skymama 37 #101 March 23, 2011 Three years ago, I sold my house at a great profit, got married and sunk every dollar into a large, gorgeous house on a little lake. My Contractor Dad designed a $75,000 remodel of the house, every room was specifically suited to our needs and it's a custom home in a production neighborhood. Now I'm being forced to sell it; I signed a contract on Monday that will make me lose $40,000. Does it bite? HELL, yes! Have I cried about it, thinking about how that money could have gone to so many other things, had I only known my marriage would break up? Definitely! Am I going to be able to live in anything near the standard that I've been living in the last few years? No fucking way! But, I'm just looking at it as a chapter in my life. I'm going to lose a fortune. Ok, so I have to work hard at being even more frugal for a few years. I'm losing my dream home. Ok, it's really just real estate, I can make a home anywhere. Will I be happier even though I will lose all that money and my big house? You better believe it. Even though you'll lose a lot of money, the choice is still yours. Last I heard, you have a good job and make a lot of money. You'll recoop your losses if you sell.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
masterblaster72 0 #102 March 23, 2011 Quote Am I reading this right? You're "unhappy" because your "sexy, sleek, sensual and comforting" home isn't close enough to "all the action" and "spontaneity is an impossibility ." Pfft. I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I feel for you. Yeah, that's EXACTLY what he meant. Anything for a jab, eh. Be humble, ask questions, listen, learn, follow the golden rule, talk when necessary, and know when to shut the fuck up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #103 March 23, 2011 Quote Quote Am I reading this right? You're "unhappy" because your "sexy, sleek, sensual and comforting" home isn't close enough to "all the action" and "spontaneity is an impossibility ." Pfft. I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I feel for you. Yeah, that's EXACTLY what he meant. Anything for a jab, eh. That's basically how i read it too, that and he'll run at a loss if he sells. On the grand scale of poor poor me situations it is kinda lame.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #104 March 23, 2011 You know that saying "money can't buy happiness"? It's true. Maybe Shah does have money and a great house. That doesn't guarantee his happiness, just a comfortable life. He's not claiming to be starving or poor, just unhappy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #105 March 23, 2011 Quote You know that saying "money can't buy happiness"? It's true. Maybe Shah does have money and a great house. That doesn't guarantee his happiness, just a comfortable life. He's not claiming to be starving or poor, just unhappy. Well then Cheer up eggheaded Perisan Emo kidYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,095 #106 March 23, 2011 >But, the location is anything but suitable for rebuilding one's life. I don't think the location you are living in will have too much to do with how well you "rebuild your life." That will come from inside you, not from the geography that surrounds you. If you like the condo, then stay there. Don't move in hopes that new surroundings will fix things for you. OTOH if you find a place you'd rather live - you like the area better, find a good deal etc - then don't let being underwater stop you. If you wait until the market recovers, then you'll get more for your condo, but you'll also have to pay that much more for the next one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JerseyShawn 0 #107 March 24, 2011 Im sure these fellow Americans would love to be "stuck" in your situation Shah: http://m.youtube.com/index?desktop_uri=%2F&gl=US#/watch?xl=xl_blazer&v=3Hddm-Y148c Suck it up. You have it better than a lot of people. Take a trip to lakewood, nj and visit the tent city there. Bring some food and water because they're really "stuck". Try donating something, the littlest bit might make you realize how much you have. Complain when you have nothing man. Be happy. Smile. Go jump!.......because you can afford it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #108 March 24, 2011 Quote>But, the location is anything but suitable for rebuilding one's life. I don't think the location you are living in will have too much to do with how well you "rebuild your life." That will come from inside you, not from the geography that surrounds you. If you like the condo, then stay there. Don't move in hopes that new surroundings will fix things for you. OTOH if you find a place you'd rather live - you like the area better, find a good deal etc - then don't let being underwater stop you. If you wait until the market recovers, then you'll get more for your condo, but you'll also have to pay that much more for the next one. Bill come on... isn't he in Joisey..... come on... That alone would depress the FUCK out of me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #109 March 24, 2011 Quote Be happy. Smile. Go jump!.......because you can afford it. Shit Go buy a slice of Pizza... because you can afford it.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #110 March 24, 2011 How do you bump out of unhappy? Bumping usually makes me very happy. How do you not?I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maxwellman23 0 #111 March 24, 2011 Bro, Start running, start drinking H2O exclusively, start taking fish oil, start meditating, start Cognitive Behavioral Therapy(CBT) stop dwelling on negative thoughts, instead let them easily pass as you focus on all the good in your life. You are happy, you know itI am ALIVE! