virgin-burner 1 #1 February 7, 2011 alright, after many years, you're figuring out that whatever you try, and how hard you try, after a year, or maybe two at best, it's kinda getting impossible to keep a healthy relationship up. always been with the wrong girl? got a serious problem yourself? if you're married or been with the same partner, why did that happen? did you have a lot of failed relationships in the past? how did you get around the fact? got some good tips to share?“Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #2 February 7, 2011 I just quit. Problem solved.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #3 February 7, 2011 ...and is love found more often by searching for it, or more often by running into it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nutz 0 #4 February 7, 2011 Quote I just quit. Problem solved. Amen brother. Join Alfalfa (sp?) in the woman hater's club. "Don't! Get! Eliminated!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #5 February 7, 2011 Quote Quote I just quit. Problem solved. Amen brother. Join Alfalfa (sp?) in the woman hater's club. Oh, I don't hate them. Far from it. I just don't play games; and that's a dangerous thing in today's world. Better to just watch.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #6 February 7, 2011 Quote alright, after many years, you're figuring out that whatever you try, and how hard you try, after a year, or maybe two at best, it's kinda getting impossible to keep a healthy relationship up. always been with the wrong girl? got a serious problem yourself? if you're married or been with the same partner, why did that happen? did you have a lot of failed relationships in the past? how did you get around the fact? got some good tips to share? Well, if you listen to all the blah blah out there, they will tell you something like 1 in 3 marriages fail... In fact, this statistic on "relationship failures" is deeply flawed because it doesn't even take into account all the failed attempts before (or after!) marriage!! Maybe if we started with the notion that like 95% to 98% of relationships fail we wouldn't have such hugely unrealistic expectations/hopes/dreams attached to every twat we go on a date with!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #7 February 7, 2011 Quotealright, after many years, you're figuring out that whatever you try, and how hard you try, after a year, or maybe two at best, it's kinda getting impossible to keep a healthy relationship up. Well that's not a total waste. You had a good year. Don't get pissed. You didn't invest too much time. Just keep looking. After all what option do we really have?Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #8 February 7, 2011 Quote Quote alright, after many years, you're figuring out that whatever you try, and how hard you try, after a year, or maybe two at best, it's kinda getting impossible to keep a healthy relationship up. always been with the wrong girl? got a serious problem yourself? if you're married or been with the same partner, why did that happen? did you have a lot of failed relationships in the past? how did you get around the fact? got some good tips to share? Well, if you listen to all the blah blah out there, they will tell you something like 1 in 3 marriages fail... In fact, this statistic on "relationship failures" is deeply flawed because it doesn't even take into account all the failed attempts before (or after!) marriage!! Maybe if we started with the notion that like 95% to 98% of relationships fail we wouldn't have such hugely unrealistic expectations/hopes/dreams attached to every twat we go on a date with!! well, in the most recent case, i went out with this "twat" for close to a year.. and while i was never really happy than right at the beginning, i still had hopes.. just got a call from a friend, and after talking for over an hour, i had to conclude that ALL there is, is hope.. kinda sad, but in the long run, hope is what's keeping me alive..“Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #9 February 7, 2011 It is better to try and crash your brains out then to never leave the couch and watch porn all day. The curse of having a dick. Girls just go out to get the local paper and they get hit on. Darn those tits! God know I love them!Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
deltron80 0 #10 February 7, 2011 1. learn how to swoop 2. get a panty-dropper 3. profit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #11 February 7, 2011 Quote Maybe if we started with the notion that like 95% to 98% of relationships fail we wouldn't have such hugely unrealistic expectations/hopes/dreams attached to every twat we go on a date with!! OK, fess up; Who's the dude posting from Nataly's account?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #12 February 7, 2011 Quote 1. learn how to swoop 2. get a panty-dropper 3. profit funny you mention, i been doing 90's for all of last season, am looking at 270's for the one to come, i got a MICRON.. i just need to learn on your last point.. ok, that was a post in jest, but anyway.. i should just shut the fuck up and suck it like a proper cupcake would! it's just so darn hard every now and then..“Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ManagingPrime 0 #13 February 7, 2011 Was not looking for a relationship at all. Got into one just before the holidays. This morning after a kiss and an I love you before work she broke up with me via text. I've never had a relationship last more than 2 years. Two months seems to be the limit on most. IDK. Random hookups can be fun, but they feel empty. Relationships have highs and lows and rarely work but you tend to understand yourself a bit better after them. I vote for just getting back to doing what you love in life. When the time comes someone will be attracted to the you that just does you and you might very well be attracted to them as well and the ride will start all over again. Just have fun. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #14 February 7, 2011 Quote Quote Maybe if we started with the notion that like 95% to 98% of relationships fail we wouldn't have such hugely unrealistic expectations/hopes/dreams attached to every twat we go on a date with!! OK, fess up; Who's the dude posting from Nataly's account? I'm serious!! We have unbelievably crazy hopes that even a bad relationship will somehow turn out to be The One, and even look at a ten-year partnership as a failure if it ends... It doesn't make sense!! The idea that anything would last a lifetime is generally quite mad... Why can't we appreciate the good times and move on?? (I don't know the answer, but I'm certainly asking myself the question...)"