Had to put my cat down tonight :( A first for me and I hate it

[catfishhunter 2]

Had to put my cat down tonight. I got her when I first got clean from a girl in the same out patient group I was in. I really didn't want the cat but was after the kitty...she was going to send her to the pound and since she was at least 3 possibly 6 she most likely would have been put down. Me trying to be the hero offers to take her in while she got on her feet. Well it turned out Charlie Girl would be my constant companion for over 11 years while nothing ever came of the girl whom she came from.

We took her to the vet 3 weeks ago because she wasn't cleaning herself. I knew it was bad but the vet said it might be an infection so we tried antibiotics. She just got worse and stopped eating 2 days ago. Turns out she had a tumor that had grown under her tongue and down her throat which had left her unable to open her mouth to eat or drink. :( me the wife and boy all went to the vet and said our good byes this evening. I had to take my son out and my wife stayed with her until the end..

I've had a lot of pets in my childhood and a lot of deaths but I've never had to put one down...this really sucks....I'm going to miss my friend and so is my wife and son. I can say while it really hurts it was a good experience for our family to be able to share this part of life with our son and let him experience the emotions and love and understanding of the circle of life. I am so proud of him and how he has handled his emotions both of sorrow and of happiness in knowing she is no longer hurting and we were lucky to have her for so long.

Ok im done just needed to put some things down in writing...I never thought I would ever be crying over a cat BSBD Charlie

Oh and yes there will be an Ash dive...

MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT
Life is Short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERY DAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose.

[1969912 0]

I'm sorry to hear that. It does suck. Been through it twice with cats. I believe it's better than letting them suffer, but that probably doesn't mean much to you at this point.

"Once we got to the point where twenty/something's needed a place on the corner that changed the oil in their cars we were doomed . . ."
-NickDG

[D22369 0]

Its amazing how a pet can lift you up when your down and make life a little richer, I sure wish they had longer lifespans

I am sorry for your loss

Roy

They say I suffer from insanity.... But I actually enjoy it.

[wolfriverjoe 1,523]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
It hurts. It really, really hurts.

They weasel their furry little way into our hearts and leave us far too soon.

"There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy

"~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo

[mistercwood 287]

Sorry for your loss, bro...

You are playing chicken with a planet - you can't dodge and planets don't blink. Act accordingly.

[oldwomanc6 60]

My heart goes out to you.

I can empathize. I've had to do this,it is heart-wrenching, and it sucks. It is never easy to say good-bye to a beloved companion.

I wish you and your family comfort.

lisa
WSCR 594
FB 1023
CBDB 9

[Mr.Bill 0]

Here is something that may help with your loss

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

[FlyingRhenquest 1]

I was listening to a Buddhist give a talk on love, and he makes the point that all the things we love, we will one day become separated from, but that just because they are gone does not mean you have to stop loving them. Mortality is something we have to deal with, but you will have memories to cherish of your cat for the rest of your life.

I hate having to put pets down. I used to keep ferrets, which don't live very long at all. They still come to visit me in my dreams, from time to time, and I wake up smiling. They'll never really be gone for me, as long as that happens.

I'm not looking forward to that day with my current kitty. Neither of us are getting any younger. But when that time comes, I can't really be sad because I gave him the best life I could, and that's really all you can do. That's really kind of true whether it's a pet, a child or yourself. You never know what fate's going to deal you, but you can make the most of the time you have.

I'm trying to teach myself how to set things on fire with my mind. Hey... is it hot in here?

[catfishhunter 2]

Thanks :) my wife actually shared that with me yesterday when I had to make the decision. Someone had just posted it on Facebook at the perfect time without even knowing we needed to read that at that exact moment...

MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT
Life is Short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERY DAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose.

[catfishhunter 2]

Thank you and thanks to everyone that has replie. I just got up out of bed as this is the 5 night in a row I can't sleep :( I know we made the right choice. I paid the vet a lot just to tell me what I knew 3 weeks ago.. It don't make it any easier. I feel like I failed to keep her safe. I know there isn't anything I could do but I can't explain the feeling that maybe if I had paid more attention maybe we cold have caught it sooner and done seeming...then I think she's a cat would you have spent the money if thee was anything you could hav done? Then I feel more guilty for that...I mean wtf I'm a grown man all tore up over a cat..then I cry some more and accept I'm a big wussy that is really missing the one constant companion I've had through the beginning of my new life 11 years ago.... Thanks again for "listening" and sharing. Your stories...it really does help..

MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT
Life is Short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERY DAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose.

