DrewEckhardt 0 #26 March 22, 2011 Quote Other than sell the house at a $40k loss and leave the burbs and move into the city? Or rent it out at a loss and move to a less expensive place in the city. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,584 #27 March 22, 2011 Get a roommate. Either you'll be helping someone who needs it (i.e. get one without great other alternatives, but good references), or you'll have something new to complain about Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
squirrel 0 #28 March 22, 2011 Quote Other than sell the house at a $40k loss and leave the burbs and move into the city? quit your bitching! i have several properties, upside down by hundreds of thousands. but life is long, yes, it is. unless a bus hits your or your reserve fails. real estate always goes up, unless its next to a nuclear plant. speaking of which, why dont you fly to Japan, and help out some people that are really hurting. listen to the song "everybody hurts" by REM. ok, rant over. i get depressed too in the winter. but like another poster said, go for a walk, hike, run. i hike with my dogs every other day in the mountains, rain, snow, or shine. oh, and my dogs have brought me every great girl i have loved. ________________________________ Where is Darwin when you need him? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
squirrel 0 #29 March 22, 2011 by the way, i have 2 manic depression brothers, and multiple sisters that suffer from depression too. fight it..... and it ... will... not.... win. ________________________________ Where is Darwin when you need him? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,109 #30 March 22, 2011 >how do you bump out of being down. Do something you like. Rappel off buildings. Climb trees. Take pictures of things in public places. Go ice skating. Go to a rock gym. Learn to homebrew. Take a course. Walk in the woods. Go to a library and read. Volunteer for something mindless. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #31 March 22, 2011 Just smile at yourself in the mirror for 30 minutes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnRich 4 #32 March 22, 2011 QuoteYou can't live at work and then the rest of your life with the music going to keep the mind out of the dark. Any "viable" suggestions? If you're bored when you're not at work, then get off your ass and find something to do that interests you. Go to museums, join some clubs and participate in their activities, DO SOMETHING. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 9 #33 March 22, 2011 I wish I could offer some better advice ~ Im in a position too of being bummed out ~ mostly because of all the changes going on (First kid on the way, Graduating grad school, looking for a job) For me, exercise is the thing that helps. A good sweat each day will at least keep the upsetness at bay long enough to accomplish wha I need to.=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #34 March 22, 2011 Quote>how do you bump out of being down. Do something you like. Rappel off buildings. Climb trees. Take pictures of things in public places. Go ice skating. Go to a rock gym. Learn to homebrew. Take a course. Walk in the woods. Go to a library and read. Volunteer for something mindless. Those activities will certainly occupy the mind, but I took his post as asking how do you become happy with yourself? He already said skydiving, work, music and his friends make him happy, but when he's by himself "it's death" and he just can't "keep the mind out of the dark." It's pretty obvious to me that this is basic spirituality 101...I hear it all the time. You can try to satisfy it with everything the world has to offer, but it's only so long before you're disappointed and depressed again trying to fill that void with more vanity. There is nothing wrong with activities occupying the mind, but I don't depend on them for happiness nor to keep me distracted from my hopeless depression. There is something wrong when you can't just sit down in solitude and be happy with a big fat cheese eatin' grin on your face, even if you've been jaded or have done some shady stuff. There is a soulution...and it doesn't have to be advertised...It's personal.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The_Don 0 #35 March 22, 2011 I am SHAH! I am badass! Pick one .. I am NOT being loud. I'm being enthusiastic! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #36 March 22, 2011 It doesn't work for everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muffie 0 #37 March 22, 2011 Quote I am SHAH! I am badass! Pick one .. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,109 #38 March 22, 2011 >There is nothing wrong with activities occupying the mind, but I don't >depend on them for happiness nor to keep me distracted from my >hopeless depression. I took his question as "what can I do that will nudge me out of a temporary depression?" I agree; those things don't work in the long term if there are underlying problems. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #39 March 22, 2011 Quote It doesn't work for everyone. True, but like poker, you have to learn how to play and give yourself a chance to win by playing your cards right and learning the odds and having the right mind to recognize all of your outs. Same thing with working out...in the begining you're gonna be tired and sore, and may not have the heart to follow through the first several weeks let alone the rest of your life. I would certainly "sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, saying, 'This man began to build and was not able to finish.'"Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
