When a married person offers a single person a trip

[skymama 37]

*Note: This is not about me. I don't have enough money for my own trips, forget about giving one to someone else!*

A single, male friend of mine was offered the chance to go on a day trip to skydive and hangout with a married woman. The trip involved flying to a dz and hanging out with this woman and her best friend, and then they'd fly home later that night. She says she's happily married, she just thought it'd be fun. She also said her husband doesn't have a problem with her hanging out with her friends. When my friend declined her offer, she insisted in many text exchanges that he should go instead of just taking "no thanks" for an answer.

What do you think? Does she really just want to be "friends"?

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[JerryBaumchen 1,468]

Hi Moms,

This is skydiving isn't it?

Something smells fishy is my vote.

JerryBaumchen

[stitch 0]

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[billvon 3,120]

>Does she really just want to be "friends"?

She might be totally insistent (and truthful) in desiring a purely platonic relationship. She might be trying to seduce him.

Or (and I think this is pretty likely) she likes him and just wants to see what happens.

So go for it! (j/k)

[Squeak 17]

not enough info.
what is the guy like, is he a shut in type, is there a birthday about (tandem gift for him) loads of unknowns.

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[Southern_Man 0]

Offer of the trip isn't weird.

The insistence is. Does the single guy know the husband? That would change the dynamics a lot in my opinion.

"What if there were no hypothetical questions?"

[normiss 898]

So if it was completely out of the blue - no birthday gift or any such reason and they guy doesn't know the husband....what would you think then?

I think even the offer is kinda odd - it's a significant amount of money to most people.

[Heatmiser 0]

Geez guys! Can't you tell Divot put his wife up to it, somebody's got to fill the pillow-biter's shoes!

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[kj126 0]

It might actually smell fishy, the reason he declined

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[lauraliscious 0]

Was she offering to pay for his trip and his skydiving? Or did she just want him to come hang out? Sounds a little weird to me, but I've gone on a few trips to boogies, and other places, with people who weren't my husband in order to share driving/gas sometimes when he couldn't go. But I've never paid for anyone else's trip.

It just depends on the situation and the level of trust in the (married) relationship. Hard to judge from the outside. If the single male friend who's being asked to go feels that it's fishy then it probably is.

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[Beerlight 0]

Was she trying to "blind date" the guy with her best friend? Otherwise....I smells a fishy fish!

[Southern_Man 0]

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I think even the offer is kinda odd - it's a significant amount of money to most people.

I did not take it that she was offering to pay for the activities, just the transportation. If she was going anyway, the marginal cost might not be that much more.

I just think there are too many unknowns to tell for sure.

"What if there were no hypothetical questions?"

[skymama 37]

The guy is an active skydiver, she is a relative newbie to the sport.
He has never met her husband.
I am pretty certain that if he said he couldn't afford the jumps, then she would pay for those too.

Does anyone else think it's weird for her to want to fly 1 1/2 hours, rent a car and take the drive 1 1/2 hours to the dz, do a few jumps and turn around and go home all in the same day?

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[skymama 37]

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Was she trying to "blind date" the guy with her best friend? Otherwise....I smells a fishy fish!

No, supposedly the friend is in a happy relationship too.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[turtlespeed 226]

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The guy is an active skydiver, she is a relative newbie to the sport.
He has never met her husband.
I am pretty certain that if he said he couldn't afford the jumps, then she would pay for those too.

Does anyone else think it's weird for her to want to fly 1 1/2 hours, rent a car and take the drive 1 1/2 hours to the dz, do a few jumps and turn around and go home all in the same day?

I have done that a few times . . . Was just getting off work, and looking on line when a friend of mine asked if I was coming to a boogie, I said, "I don't know, lemme check"

Just a few hours later I was back in my truck on the way to the airport to catch the redeye to Atlanta . . . it was purely platonic, and a GREAT time.

In reverse, had a friend of mine that needed a break from life as she knew it, and I gave her a vacation, again, nothing romantic about it . . . just a good relaxing time.



I'd say that there COULD be an agenda in play, but most likely not. Have the hubby come along.

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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[davelepka 4]

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The guy is an active skydiver, she is a relative newbie to the sport.

I am pretty certain that if he said he couldn't afford the jumps, then she would pay for those too.