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sandi 0 #15 February 8, 2011 I met my ex in college when I was 20. We were together for 17 years. Now I've been single for several years and don't plan on ever getting married again. I don't have time for games and drama and I have no idea where I would meet anyone anyway. My life is good now why let someone in just so they can screw it up again. So my opinion on relationships is don't bother, nothing lasts anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #16 February 8, 2011 guess u're right.. i'm having enough lows in my life already, that even with a partner i stayed for almost a year, i still think it's worth to not just throw it away.. but yea, i'm old-fashioned. i dont have much in my life that brings me joy or "fullfilment".. but a girl i do actually like, yup, it happens..“Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #17 February 8, 2011 Quote I'm serious!! We have unbelievably crazy hopes that even a bad relationship will somehow turn out to be The One, and even look at a ten-year partnership as a failure if it ends... It doesn't make sense!! The idea that anything would last a lifetime is generally quite mad... Why can't we appreciate the good times and move on?? (I don't know the answer, but I'm certainly asking myself the question...) How you doin'?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ManagingPrime 0 #18 February 8, 2011 Quote i dont have much in my life that brings me joy or "fullfilment".. but a girl i do actually like, yup, it happens.. I think that might be your problem. I'm not saying you should throw away your relationship. But you have to put it in the proper perspective. People come and people go, but at the end of the day you are left with yourself. Get out there and mix it up. Look for other things that bring you joy and fullfilment. You just might find that it helps your relationship in the process. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #19 February 8, 2011 Quote Was not looking for a relationship at all. Got into one just before the holidays. This morning after a kiss and an I love you before work she broke up with me via text. I've never had a relationship last more than 2 years. Two months seems to be the limit on most. IDK. Random hookups can be fun, but they feel empty. Relationships have highs and lows and rarely work but you tend to understand yourself a bit better after them. I vote for just getting back to doing what you love in life. When the time comes someone will be attracted to the you that just does you and you might very well be attracted to them as well and the ride will start all over again. Just have fun. i support this post. each. and. every. word. Quote I think that might be your problem. I'm not saying you should throw away your relationship. But you have to put it in the proper perspective. People come and people go, but at the end of the day you are left with yourself. Get out there and mix it up. Look for other things that bring you joy and fullfilment. You just might find that it helps your relationship in the process. This one too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #20 February 8, 2011 I was for a very long time a serial monogamist. Did it up to getting married, and then for about the first year back in the "pool" now.....now brother I just hedge my best. I don't like it....but it's better than spending months solo wondering how ugly you are. But what I fear the most....it's only been 1ish years since I've been single and I'm only 34....but I find that I have really gotten set in my ways. Almost every week that goes by I seem to get more and more in a pattern and if some girl doesn't match up.....well....that's why I hedge my best. It's a numbers game.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #21 February 8, 2011 QuoteI met my ex in college when I was 20. We were together for 17 years. Now I've been single for several years and don't plan on ever getting married again. I don't have time for games and drama and I have no idea where I would meet anyone anyway. My life is good now why let someone in just so they can screw it up again. So my opinion on relationships is don't bother, nothing lasts anyway. Yup.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #22 February 8, 2011 Quote So my opinion on relationships is don't bother, nothing lasts anyway. Yup. +1 Just kidding. Now I'll leave this thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vskydiver 0 #23 February 8, 2011 Quote Quote So my opinion on relationships is don't bother, nothing lasts anyway. Yup. +1 Just kidding. Now I'll leave this thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #24 February 8, 2011 Quote Quote So my opinion on relationships is don't bother, nothing lasts anyway. Yup. +1 Just kidding. Now I'll leave this thread. Is your doghouse heated?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arvoitus 1 #25 February 8, 2011 Quote Quote alright, after many years, you're figuring out that whatever you try, and how hard you try, after a year, or maybe two at best, it's kinda getting impossible to keep a healthy relationship up. always been with the wrong girl? got a serious problem yourself? if you're married or been with the same partner, why did that happen? did you have a lot of failed relationships in the past? how did you get around the fact? got some good tips to share? Well, if you listen to all the blah blah out there, they will tell you something like 1 in 3 marriages fail... In fact, this statistic on "relationship failures" is deeply flawed because it doesn't even take into account all the failed attempts before (or after!) marriage!! Maybe if we started with the notion that like 95% to 98% of relationships fail we wouldn't have such hugely unrealistic expectations/hopes/dreams attached to every twat we go on a date with!! Its 1 out of 2 (50%) of marriages that end up in a divorce. And ~2 out of 3 (70%) of the divorces are initiated by women. There simply isn't any rational reason for a man to marry these days.Your rights end where my feelings begin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites