Nataly 38 #1 February 3, 2011 My father had a small stroke last month and my mom *finally* convinced him to take some much-needed time off to rest and recuperate... I found myself telling him he shouldn't work so hard and shouldn't stress so much, et cetera, et cetera, and my mom who overheard said something about the pot calling the kettle black!!! I said "fair enough" but I maintained that my advice was still good despite the fact that I don't follow it myself!! What about people on here? Do you listen to others when they give advice?? If so, when? If not, why?"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #2 February 3, 2011 If i ASK someone for specific advice regarding some specific matter, it's usually because I trust their opinion in that matter...so yes I will consider the input and likely take the advice. As far as free unsolicited advice on some subject, that's just thrown out to me ...NOPE ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thrillstalker 0 #3 February 3, 2011 where is the boobies option???"Never grow a wishbone, where your backbone ought to be." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #4 February 3, 2011 Quote where is the boobies option??? Oooops!! Sorry! Haven't been posting that much lately and forgot my DZ.com etiquette!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,120 #5 February 3, 2011 All advice is bad. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #6 February 3, 2011 If they want me to add vice, I find it hard to say no.My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #7 February 3, 2011 Yes, I listen. Doesn't mean I'll use their advice, but I listen. The majority of advice I hear is both unsolicited and uninformed, and therefore rarely useful. I am a lot more likely to use the advice if it is both solicited and (more importantly) informed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #8 February 3, 2011 Quote If i ASK someone for specific advice regarding some specific matter, it's usually because I trust their opinion in that matter...so yes I will consider the input and likely take the advice. As far as free unsolicited advice on some subject, that's just thrown out to me ...NOPE But you stopped wearing those dresses when I advised you not to and that advice was unsolicited.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #9 February 3, 2011 QuoteAll advice is bad. I'll take that under consideration. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
topdocker 0 #10 February 3, 2011 Advice is like borrowing a hammer from someone, they only give it to you when they aren't using it. topJump more, post less! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
warpedskydiver 0 #11 February 3, 2011 Quote If i ASK someone for specific advice regarding some specific matter, it's usually because I trust their opinion in that matter...so yes I will consider the input and likely take the advice. As far as free unsolicited advice on some subject, that's just thrown out to me ...NOPE I advise you too look at as many boobies as possible Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #12 February 3, 2011 I've noticed this word "listen" being used so frequently. Yes, I almost always listen to what people suggest. But heeding the advice is a different story altogether. The problem with people giving "advice" is not only whether it is solicited or not, but how it is offered. I'll be honest - people who tell me, "You need to quit drinking coffee" will find a significantly lower chance of my heeding the advice because it approaches proselytizing. On the other hand, if somebody says, "Well, would you like to lower your blood pressure? Yes? I could give you some techniques that will help you. One of the first would be cutting down on coffee. Here's how it works..." Advice usually seems to be given by people as if there is only one course of action. Just because a person did not act in conformance with the advice does NOT mean that it wasn't heard or considered. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
david3 0 #13 February 3, 2011 QuoteI've noticed this word "listen" being used so frequently. Yes, I almost always listen to what people suggest. But heeding the advice is a different story altogether. The problem with people giving "advice" is not only whether it is solicited or not, but how it is offered. I'll be honest - people who tell me, "You need to quit drinking coffee" will find a significantly lower chance of my heeding the advice because it approaches proselytizing. On the other hand, if somebody says, "Well, would you like to lower your blood pressure? Yes? I could give you some techniques that will help you. One of the first would be cutting down on coffee. Here's how it works..." Advice usually seems to be given by people as if there is only one course of action. Just because a person did not act in conformance with the advice does NOT mean that it wasn't heard or considered. I’m sorry, I wasn’t listening. What did you say? . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Niki1 2 #14 February 3, 2011 The flight instructor told the student pilot, "You've only got 2 problems. One, you talk to yourself. Two, you don't listem."Most of the things worth doing in the world had been declared impossilbe before they were done. Louis D Brandeis Where are we going and why are we in this basket? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Niki1 2 #15 February 3, 2011 QuoteAll advice is bad. Well, like Twardo said, if you're looking for advise on how to do some thing, you'll probably ask 1 or 2 people and take some sugestions. But if some one is looking for advise on some moral question, then I think they're just shopping for an answer that suits them. They already know what they want to do, they're just looking for justification.Most of the things worth doing in the world had been declared impossilbe before they were done. Louis D Brandeis Where are we going and why are we in this basket? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #16 February 3, 2011 Quote Quote I've noticed this word "listen" being used so frequently. Yes, I almost always listen to what people suggest. But heeding the advice is a different story altogether. The problem with people giving "advice" is not only whether it is solicited or not, but how it is offered. I'll be honest - people who tell me, "You need to quit drinking coffee" will find a significantly lower chance of my heeding the advice because it approaches proselytizing. On the other hand, if somebody says, "Well, would you like to lower your blood pressure? Yes? I could give you some techniques that will help you. One of the first would be cutting down on coffee. Here's how it works..." Advice usually seems to be given by people as if there is only one course of action. Just because a person did not act in conformance with the advice does NOT mean that it wasn't heard or considered. I’m sorry, I wasn’t listening. What did you say? . Huh? Must be easy to ignore advice if you are Billy VanceI'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rick 67 #17 February 3, 2011 Sometimes the best advice is unsolicited. Especially if it comes from a concerned and respected source.You can't be drunk all day if you don't start early! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #18 February 3, 2011 Quote Sometimes the best advice is unsolicited. Especially if it comes from a concerned and respected source. Concerned, respected, and informed. It just seems to me that a lot of people give unsolicited advice based on assumptions rather than asking questions first. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #19 February 3, 2011 Quote Quote Sometimes the best advice is unsolicited. Especially if it comes from a concerned and respected source. Concerned, respected, and informed. It just seems to me that a lot of people give unsolicited advice based on assumptions rather than asking questions first. You can't know everything - that's why people fill in the gaps with assumptions... Well, that, and laziness!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thrillstalker 0 #20 February 4, 2011 Quote You can't know everything that is not true, i do!"Never grow a wishbone, where your backbone ought to be." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #21 February 4, 2011 The best advice generally comes before you need it. Then you can use it, on your own, when you get into the situation. At least that worked pretty well with my son, and you know how well teenagers listen That's why it's nice to learn from others' mistakes. Wendy P. There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #22 February 4, 2011 I voted "other". I can't listen. I'm fucking deaf! "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #23 February 4, 2011 Quote I voted "other". I can't listen. I'm fucking deaf! Huh?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Roxxx 0 #24 February 4, 2011 Yes. From the movie, "?Taxi?"... "Don't let your dick run your life." $.05 charge. It works for me when he's at work. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