Does anyone else think it's weird for her to want to fly 1 1/2 hours, rent a car and take the drive 1 1/2 hours to the dz, do a few jumps and turn around and go home all in the same day?

Being a newbie, if she has befriended this experienced jumper at the DZ, and become used to jumping with him or he has helped her progress in some way, it makes perfect sense that she would want him to be around on a trip to a new DZ.

Especailly if she has the money to pay for his travel and jumps, to her the only obstacle is him making the time to go along.

If you really think about it, the fact that another friend is going to be present, and that they are not planning an overnight both point toward an innocent invitation on the lady's part.

HOWEVER, if it suddenly becomes 'late' and the girls don't feel like flying home that night, it might be the furthest thing from innocent when the three of them get the hotel, but that's just wishful thinking on my part.

[Bolas 5]

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The guy is an active skydiver, she is a relative newbie to the sport.

I am pretty certain that if he said he couldn't afford the jumps, then she would pay for those too.

Does anyone else think it's weird for her to want to fly 1 1/2 hours, rent a car and take the drive 1 1/2 hours to the dz, do a few jumps and turn around and go home all in the same day?

Being a newbie, if she has befriended this experienced jumper at the DZ, and become used to jumping with him or he has helped her progress in some way, it makes perfect sense that she would want him to be around on a trip to a new DZ.

Especailly if she has the money to pay for his travel and jumps, to her the only obstacle is him making the time to go along.

If you really think about it, the fact that another friend is going to be present, and that they are not planning an overnight both point toward an innocent invitation on the lady's part.

HOWEVER, if it suddenly becomes 'late' and the girls don't feel like flying home that night, it might be the furthest thing from innocent when the three of them get the hotel, but that's just wishful thinking on my part.

She may also just want someone to carry her gear for her, possibly drive the car, and keep her company.

The one day thing definitely makes it seem more innocent to me.

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[Andy9o8 2]

She's trying to hook up with him.

[skymama 37]

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Being a newbie, if she has befriended this experienced jumper at the DZ, and become used to jumping with him or he has helped her progress in some way, it makes perfect sense that she would want him to be around on a trip to a new DZ.

He befriended her, but I don't think they've done that many jumps together. The other woman is her best friend, so one would think she'd make her feel comfortable enough at the dz the woman wants to travel to.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[skymama 37]

Update:

Earlier today, he told her that he was uncomfortable with it. She didn't reply for a few hours and then texted him tonight to ask if she could buy the ticket.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Andy9o8 2]

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Update:

Earlier today, he told her that he was uncomfortable with it. She didn't reply for a few hours and then texted him tonight to ask if she could buy the ticket.

Thus eliminating all doubt in my mind.

I'm sorry she's unhappy in her marriage. But the guy has the right instinct: he doesn't want to be her enabler. If she wants out, she needs to leave first, and hook up second.

[Southern_Man 0]

Mine too. I try to be generous and give the benefit of the doubt to people. Not much doubt in this one.

"What if there were no hypothetical questions?"

[Bolas 5]

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Update:

Earlier today, he told her that he was uncomfortable with it. She didn't reply for a few hours and then texted him tonight to ask if she could buy the ticket.

Time for a handoff...

Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting
If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh.

[Amazon 7]

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*Note: This is not about me. I don't have enough money for my own trips, forget about giving one to someone else!*

A single, male friend of mine was offered the chance to go on a day trip to skydive and hangout with a married woman. The trip involved flying to a dz and hanging out with this woman and her best friend, and then they'd fly home later that night. She says she's happily married, she just thought it'd be fun. She also said her husband doesn't have a problem with her hanging out with her friends. When my friend declined her offer, she insisted in many text exchanges that he should go instead of just taking "no thanks" for an answer.

What do you think? Does she really just want to be "friends"?

Is he good Cabana Boy material?

[JohnRich 4]

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The guy is an active skydiver, she is a relative newbie to the sport.

Maybe she just wants someone who "knows the ropes" around drop zones to make her feel comfortable at a strange drop zone, to get her on some good loads, and to make herself look "spoken for" so that a whole bunch of strange men won't be trying to get in her pants.

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I am pretty certain that if he said he couldn't afford the jumps, then she would pay for those too.

Please tell her that I'm available!