labrys 0 #41 March 22, 2011 QuoteIn all seriousness...which won't last more than three posts...how do you bump out of being down. How long have you been "down"? If it's not that long, just suck it up cupcake. If you expect everything to be "up" all the time you're in for a very depressing life. If you don't see any way to improvise with what you have to make things better, go seek help. Having a minor in Psych means that you have about 5% more understanding of the subject that the average schmuck. Assuming that no one knows more than you do at that level is ridiculous. If you do see or understand how to improve your feelings or motivations, then just fucking go do it without whining about it here. If your life isn't working out for you in your current set of rules, maybe you should date a fat chick. I hear it's a lot like riding a moped.Owned by Remi #? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #42 March 22, 2011 Quote Sorry, bad choice of analogies...For some reason I thought you were familiar with poker and working out. My bad...Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 892 #43 March 22, 2011 My perspective was that making a comparative analogy of religion to poker or working out is just crazy. Poker is logical. Working out has proven and obvious results. Religion has neither. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #44 March 22, 2011 Well, like you said... "it doesn't work for everyone." Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
npgraphicdesign 3 #45 March 22, 2011 I'll keep it simple: do something that makes you happy. If it's not skydiving, go have a drink with a friend and talk about life. If it's not a drink with a friend, go to the gym. If it's not the gym, go do something else. Oh and an addendum to the above: none of it will make you happy. It will make you feel BETTER...but happiness isn't achieved just by one or two or three activities...it's an overall state of mind which takes time to achieve and a combinations of factors. You'll get there eventually...but start with one step at a time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #46 March 22, 2011 QuoteIn all seriousness...which won't last more than three posts...how do you bump out of being down. It's a few weeks till skydiving starts so can't do that. I've tried the usual meet head "work it out" and it's just not me. Medication just not for me. Self medication is not my thing. Friends are ok, but well when you get home....it's death And yes you can give me the usual line about helping others bla bla..do it, done it, done with it. You can't live at work and then the rest of your life with the music going to keep the mind out of the dark. Any "viable" suggestions? Other than sell the house at a $40k loss and leave the burbs and move into the city? Get a "cabin" at the beach. http://jerseyshore.craigslist.org/boa/2274197552.html Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stevebabin 0 #47 March 22, 2011 Quote Well, like you said... "it doesn't work for everyone." Right. It only works for the delusio...Hey, wait a minute... Shah, Coreece may have the perfect treatment plan for you. Check it out."Science, logic and reason will fly you to the moon. Religion will fly you into buildings." "Because figuring things out is always better than making shit up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coreece 190 #48 March 22, 2011 Quote Quote Well, like you said... "it doesn't work for everyone." Right. It only works for the delusio...Hey, wait a minute... Shah, Coreece may have the perfect treatment plan for you. Check it out. Well why not? The delusions of self granduer found in Babinism really don't seem to be working out.Your secrets are the true reflection of who you really are... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #49 March 22, 2011 You all need to accept FOAMY as your Lord am Master. You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterblaster72 0 #50 March 22, 2011 Quote I am SHAH! I am badass! Pick one .. He sticks his neck out for potential ridicule more than anyone on this site does...I admire the OP for his honesty and hilarity. It's human to have seemingly contradictory qualities as you're trying to get at in your post. I've been through some very nasty depression and posting on this site for advice has the potential to make things worse -- while some do try to help in earnest, many who have it in for you will take the opportunity to shove your face in the dirt. My advice: 1. If the weather sucks, take a weekend trip to Florida to jump your ass off. Jumping a lot in a short period of time is like shock therapy -- I did this around year end 2006 in one of the worst depressions of my life and came back to the city feeling great. 2. Intense cardio as someone above suggested -- it definitely helps. 3. Visit the city and I'll introduce you to a few friends of mine who jump at the Ranch. 4. Write out what you're feeling and get it on paper and read it over to get an objective perspective on what might be eating you up. 5. Take a long walk. If you're near the beach, even better -- that's a great place to walk 6. If you have an intellectual interest, buy books on the subject and watch documentaries on the subject on YouTube to keep your mind occupied. 7. Clean the shit out of your house and rearrange it a bit if necessary 8. Call your friends and/or family to talk 9. Treat yourself to a good meal at a classy restaurant 10. Get professional help if the problem persists -- your minor in psychology has no bearing on this. Feel better... Be humble, ask questions, listen, learn, follow the golden rule, talk when necessary, and know when to shut the fuck up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
