Choose your poison?

[DiverMike 5]

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for there is otherwise nothing wrong with me.

Ok - does anybody else see the humor in this?

For the same reason I jump off a perfectly good diving board.

[shah269 0]

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for there is otherwise nothing wrong with me.

Ok - does anybody else see the humor in this?

I did....
Isn't it great you can sit in back of a dull meeting playing angry birds and surfing the net?

But yes...I did.

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[JohnMitchell 16]

Why can't you just walk away and rent somewhere?

[Southern_Man 0]

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l. A poison which I bring on myself via anger and frustration

Here, in a nutshell, is your problem.

You can't escape your problems as easily as dumping a condo because the source of your problems will be with you whereever you go.

"What if there were no hypothetical questions?"

[Marinus 0]

You know there's other ways of combating depression besides popping pills, right?

Physical exercise would be one of the first things that come to mind, even low impact exercise like cycling and walking has significant beneficial effects on one's mood.

[Ron 10]

Once again, you ignored everything I said.

Take the pills or quit whining about your life. All you do is cry about it and come on here and ask advice then ignore the advice given to you.

1. Take the pills

or

2. Take control of your life in the smallest possible way.

To everyone else..... He clearly does not care about any advice given even after he asks.

"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334

[DrewEckhardt 0]

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I'm very sorry I live in the North and have a good job here thus living in a van is not an option.
I may hate the place but I will not go from the frying pan into the fire. Thus a short sale could be in excess of $100k.

Or $20K/year over five years assuming you pay it (for instance, some states' foreclosure laws are single action so banks getting judicial foreclosures have used up their one act and can't then sue you for the deficiency judgement).

With your six figure salary that'll put a dent in your toy budget but should bring you more happiness.

[skymama 37]

Your mental health is worth losing the money if you sell the condo at a loss. Yes, it will take a few years for you to recoop your losses. You have a good job, you'll make more money. You know what needs to be done, but it seems you're lacking the courage to do it.

*Note: I lost $60,000 in my divorce and sale of my house last year. I know it hurts when it happens. It hurts less now almost a year later and I consider it water under the bridge. I don't dwell on it, I have just moved onto the next chapter of my life. It's part of my past, but it doesn't define my future.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[kallend 2,150]

I think you need to get laid.

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The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one.

[wmw999 2,589]

I'm going to suggest that you call Dave Ramsey, the financial guru, and ask for advice on the financial side.

Because dealing with that, and discussing some of the possible options, might just give you more of a feeling of control over your life.

Yeah, he's very conservative politically and religiously, but he's all about doing whatever makes the most sense both financially and for your life. It's worth a shot. Make a list, one side ups and one side downs, and figure out how you're going to phrase the question.

If you don't want to take the pills, then you'll need to find your way through this. Maybe you can rent to some nice little old lady -- you lose a little each month on the rent, but not as much as if you were to walk on teh condo.

Good luck either way -- you're letting this take over your life, and you need something else to fill hte hole, don't you.

Wendy P.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[billvon 3,119]

>I'm very sorry I live in the North and have a good job here thus living in a van is not
>an option.

Sure it is. Heaters are cheap and many places have showers.

>If it came to that I'll just take the pills, numb myself to the situation that is causing the
>problem, and live a chemically comfortable life.

If that's what you want.

>But then again waking up every morning and getting more and more angry until I
>leave for the office and doing everything I can not to be back in the place till the last
>minute.....I don't think that's healthy either.

So don't go back. Stay with a friend. Rent it out so you're not losing so much money.

>it's a no win situation....

There are lots of ways you can win. You just have to decide that you want to win. You've made yourself into a loser with your definition of your choices; you can choose to take a third path if you want.

[airdvr 210]

Quit being a pity-whore.

Please don't dent the planet.

Destinations by Roxanne

[Arvoitus 1]

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In which time the property lost another $50k worth (15%) its value.

There is the source of your problems.

The condo isn't worth anymore then someone is willing to pay for it.

You need to admit to yourself that you got played. Just because you paid X amount of dollars for it doesn't mean its actually worth that.

The longer you drag this on, the longer you're going to be miserable.

Your rights end where my feelings begin.

[ryoder 1,590]

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Your mental health is worth losing the money if you sell the condo at a loss.

