AviationTD 0 #51 March 22, 2011 I am no expert in this, but you got to make a change in your life. That's the bottom line. If you are unhappy, you are at idle speed. Only you can change the speed. Go out there and learn something new. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piisfish 140 #52 March 22, 2011 QuoteIn all seriousness...which won't last more than three posts...how do you bump out of being down.getting better "happens", and it's not "engineered"scissors beat paper, paper beat rock, rock beat wingsuit - KarlM Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 616 #53 March 22, 2011 Just a suggestion - read Brian Germains book Transcending Fear. I am not totally into his whole energy and vibes approach but I agree with most of what he says. In summary it is what you focus on that counts. If you continually cling to negative or down thoughts you will be unhappy. If you focus on what is good in your life you will feel better. It is like exercise it takes effort and practice to get good at it but you can do it. A really stupid thing that I find is if I don't exercise and simply work dawn to dusk I get down and lethargic. It doesn't take much a jog around the block or going for a swim works for me.Experienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #54 March 22, 2011 Quote Just smile at yourself in the mirror for 30 minutes. OMFG...HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! (for those who don't get it, do a search!)She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #55 March 22, 2011 That's damn funny right there! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kiyami 0 #56 March 22, 2011 I've never been that captured or impressed with the whole Chris McCandless story, but I concur with the first line of this quote... “So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” - Christopher McCandless What always sharpens my focus is reminding myself we are only here for a short time and nothing is guaranteed after that. So, just make the most of it - achieve the most you can achieve. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JerseyShawn 0 #57 March 22, 2011 I think shah is pretty bad ass for letting people on a public forum know he's having trouble. It takes moxy to admit something like that. No one wants to be the person with problems. Hopefully you shah can let the people in your life know too. And shah, where are you? You're being too silent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #58 March 22, 2011 QuoteAnd shah, where are you? You're being too silent. I'm listeningLife through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #59 March 22, 2011 Quote My advice: 1. If the weather sucks, take a weekend trip to Florida to jump your ass off. Jumping a lot in a short period of time is like shock therapy -- I did this around year end 2006 in one of the worst depressions of my life and came back to the city feeling great. Quote also a good idea! Florida makes people happy! Also since it's been winter, it could be a case of SAD, seasonal affective disorder. Do you feel this way at this time of year every year? You might want to put some research into it. And a good dose of sun is one of the recommended remedies. So come down to Florida and get a tan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #60 March 22, 2011 Quote That's damn funny right there! Well, it's pretty sad to see that the only advice you guys have to offer for being happy is to make fun of other people. If you really believed that we were delusional or suffered for some type of mental handicap, why would you even bother to argue with us? Would you make it a habit of going around to mental institutions and f'ing with the patience? Would you go around to special ed classes and argue with retards? What makes your lives so miserable that you have to mock people in order to be happy and feel better about yourselves? I bet you guys were bullies, weren't you? Would you like to man up and talk about your insecurities? It's Ok to cry...let it out.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #61 March 22, 2011 My apologies for having a sense of humor that offends you so greatly. So, it's probably wrong of me to appreciate the humor in your response comparing yourself to "special ed classes and and arguing with retards"??? No, I was never a bully. I just have an odd sense of humor. Nor do I have any insecurities much less ones that I have to entrust to some phantom being beliefs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #62 March 22, 2011 Quote My apologies for having a sense of humor that offends you so greatly. Just an observation that you offered no advice on being happy...that's what this thread is about. Quote So, it's probably wrong of me to appreciate the humor in your response comparing yourself to "special ed classes and and arguing with retards"??? I guess you didn't comprehend what I actually said. But no, it's not wrong to appreciate that humor...I found it funny as well. I try to be as entertaining as I can while still attempting to make some kind of point. Quote No, I was never a bully. Ok, just checking...didn't really think so. You seem like a nice guy for the most part. You were actually very welcoming and eager to show me the ropes at Z-hills, but I never made it back to FLA. Quote Nor do I have any insecurities. Well that's a good thing if you're telling the truth...do you have any proof?Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #63 March 22, 2011 "Just an observation that you offered no advice on being happy...that's what this thread is about. " Fair enough...maybe I'm somewhat playing with Shah. We've seen very similar posts in the past and it seems he doesn't care to listen to the advice some of us offer. He'll come back next week with the "things are great! I'm dating x number of girls! we went to a fabulous dinner! life is awesome!" responses. Shah, I don't intend to attack you in any way buddy...sometimes life has ups and downs. My advice: Endure the low points. The highs could not be any more exhilarating, nor can we ever possibly see what is in store for us. Make wise decisions in your journey. 4 years ago I couldn't see my life ever being good again...I was pretty much down in the dumps too. I put my head down, got busy with work, paid off $100k in debt, bought a house, improved my job situation, improved my relationships with my girls, found the most amazing friend and partner I have ever spent time with, and am VERY close to seeing a large chunk of debt also being paid off. The coming year for me will be unreal. It just keeps getting better. Sometimes being alone can be hard on us all. Friends, family, work, hobbies and interests, even some reflective alone time should see you through this. That's about as much from the heart as I can give you. So before I puke, it's time for lunch. pe@ce. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #64 March 22, 2011 QuoteJust a suggestion - read Brian Germains book Transcending Fear. At least that way he'd get some sleep.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 616 #65 March 22, 2011 Quote Quote Just a suggestion - read Brian Germains book Transcending Fear. At least that way he'd get some sleep. That's a bit of a harsh review. It could be worse I could be suggesting he reads a collection of 66 booksExperienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
squirrel 0 #66 March 22, 2011 look at the bright side. at least you are making your payments on your negative $40k equity house. part of my job is to knock on the doors of those who are not, and politely ask them to get the F out. ________________________________ Where is Darwin when you need him? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #67 March 22, 2011 Quote Quote Quote Just a suggestion - read Brian Germains book Transcending Fear. At least that way he'd get some sleep. That's a bit of a harsh review. It could be worse I could be suggesting he reads a collection of 66 books Ha Ha Hardy Har Har!!!Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ron 10 #68 March 22, 2011 http://www.youtube.com/user/MontyPython?blend=2&ob=1 Whenever I feel bad.... I ask myself one question. "What would make me happy right now?" I answer that question honestly and then IMMEDIATELY take a step to start moving in that direction. You can't wallow in a pool of self pity if you are moving. The one caveat is you can only control things, not people. And this is bang on: "Having a minor in Psych means that you have about 5% more understanding of the subject that the average schmuck. Assuming that no one knows more than you do at that level is ridiculous." I have plenty of skydiving medals.... You think I wouldn't ask Thomas Hughes or Mark Kirkby for advice? If your feelings are more than temporary..... Seek a pro to talk things over with."No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
virgin-burner 1 #69 March 22, 2011 Quote Would you go around to special ed classes and argue with retards? if i feel like doing that, i hop over to SC! “Some may never live, but the crazy never die.” -Hunter S. Thompson "No. Try not. Do... or do not. There is no try." -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,586 #70 March 22, 2011 That's a really good post. Both about figuring out what will get you closer to happy, and about only being in charge of things, not people. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #71 March 22, 2011 Have you tried writing everything down? I don't mean on here... I mean for yourself - being totally honest and uncensored and letting it all out. And doing this on a regular basis - not just one outpouring... Dunno... Sometimes putting pen to paper can help. I've kept a diary for as long as I can remember and if nothing else, it's interesting to look back at the evolution of my feelings. Heck, just reading it back makes me feel good because it shows me what a dumbass I've been and a lot of it is rather funny in hindsight!!"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #72 March 23, 2011 I have a few ideas now...thank youLife through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #73 March 23, 2011 Quote How do you bump out of unhappy? Ummmm - Do a Bump?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #74 March 23, 2011 Quote Quote How do you bump out of unhappy? Ummmm - Do a Bump? ]Or NotYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #75 March 23, 2011 Quote Quote Quote How do you bump out of unhappy? Ummmm - Do a Bump? ]Or Not Go with out Ding!I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