[Krip 2]

Hi

We got the bad news from our vet last week, for one of our chocolate labs that we rescued when he was a yr old. We've had him 7 yrs .

No symptoms just took the hounds in for their rabies shot. We asked the vet about a small tumor that we found on his neck. Turned out to be one of those bad tumors, on the thyroid gland.

The dog should live until 14 all we needed was 6 more yrs So we agreed to a ultrasound and Xray. To see if the tumor was operable.

No joy

The tumor had already attached itself to the blood veins so it's inoperable. We were shocked the dog weighs 120 lbs has a little grey on his mussel and is still acting like a puppy with lots of energy and enjoys eating.

At least we can spoil him even more than before, for the time he has left, however long that is. The vet was real busy, didn't have to much time to explain what was going on but at least we got Google.

Hopefully we found out soon enough that the bad stuff won't start for 3months to as long as 3 yrs.So we can still enjoy him everyday he is with us. As soon as things get bad we will not make our buddy suffer one extra day.

Since we're not jumping anymore maybe we will do the ash thing, over Mt Ranier or off the end of the ferry into Puget sound, or in the woods where we take the hounds for walks or all three.
R.

One Jump Wonder

[FlyingRhenquest 1]

Yeah, I know, I felt like that each time with my ferrets, too. You always think there's something more you can do. And losing sleep over it, too. It'll get better.

I'm trying to teach myself how to set things on fire with my mind. Hey... is it hot in here?

[CanuckInUSA 0]

Our four legged furry friends are more than just pets. Our four legged furry friends are members of our families and it hurts when we lose a member of our families.

Try not to worry about the things you have no control over

[wmw999 2,589]

Sounds like you did #10 right for both your kitty and your son. #9 was what let you know that it was time. So I'll just bet that you worked on the rest.

They're pets, we're just people -- your kitty had a lovely life with people who loved it, good food, and a warm space to cozy up.

May your longer memories be warm and fuzzy, and make you smile.

The 10 Commandments From a Pet's Point of View

My life is likely to last 10-15 years, any separation from you will be painful for me. Remember that before you buy me.

Give me time to understand what you want from me, don't be impatient, short-tempered, or irritable.

Place your trust in me and I will always trust you back. Respect is earned not given as an inalienable right.

Don't be angry with me for long and don't lock me up as punishment, I am not capable of understanding why? I only know I have been rejected, you have your work, entertainment, and friends. I only have you.

Talk to me sometimes, even if I don't understand your words I understand your voice and your tone, "you only have to look at my tail".

Be aware that however you treat me I'll never forget it, and if it's cruel it may affect me forever.

Please don't hit me I can't hit back, but I can bite and scratch and I really don't ever want to do that.

Before you scold me for being uncooperative, obstinate, or lazy, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I'm not getting the right foods or I've been out in the sun too long, or my heart is getting old and weak, I may be just dog tired.

Take care of me when I get old. You too will grow old and may also need love, care, comfort, and attention.

Go with me on difficult journeys, never say, "I can't bear to watch" or "Let it happen in my absence". Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, irrespective of what you do I will always love you.

Wendy P.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[StreetScooby 5]

So sorry to hear of your loss. I too had a similar experience with my cat last summer. Absolutely wrenching. We got him from the local pound when he was a few months old. Not the sharpest tack in the box, and we figured he had to be part dog because of some of his behaviors. Natural born killer he was, loved to stay outside for days. Wonderfully laid back cat, unless you were a chipmunk, etc. Would always come greet me after I came home from work, with this wonderful sashaying trot he had. Caught some kind of virus early one spring before we had updated his shots. Destroyed him from the inside out. Miss him greatly.

We are all engines of karma

[BillyVance 35]

Sorry for your loss. I've put a couple cats down and had one die in my arms after a vicious dog pack attack. Never easy.

"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban

[JohnMitchell 16]

Sorry to hear about that, John. We had to put down a pet last Spring, a rabbit that had lived in Melissa's room for 10 years. Valinda, Melissa and I took her to the vet together. There was not a dry eye in the bunch.

Know that your cat had a great life with you, knew it was loved and well cared for, and that it's life was longer and richer than it ever could have been in the wild. I hope you find peace with this, but it takes some time, doesn't it?

[catfishhunter 2]

I've never read that. I'm going to print that out when I'm back in the office thank you and thank you all for sharing. This is why I post here and not Facebook (that's my wife's gig) for those going through it our families thought are with you.

MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT
Life is Short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERY DAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose.

[turtlespeed 226]

sux

I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama
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