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A theory about "finding the right girl"

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turtlespeed    226

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The only post I made to my own thread and I killed it? :D Maybe I DO need my ass kicked this weekend.:P



It's not dead yet . . .
I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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kasch    0

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It's not dead yet . . .



But I'm not dead yet!
I think I'm getting better.
But you'll be dead soon look at you.
Sex with sith is like sex with a stripper. A lot of flashing lights and waving of glowing sabers, but in the end you end up with something dark and wrinkely.

DPH# "-13"
TSK# "-13"

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peek    21

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She's rich? Her daddy owns a brewery? What more do you need? ;)



That reminds me of a saying my friend (girlfriend of a skydiver) told me many years ago. I don't know if it is an old saying, or some of the lyrics to a song, but a search doesn't reveal anything.


One part angel,
one part whore,
the other part owns a liquor store...

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kasch    0

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I think Lucky's chart would have a slice for whip cream
Sex with sith is like sex with a stripper. A lot of flashing lights and waving of glowing sabers, but in the end you end up with something dark and wrinkely.

DPH# "-13"
TSK# "-13"

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shah269    0

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"finding the right girl"?
How about one who accepts you for who you are and doesn't try and change you. Communicates clearly.
Is emotionally stable. And isn't faking it just to harpoon your sorry ass!

God I've known so many guys who thought they found Ms. Right only to find out that her sex drive was not there nor was she really that kinky, she really didn't enjoy hanging out with his friends and hates goig to the gym and was starving herself for the past 5 years......oh and she wants kind....like 5 of them!

Long story short, some one who is honest with who they are and what they want. But good luck with that! [:/]

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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billvon    3,089

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>God I've known so many guys who thought they found Ms. Right only to
>find out that her sex drive was not there nor was she really that kinky, she
>really didn't enjoy hanging out with his friends and hates goig to the gym
>and was starving herself for the past 5 years.

OK, Shah, you're going to have to explain something to me here -

In another thread, you went on a bit about how important it was to find a good looking girlfriend, one that you don't have to describe as "a really nice person." So if there is someone out there who starves herself to get down to a size 5, hates going to the gym (but goes because she wants to be a size 5) - isn't that a _good_ thing? The opposite would be someone who didn't really care how they looked at least in terms of size, which (according to you in the other thread) is exactly the person you don't want to have standing by your side.

>Long story short, some one who is honest with who they are and what they
>want.

But also someone who really cares about how they look and who you won't have to describe as "a really nice person?" While those aren't exactly opposites, they sound like they're also not all that aligned.

It's like a man saying "I want a good looking young woman who will respect me for my financial support of her, and who will quit her job and spend her days supporting me as the breadwinner. But I also don't want a golddigger who just wants me for my money." Those aren't quite opposites, but they're close.

(I don't mean to gang up on you; I'm just trying to figure this point of view out.)

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shah269    0

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billvon
You are not ganging up on me at all it's ok and an good question.

There are girls who "fake it" that is to say they know that they don't like to work out or eat right....hell they are not interested in anything their boyfriends like.....they are in it for the prize of getting married and having kids.
That is an example fo some one who is not honest with who they are and what they want. For it's the old bait and switch. The moment that ring goes on that finger the gym membership is out the door and in comes the pizza!
Is that honest? No.

There are people out there who actually enjoy being healthy. There are people who are actually a size 8 / medium. There are people out there who wish to dress nice and to maintian their looks as well as the passion in their lives. And who they are on day one date one is who they will be on day one of being married. That's honesty. That's the "right girl".

To put it this way, what if you met a guy. And he was the best. Loved kids, loved your parents, loved animals, dressed well, ate well, worked out and had a good job and respected you. But when you got married he changed. He hated kids, hated your parents, hated animals, dressed like a slob, stopped working out put on a solic 40lbs and quit his job and starts being abusive. He lied to you and thus he is far from being "Mr. Right".

