quote Or *maybe* it was just some really clever reverse-psychology!! Maybe he was afraid I would give up on the sport and he knew telling me I couldn't jump anymore was just the thing I needed to hear to keep me going!! Nah, we're not that smart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #8 July 11, 2010 Quote Quote Quote I was dating the guy at the time, and I remember when the relationship went sour, he actually forbade me from going to the DZ.. Sounds like some serious anger going on there... Good point... hopefully she keeps a really really really close eye on her rig when the ex is around. Yeah.. It's seriously poor logic.. If he hated me so much, he should have *encouraged* me to keep jumping!! Anyway, that was a few years back now.. Haven't seen the guy since I fled my native country! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #9 July 11, 2010 Quote Haven't seen the guy since I fled my native country! Wow! You left the country to get away from your ex!!?? hmmm... actually, you're the 3rd woman I've known who's done that... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #10 July 11, 2010 Quote Quote Haven't seen the guy since I fled my native country! Wow! You left the country to get away from your ex!!?? hmmm... actually, you're the 3rd woman I've known who's done that... No way.. I left the country to move in with a sexy Brit Didn't work out in the end, but I'd do it all over again."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #11 July 11, 2010 Geeze... how many ex's do you have! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #12 July 11, 2010 Quote Geeze... how many ex's do you have! Well, I've only had 3 long-term-ish relationships.. The first got me into skydiving - a destructive relationship. The second got me to England - an *awesome* guy The third was too keen on settling down - still a great guy. Not that many, really, considering I'm nearly 30!"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZigZagMarquis 9 #13 July 11, 2010 Quote Quote Geeze... how many ex's do you have! Well, I've only had 3 long-term-ish relationships.. The first got me into skydiving - a destructive relationship. The second got me to England - an *awesome* guy The third was too keen on settling down - still a great guy. Not that many, really, considering I'm nearly 30! Sorry, guess I wasn't keeping track... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #14 July 11, 2010 Quote I got into skydiving because someone I knew was so passionate about it I wanted to see what all the fuss was about. I was dating the guy at the time, and I remember when the relationship went sour, he actually forbade me from going to the DZ.. I thought he had some nerve to claim the sport as his, and the DZ as his territory. Obviously I ignored this ridiculous request. So now my recent ex has *just* taken up the sport. And quite honestly, I still can't understand what the big deal is.. Ok, he has that annoying newbie enthusiasm, but apart from that, I think it's great that he's getting into the sport.. Why would anyone feel possessive about a sport that is open to everyone?? Well, The best way to explain this in to a logical and secure person it that your first ex (that you refer to) is a douche bag.My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #15 July 11, 2010 I had an old girlfriend start jumping at my old DZ when I was still single. She got her own gear, was dating some of my friends, Fine. We didn't get along, but I just ignored our history. One day I got assigned to jumpmaster her on a 20 second freefall. She already had her gear on, including her pop-top (racer type) reserve. I told her she had to take it off so I could check the pins. She got pissed, thought I was playing a power trip, and even said it was fine, she had just picked it up from the rigger after a repack. I made her take it off anyway. That's when I showed her the temp pins still in the reserve that would have made it not work if she had tried to use it. The rigger had gone on a load and had not finished her repack when she grabbed it off the packing table. At that point she decided we could get along as friends okay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
