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QuoteThats right, its incredibly unfair, if a SO in a relationship is completley shut off from physical affection and sex it can create other problems. I dont care how perfect everything else is. If there is no compromise then it will be hard. You giving up is not compromise
There is physical affection. Most nights we sleep curled up together. Every night we cuddle up on the couch. He is quick with hugs. There's definitely flirting and groping on a regular basis on both of our parts. We dance in public to imaginary music. No lack of touching, just total lack of sex.
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QuoteSudsy,
You use your mouth better than a $20 whore!!
I've never seen him use a $20 whore. Have you?
Wendy W.
There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)
ChrisL 2
Quoteto negate ones needs in a relationship because youd rather work out or take out the trash is in my opinion wrong.
You misunderstood what I was saying.
That comment was meant to put across the idea that sex should not become a chore and that I refuse to let it be such.
I dont prefer to work out instead of have sex. In point of fact, I dont enjoy working out at all. Its a necessary evil to have the level of fitness I want.
I do enjoy sex, but dont want it to become a chore by forcing myself to do it when I dont feel like it.
I wouldnt expect my wife to "put out" for me if she didnt feel like it either and if she turned down (which has certainly happened on occasion) it doesnt hurt my feelings. Not even a little bit.
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how you describe your relationship is how I describe my gay male relationships. Gay men are the best to snuggle, flirt and spend my time with because it doesnt go beyond that. A matter includes sex, sorry it does, no sex is grounds for divorce in most every state...
if he doesnt want to have sex with you then I would figure out why, if he isnt willing to compromise then he does not care about you as much as you think he does. In my opinion, from what we all know on here.
if he doesnt want to have sex with you then I would figure out why, if he isnt willing to compromise then he does not care about you as much as you think he does. In my opinion, from what we all know on here.
Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
ChrisL 2
QuoteDude, check your tone, will ya?
I'm not aware of any "tone".
I'm expressing my opinion in a polite, respectful way.
I havent insulted or belittled anyone, and I've evben interjected a couple humorous comments to lighten it up here and there.
If you disagree with me thats certainly your right but this is a public forum where someone asked a question on a rather personal issue.
I've answered that question and other comments with my own opinions
on the subject, which were meant to convey the idea that what the person is dealing with may not be as big a problem as she fears.
Other folks seem bent on convincing her that there is a big problem.
Either way I dont see why this is a problem for you. I didnt get the sense that anyone was offended by my comments.
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tigra 0
You really ought to drop the whole "He's gay" routine. You know NOTHING about these people.
QuoteThat comment was meant to put across the idea that sex should not become a chore and that I refuse to let it be such.
Okay I agree, kinda.... as long as it isnt a physical reason of being sick, why would you refuse your partner physical joy? Ive certainly had sex when I wasnt 100% there, it wasnt a chore per say but I still think that when two people love each other they provide the other person with their needs, and if it happens to be sex 3 times a day, guess where he will be?
okay so your wife has on occasion refused sex due to varies reasons, and it hasnt affected you. Lets compare that to a person who for years is refused sex regardless if it is by oral or penetration , but refused so often that they feel they need to go to a bunch of strangers for advice on what to do?
Maybe for you it works, but for me and many people I know , the value of sex is up there in importance. If its on occasion I am refused, then fine, my ego wouldnt suffer. However that being said if it was a regular occurence Id re-consider his attraction to me. Id re-consider our chemistry, etc etc etc
If it was a physical issue and he refused to at least try alternitives Id be pissed to. Relationships are give and take.... if the man aint giving, and the women isnt giving then neither are taking , that null and voids the relationship and downgrades each other to gay friend status
Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
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if he doesnt want to have sex with you then I would figure out why, if he isnt willing to compromise then he does not care about you as much as you think he does. In my opinion, from what we all know on here.
I would have a difficult time disagreeing there...
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sorry , I keep forgetting this is a public forum and a free country. If I were on a public forum and in a free country and someone asked advice or opinions then everything I posted would be what I think. Dont like it dont read it. She only said she doesnt think he is gay.
Sudsy Fist: i don't think i'd ever say this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
Sudsy Fist: but you're looking damn sudsydoable in this
QuoteI wouldnt expect my wife to "put out" for me if she didnt feel like it either and if she turned down (which has certainly happened on occasion) it doesnt hurt my feelings. Not even a little bit.
If I'm in a relationship that's happy and healthy, I'll "put out" even when I don't feel like it...because I know that about five minutes into it, I'm going to feel like it.
Consider all the things that partners do for each other, whether they "feel like it" or not, and tell me why sex should be any different.
Someone I love should suffer because I don't "feel like" having sex? I don't think so. If I'm sick or otherwise incapacitated, it's one thing. But if it's just that I'm not in the mood, I'll go ahead and get into the mood. At the very least, I should be able to manage fellatio (unless I have a head cold).
rl
If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb
I may consider that if I were to lose all interest. That hasnt happened. Its just that there is a little imbalance which as far as I've seen is pretty normal. I'd prefer to leave my endocrine system alone unless something serious demanded it.
Those suppliments can also be extremely expensive and only work as long as you keep pumping them into your body.
I wont argue that point, although some workouts are better than others
Yikes! Well, he either had amazing shits or lousy orgasms
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