You see where I'm comming from? Honesty.
Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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She's rich? Her daddy owns a brewery? What more do you need? ;)



That reminds me of a saying my friend (girlfriend of a skydiver) told me many years ago. I don't know if it is an old saying, or some of the lyrics to a song, but a search doesn't reveal anything.


One part angel,
one part whore,
the other part owns a liquor store...



When I met my first wife, I wanted a women who was an aristocrat in the living room, an econmist in the kitchen and a whore in the bedrom. And I got it, sort of. She was a whore in the living room, an aristocrat in the kitchen and an economist in the bedroom. :)
Most of the things worth doing in the world had been declared impossilbe before they were done.
Louis D Brandeis

Where are we going and why are we in this basket?

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ryoder    1,590

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If it flys, floats or fucks, its cheaper to rent.



Well, if it has tires or testicles it's gonna give you trouble. ;):P


So you've had your current guy neutered?[:/]
"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

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billvon    3,089

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>There are people out there who actually enjoy being healthy. There
>are people who are actually a size 8 / medium.

Right, but you said you didn't want someone who didn't much care about their size; you said you wanted someone willing to work at their appearance. And isn't dieting when you don't want to and working out when you don't want to "working at it?"

I mean, they could have a metabolism that just doesn't allow them to get fat; their whole life could have been "the gym membership is out the door and in comes the pizza." Per what you just said, that's not someone you want. Right?

The question is - do you want someone who works hard at looking good (in your eyes) or someone who doesn't have to work hard? Or do you want someone who does work hard but doesn't need to?

>You see where I'm comming from? Honesty.

I agree 100% that honesty is important.

>And who they are on day one date one is who they will be on day one
>of being married. That's honesty. That's the "right girl".

Ok, that's going to be a little bit of a problem. No one stays the same. You will change them (and they will change you.) Time will change them. Marriage, children, a job - all those things will change them as well. They can be honest with you about those changes, but they will happen. It takes acceptance (and honesty) from both sides to make a relationship work in the face of those changes.

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shah269    0

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Now you are trying to find a toe hold in your rebuttal by utilizing semantics.
"working at it" implies caring about how one looks and is viewed by the outside world.
And it takes "work" to stay in shape, not put away two large pizzas and to wear clean clothes and to not let yourself go not only for the health benefits of a long happy life but also to keep your partner interested and engaged. It's the ultimate selfless act of love one can do for their partner.

Yes we all age, yes time does go by, but that does not give us the right to forgo taking care of ourselves and looking good for our partners under the excuse of "Oh you know time has gone by."

Case in point, I worked as hard if not harder, in keeping up my appearance when I was married then now that I'm single. I made sure I ate well, I worked out at least twice a week, my clothes were not a mess and that I didn't stink to high heaven. Why? Simple. I wanted my then wife to be proud to call me her husband. And she did and I was proud to call her my wife.

So what is Ms. Right? A girl who is naturally a size 8 / medium....why does every girl here think a medium is such a insane size?.....enjoys being active and who's personality is a match with mine.
Will I find one? Honestly? Right now looking around where I live and work and my social circles? Sadly no.
Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

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happythoughts    0

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I'm with you. I prefer young, educated, athletic women.
I think I should date the best possible choice that I meet.

Unfortunately, women seem to be doing the same darned thing. They are looking for the best possible choice too. Broke, middle-aged, skydiving, bourbon drinker isn't on their list.

I'm still single because they are acting like me. :ph34r::D

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I'm with you. I prefer young, educated, athletic women.
I think I should date the best possible choice that I meet.

Unfortunately, women seem to be doing the same darned thing. They are looking for the best possible choice too. Broke, middle-aged, skydiving, bourbon drinker isn't on their list.

I'm still single because they are acting like me. :ph34r::D



Yup. Back to ladder theory- keep climbing.
Again and Again....face to face with the sky - RMR

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