Meh; We think that ship has already sailed.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[TheBachelor 5]

Based on what you think AD meds will do to you, I think whatever doctor or counselor that you've been seeing has failed to do his or her job. I'm sure you (unknowingly) are around quite a few people on meds, and you probably never could pick them out as people "dulled to reality."

My suggestion: Try the meds for a month or two. If you don't like how they affect you, then stop taking them. That being said, don't expect medications to work overnight. Listen to what your doctor has to say about how long they may take to work.

There are battered women? I've been eating 'em plain all of these years...

[Ron 10]

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Based on what you think AD meds will do to you, I think whatever doctor or counselor that you've been seeing has failed to do his or her job.

OH, I am sure the Dr explained it correctly and he just is throwing a pity party and exaggerating...

"I'm the only single person under the age of 50 in a complex of 250 units."

"I'm presented with a no win situation."

"I can't and [SIC] the thought of being a drug addict....."

"living with a shit eating drug induced grin on my face"

"No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms." -- Thomas Jefferson, Thomas Jefferson Papers, 334

[shah269 0]

Thanks mom I'm going to make an appointment with a few well educated folks and see how big of a hit it will be and just live with it. There is a time and a place for medication taking for this type of problem....in my opinion would be abuse.

All thank you for your various points of view and advice. May you have a great evening

Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay.

The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

[cocheese 0]

Pills kill.

Smoke some weed and be thankful you're not us, reading this stuff.

[ryoder 1,590]

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Thanks mom I'm going to make an appointment with a few well educated folks and see how big of a hit it will be and just live with it. There is a time and a place for medication taking for this type of problem....in my opinion would be abuse.

All thank you for your various points of view and advice. May you have a great evening

"He's fine as long as he gets his medications..."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjerGldHsD8

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[charlie5 0]

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God darn it i don't want to be a drug addict....living with a shit eating drug induced grin on my face....

Sounds better than being miserable as fuck

The feather butts bounce off ya like raindrops hitting a battle-star when they come in too fast...kinda funny to watch. - airtwardo

[skymama 37]

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There is a time and a place for medication taking for this type of problem....in my opinion would be abuse.

Believe it or not, I do believe you're strong enough to move forward without the pills. The pills are a crutch, they're not going to relieve you of your situation. You're going to have to do that yourself. Talking to a financial advisor seems like a great step. Just be open to his or her suggestions, don't poo-poo them and make excuses like you tend to do here. DO something to change things, don't just exist.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[CSpenceFLY 1]

With all due respect, you have no idea if he needs meds or not. He should rely on a professional for a diagnosis and any and all advise on starting and stopping meds. I've seen the outcome of someone who decides if and when to take their meds.

I predict him justifying keeping himself in his train wreck of a life and because he's not going to do anything about the actual cause of his unhappiness 5-7 years from now after selling the condo,buying a new car and finding a super model that is fucked up enough to marry him, he'll still be the same miserable fuck.

[deltron80 0]

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Pills kill.

Smoke some weed and be thankful you're not us, reading this stuff.

I concur with this assessment.

[skymama 37]

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With all due respect, you have no idea if he needs meds or not. He should rely on a professional for a diagnosis and any and all advise on starting and stopping meds. I've seen the outcome of someone who decides if and when to take their meds.

True, I agree with you there and I am in no means downplaying any mental illness as being a true condition. I only said that based on the type of posts that he makes. Seeing as how I've never met Shah in person nor am I a doctor, I'm sure it is quite possible that I am wrong.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[tmccann 1]

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For me after talking to a professional it was rather straight forward regarding situational depression and dealing with it.

1) Get out of the situation....for some this is a new job or find a way out of the situation.

2) Here take these pills twice a day and you will be more numb to the situation.

As said before, if #2 is truly what your doc said, find another. Or just find another and get a second opinion anyway; can't hurt. If he also suggests them, take the damned pills. If you've gotten to the point where you are so displeased by how things are going that you have sought professional help to deal with it, it's usually a good idea to follow the advice the professional gives you.

Hopefully once your meds do their job, you'll be able to crawl out of your head and apply some of that fancy "learning" from b-school and take a crack at actually doing something about your financial problem with your condo. If the unwashed masses can get through it, you with your good job, flashy car, and god-given good looks should be able to put it behind you in a jiffy. Then, if you feel better and think you've put the problem behind you and your super-sized ego can't handle taking prescription medication, talk to your doc again about the meds.

[Mods please take this as "tough love" as opposed to "personal attack"]