turtlespeed 226 #51 October 1, 2010 Quote Quote Quote ... But I loved having a "husband." I felt a sense of accomplishment. I felt "grown-up." And I loved coming home to someone, or having someone come home to me. You do realize that one doesn't need to be married to come home to someone ... or have someone come home to him/her ... One doesn't need a piece of paper to have companionship an love in his/her life. O A marriage is not just a piece of paper. Nope - it's a contractual legal document that gives her the right to take half of everything you own.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DFWAJG 4 #52 October 1, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote ... But I loved having a "husband." I felt a sense of accomplishment. I felt "grown-up." And I loved coming home to someone, or having someone come home to me. You do realize that one doesn't need to be married to come home to someone ... or have someone come home to him/her ... One doesn't need a piece of paper to have companionship an love in his/her life. O A marriage is not just a piece of paper. Nope - it's a contractual legal document that gives her the right to take half of everything you own. Bitter. That is assuming that "he" is the one with the assets. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #53 October 1, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote ... But I loved having a "husband." I felt a sense of accomplishment. I felt "grown-up." And I loved coming home to someone, or having someone come home to me. You do realize that one doesn't need to be married to come home to someone ... or have someone come home to him/her ... One doesn't need a piece of paper to have companionship an love in his/her life. O A marriage is not just a piece of paper. Nope - it's a contractual legal document that gives her the right to take half of everything you own. Bitter. That is assuming that "he" is the one with the assets. joke - but yes, more often than not that is true.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #54 October 1, 2010 QuoteMy question to those in long term relationships without wanting to get married. Do you forever keep separate money? Theoretically I would be willing to buy property with somebody. I would definitely always want some separate money. For example, retirement money--should remain separate. Other things can be shared. In the case of a larger purchase, like a house, there would have to be a contract written beforehand about what happens in cases of dissolution. That is, IMHO, much better than accepting and being stuck with the default contract the state gives you with marriage."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #55 October 1, 2010 Quote Quote Quote Quote Quote ... But I loved having a "husband." I felt a sense of accomplishment. I felt "grown-up." And I loved coming home to someone, or having someone come home to me. You do realize that one doesn't need to be married to come home to someone ... or have someone come home to him/her ... One doesn't need a piece of paper to have companionship an love in his/her life. O A marriage is not just a piece of paper. Nope - it's a contractual legal document that gives her the right to take half of everything you own. Bitter. That is assuming that "he" is the one with the assets. + 1 Yup. I wouldn't get married again without having the man sign a pre-nup. I promised my Dad before he died that no one would ever be able to take anything away from me that he worked so hard for.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #56 October 2, 2010 QuoteMy question to those in long term relationships without wanting to get married. Do you forever keep separate money? I know people who got married at a later age. They had their own stuff and made the decision to keep their finances separate. That was a responsible move that protects their children. A prenup, a will, a living will, and a financial plan. Adult responsibilities. People don't leave their home unlocked, why leave their other finances unprotected. So, they put everything in writing. Then, they put an equal amount in a joint account to cover monthly living expenses. They could spend whatever they wanted on their kids/grandkids. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
