LuckyMcSwervy 0 #1 September 11, 2010 Kind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it?Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #2 September 11, 2010 Quote Kind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? No I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him...TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #3 September 11, 2010 Quote No I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him... Ok, why?Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #4 September 11, 2010 How you doin'? "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 584 #5 September 11, 2010 Quote Kind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? For my birthday I got a brand new R6 from my wife as a surprise that I totally wasn't expecting. I was the envy of the bike shop. I should probably point out that we only have joint bank accounts and there is no concept of "my" or "her" money (well maybe it is all her money)...Experienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #6 September 11, 2010 Quote Kind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? Absolutely NOT! You should give half of it to that guy that posts her called Turtlespeed, and the other half to tired old Deedy.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #7 September 11, 2010 Quote Quote No I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him... Ok, why? I just think everyone should pay for their own items or they will end up expecting or demand their SO to always pay for them. I guess it is more self pride for me than anything else. If I cant do it myself then I don't need that item. I want to appreciate what I have because I worked hard for it. Not because someone else paid for the item/s. edited to add, I would feel like I was a failure because my SO felt the need to pay for me and I would think they thought I just couldn't afford to pay for the car or mortgage myself.TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #8 September 11, 2010 Quote Quote Quote No I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him... Ok, why? I just think everyone should pay for their own items or they will end up expecting or demand their SO to always pay for them. I guess it is more self pride for me than anything else. If I cant do it myself then I don't need that item. I want to appreciate what I have because I worked hard for it. Not because someone else paid for the item/s. I can totally understand and respect that. But... what if it was your birthday? Or Christmas? Would that make any difference?Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #9 September 11, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote No I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him... Ok, why? I just think everyone should pay for their own items or they will end up expecting or demand their SO to always pay for them. I guess it is more self pride for me than anything else. If I cant do it myself then I don't need that item. I want to appreciate what I have because I worked hard for it. Not because someone else paid for the item/s. I can totally understand and respect that. But... what if it was your birthday? Or Christmas? Would that make any difference? My pride would tell me to return that gift..TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #10 September 11, 2010 I'd give my s/o everything I have. He's my partner, not a competitor. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #11 September 11, 2010 Quote My pride would tell me to return that gift.. Gotcha. Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #12 September 11, 2010 QuoteI'd give my s/o everything I have. He's my partner, not a competitor. That's the way I feel. My true feelings about this issue is: When you are fortunate enough to be in a position to do such acts, what a better way than to share the good fortune with the people you love?Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFKING 4 #13 September 11, 2010 QuoteNo I wouldn't. I wouldn't want an SO doing that for me either unless I was married to him... Agreed. Why put that kind of pressure on a relationship ? Wouldn't the receiver then feel obligated to do something equally extravagant, or feel inferior if they weren't in a position to do so ? And if the receiver didn't feel a need to reciprocate, wouldn't that raise suspicions about a possible selfish or gold-digging character ? Then, who gets the Vette or the house if they split up ? Better to wait until after marriage, imo. Don"When in doubt I whip it out, I got me a rock-and-roll band. It's a free-for-all." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFKING 4 #14 September 11, 2010 Deedy's second post says it all. I guess I type too slowly to be a part of any Internet discussion. Don "When in doubt I whip it out, I got me a rock-and-roll band. It's a free-for-all." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #15 September 11, 2010 Quote Deedy's second post says it all. I guess I type too slowly to be a part of any Internet discussion. Don No . . . you just think out your answers before you post, unlike people like me.And i still like my option better.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #16 September 11, 2010 Quote If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? I just read thru all the replies. A lot of good thoughts for both ways. I think there's a lot of gray area. How significant it that other and how extravagant is that gift? It will certainly change the dynamics of the relationship, quite possibly for the worst. I don't know how I would have reacted to being a Kept Man back when I was single. Some personalities might enjoy it, but I think I would have eventually resented it. Funny, eh? I'm with Nigel in that we have joint "everything." Both of us tend to be careful shoppers/spenders, so it works really well. Once again I'm glad to be married. That dating stuff is confusing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #17 September 11, 2010 Quote Quote If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? I just read thru all the replies. A lot of good thoughts for both ways. I think there's a lot of gray area. How significant it that other and how extravagant is that gift? It will certainly change the dynamics of the relationship, quite possibly for the worst. I don't know how I would have reacted to being a Kept Man back when I was single. Some personalities might enjoy it, but I think I would have eventually resented it. Funny, eh? I'm with Nigel in that we have joint "everything." Both of us tend to be careful shoppers/spenders, so it works really well. Once again I'm glad to be married. That dating stuff is confusing. It works well because what is yours is hers and what is hers is hers.Luckily she feels the same way.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #18 September 11, 2010 We even share the gun safe. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wolfriverjoe 1,523 #19 September 11, 2010 QuoteKind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? Not again. Nor would I accept something that big. Too much crap ends up developing as a result. Expectations and resentments mainly. In both directions."There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy "~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #20 September 11, 2010 QuoteI'd give my s/o everything I have. He's my partner, not a competitor. This. You are in or out. Everything or Nothing otherwise you are just a "gf". Everything in life is an economic transaction, you give something for something else. It is NEVER an equal transaction when love is involved, until you accept that everyone brings different capabilities but equal levels of commitment into a relationship you aren't serious about the relationship. A mother gives everything she is in exchange for her children's smile. Its all in what you value.____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #21 September 11, 2010 We need to talk. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sapphire 0 #22 September 11, 2010 I don't have much, but I'd give everything to the person I love to help them out, or to just simply do something nice for them. It's just how I am and I wouldn't think twice about it. Whether they reciprocate monetarily doesn't matter to me, there are other ways they can also show me how they feel. As long as what you do comes from the heart and not to compete or show off or anything like that I don't see anything wrong with it. "One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar" ~ Helen Keller Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyrider 0 #23 September 11, 2010 QuoteKind of a weird question... If you were in a position to give an extremely extravagant gift to your significant other, like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage or something like that, would you do it? Without hesitation! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BIGUN 1,438 #24 September 12, 2010 Quote like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage In this economy, given the choice between buying a a depreciating asset or giving them the opportunity to pay off or significantly refi the appreciable asset; I would choose the latter.Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #25 September 12, 2010 Quote Quote like a Corvette they mentioned they loved or paying off their mortgage In this economy, given the choice between buying a a depreciating asset or giving them the opportunity to pay off or significantly refi the appreciable asset; I would choose the latter. Depends on the Vette, a collector will appreciate (granted not at the same rate as real estate though)You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
