The Good Wife's Guide

[captain1976 0]

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Someone underlined some interesting points, Not I

Maybe this post should be in the Women's only

You live more in the few minutes of skydiving than many people live in their lifetime

[Airman1270 0]

Some of the advice seems kinda ridiculous (such as not complaining if he stays out all night) but the overall message is valid. Each spouse should treat the other with respect & kindness. No marriage ever broke up because the wife made the effort to make the home a place the husband enjoyed returning to at the end of the day.

Cheers,
Jon S.

[billvon 3,118]

"be a little gay"

Now _that's_ not going to go over well with some of the people who support everything else on that sheet!

[wolfriverjoe 1,523]

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Someone underlined some interesting points, Not I

Maybe this post should be in the Women's only

You do know that the purported "article" you attached is fake, right?

http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

The status is "undetermined", but the thing you posted is clearly identified as fake.

Edit to add: If you really want something funny, follow the link on the snopes page to the "Advice to Young Brides"

"There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy

"~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo

[JohnMitchell 16]

A friend down the street was passing that around at a barbecue one day at her house, laughing at how ridiculous it was. I looked it over and said "I don't know, it looks okay to me. Don't you think so, Valinda?" Valinda played along with it too, much to our neighbor's disgust.

She's now divorced, we're still married.
Sure, that's probably fake, and a lot has changed from the 50's, but what's so bad about being good to someone you love?

[Zenister 0]

If anyone ever invents a functional cloning device you are going to have a line of men infront of your house ;)

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Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed.

[captain1976 0]

Wikipedia says its been around since 1980 and may be a spoof, but I like it anyway. Except that it misses some important tips, like having your husbands rig ready.

You live more in the few minutes of skydiving than many people live in their lifetime

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

Always be kinder than you feel.

[turtlespeed 226]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

GOOD Girl!

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun

[wolfriverjoe 1,523]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

What's wrong with that book?

I only read the page you linked, but it makes sense to me.

No controlling, no manipulating, no "trying to change them". Or worse, trying to "fix" them.

Rather than treating your spouse like an underling or a child, you treat them like a partner.

Unlike the link in the OP which seems to think the wife should be a slave.

"There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy

"~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo

[shah269 0]

Each spouse should treat the other with respect & kindness.

Yeah that would have been nice....

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[JohnMitchell 16]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices.
Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands.
Trust their husbands . . .

Sounds like how we roll. That's how I try to treat her. Marriage is a partnership, not a contest.

[Southern_Man 0]

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Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices.
Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands.
Trust their husbands . . .

Sounds like how we roll. That's how I try to treat her. Marriage is a partnership, not a contest.

Having done it the other way (everything was about a contest and/or control) I can say that all of that sounds really nice and doing it the other way is very painful and frustrating.

"What if there were no hypothetical questions?"

[Andy9o8 2]

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Be a little gay...

Whoa! Rather forward for 1965.

[TriGirl 343]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

Express their needs while also respecting their husband's choices.
Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle or dismiss their husbands.
Trust their husbands . . .

Sounds like how we roll. That's how I try to treat her. Marriage is a partnership, not a contest.

Yep -- you could change each "husband" to "spouse" (or SO, or partner) and I see it as a good suggestion for anyone.

See the upside, and always wear your parachute! -- Christopher Titus

Shut Up & Jump!

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

What's wrong with that book?

I only read the page you linked, but it makes sense to me.

No controlling, no manipulating, no "trying to change them". Or worse, trying to "fix" them.

Rather than treating your spouse like an underling or a child, you treat them like a partner.

Unlike the link in the OP which seems to think the wife should be a slave.

Yeah, yeah. I actually bought that book back in like 2003 when I was trying to do anything I could to try to stop my divorce. Whatever....

But.... I recently came across it while dusting my book cases and pulled it out. I flipped through it and gave it another thought because scuba boy and I had broken up and it wasn't pretty. Two people who are total control freaks just wasn't working. I kinda threw my hands up and told him, "You want control, you can have it. I'm tired of being a control freak at work all day and then coming home and still trying to bust balls."

Once I decided he can "drive" the relationship, so to speak, I've felt better. I can relax driving home and when I get home I feel better. Frankly, I'm kinda like WTF was I thinking being a ball buster. I had nothing to prove. I just want someone who will treat me well and be respectful.

It is gonna be a long road but I'm in no hurry and have no agenda. I'm just learning to relax and enjoy. Plus, my nurturing tendencies have come back out and I actually really like that.
Kinda old fashioned, but I don't care at this point. I just want harmony and happiness. Seems like this is working for me.

Always be kinder than you feel.

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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Reminds me of this:

http://www.surrenderedwife.com/

And I admit I actually have this book on my shelf.

GOOD Girl!

Always be kinder than you feel.

[ryoder 1,590]

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I flipped through it and gave it another thought because scuba boy and I had broken up and it wasn't pretty. Two people who are total control freaks just wasn't working.

Anyone else get a mental image of two divers buddy-breathing, fighting over the regulator.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

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I flipped through it and gave it another thought because scuba boy and I had broken up and it wasn't pretty. Two people who are total control freaks just wasn't working.

Anyone else get a mental image of two divers buddy-breathing, fighting over the regulator.

Oh.... you're bad.

Always be kinder than you feel.