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #112 March 24, 2011 Quote Bro, Start running, start drinking H2O exclusively, start taking fish oil, start meditating, start Cognitive Behavioral Therapy(CBT) stop dwelling on negative thoughts, instead let them easily pass as you focus on all the good in your life. You are happy, you know it That sounds like way to much workI prefer to just say aghh Fuck it and Smile, Anyone who is in a position to sit and type responses on this forum, (who is not clinically depressed) Should just pretty much HTFU and get over themselves. We all have a great deal to be happy about, If you are not, then it's pretty much a self imposed choice.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #113 March 24, 2011 Quote Well then Cheer up eggheaded Perisan Emo kid I'd like to dedicate this next song to our eggheaded Persian Emo kid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srpwqf2MWAw"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #114 March 24, 2011 Quote Even though you'll lose a lot of money, the choice is still yours.. Yes Sky that's what will have to happen in the not too distant future. It's going to hurt financially and emotionally but you are right. My being down comes from me trying to "work out" a way in which I would not get too hurt or that maybe I could forgo the sale. After all, I like the place. It's just not located where there is much going on. You can't find fish in the Sahara...it helps to be around "active" people and not in a sleepy bedroom community. And that loop of consciousness can feed on it self and just grow. Such that a simple issue can become an overwhelming mountain. And I wasn't sure how to get around it or deal with it. Thus why I asked for advice and received some very good advice. The meditation does seem to work. It clears the mind. Again thank you. (I'm 100% sure someone will find fault with this post and flame away)Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #115 March 24, 2011 QuoteIt's a shame really, I love my "place" I've worked hard to make it mine. From the deep red walls, to the hard wood floors and the black leather couches it is me in every sense of the word. And there is nothing more satisfying than having a girl come over for dinner and have her use adjective such as; sexy, sleek, sensual and comforting to describe the place I've worked so hard to make. It's all material things. IMO, you can't find happiness with "things". I'm not saying to sell everything and live in a dumb. Suck it up, sell the place, and find happiness starting over and rebuild the "perfect" place that will impress the "girls".May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 883 #116 March 24, 2011 Selling everything and living in a converted school bus at the local DZ is a much better approach. It's amazing to wake up to the sound of an aircraft, roll over and open the emergency exit door to see a beautiful sunrise. It helped me to appreciate the little things in life again. No, I didn't fully cut away - but I did spend a great deal of time there through my difficulties in life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #117 March 24, 2011 Quote Selling everything and living in a converted school bus at the local DZ is a much better approach. It's amazing to wake up to the sound of an aircraft, roll over and open the emergency exit door to see a beautiful sunrise. It helped me to appreciate the little things in life again. No, I didn't fully cut away - but I did spend a great deal of time there through my difficulties in life. Must have been fun. Was this a RV or...just a rolling bedroom?Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 883 #118 March 24, 2011 Basically an RV. Bed room, bathroom, closet, kitchen, living room with sleeper couch and a 50" plasma, a deck on top. But it was a school bus! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kiyami 0 #119 March 24, 2011 QuoteYes Sky that's what will have to happen in the not too distant future. It's going to hurt financially and emotionally but you are right.With the right mindset it doesn't hurt for long. People here have alluded to you having a good/well paid job and if this is the case I wouldn't let $40k hold me in a location or situation I wasn't happy in. If you've identified that you'd be happier in a different location - just move. Or why not rent your current property for a year and go get a rental in a preferred location to see how it works out? There might be some imbalance in the financials but probably less than $40k Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #120 March 24, 2011 Quote Basically an RV. Bed room, bathroom, closet, kitchen, living room with sleeper couch and a 50" plasma, a deck on top. But it was a school bus! WOW! NICE! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 883 #121 March 24, 2011 I paid all of $800 for the place. Sold it for $1200! Happiness comes in the strangest places. You'll find yours...just don't give up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver604 0 #122 March 24, 2011 Find a Lifeline Practioner that also does SET http://drdarrenweissman.com/ SET is Sensory Evolvement Technique, new form of energy healing that works amazing. LifeLine,, have a look at the above link "The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it." - Michelangelo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #123 March 24, 2011 Ah JUDAS! Just got a call from my accountant, reminding me that next year I will have to pay more in taxes because I'm single now! I mean WTF! Breathe breathe breathe...no it's all zen it's all zen...no need to be sad...life is good...it's only an $3k I'll be loosing...stuck in a condo I hate....all good.... If you need me I will be under my desk .Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #124 March 24, 2011 I thought you loved your condo.... if you hate it move. Just up and leave. I know plenty of people have done it & are very happy. Sounds like you need a major change in life. Just do it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #125 March 24, 2011 There you go again with the negative waves: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KuStsFW4EmQ "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
