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Working out is a chore. I force myself to do it for the benefit it gives me.



I'm going to leave the rest of it alone, because it's about to turn into a pointless argument, and if you and your wife are happy, it's not for me to be critical.

But I do want to make this point:

Sex also confers great benefits. People who have more sex remain healthier longer. So maybe you might consider incorporating it into your workout routine.

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Working out is a chore. I force myself to do it for the benefit it gives me.



I'm going to leave the rest of it alone, because it's about to turn into a pointless argument, and if you and your wife are happy, it's not for me to be critical.

But I do want to make this point:

Sex also confers great benefits. People who have more sex remain healthier longer. So maybe you might consider incorporating it into your workout routine.

rl



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I'm going to leave the rest of it alone, because it's about to turn into a pointless argument, and if you and your wife are happy, it's not for me to be critical.



Hey thats no fair!
Here I went and made that really clever comment about cleaning the toilet and having sex.

Actually my wife and I are happy. There was some trouble for a while because of natures little joke. As age advances the female sex drive seems to increase while the males decreases. Haha, very funny.

She was feeling unloved because I didnt want sex as much as she did.

I have found that there are many ways to make someone feel loved.
Sex is just one of them. By using a combination of sex and other ways we are able to keep us both happy.

Why does this work? Because its not really about the sex at all which is my whole point.
Its about feeling loved, and there are many ways to make someone feel loved.

PS. For those of you that cant think of other ways to make their SO feel loved, oh man its gonna suck to be you someday ;)
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The day my lover feels its a chore to make me happy is the day I ask her to move on because I asure you I will move on the day I feel its a chore to make my lover happy.



Spoken like a true younger person with lots of testosterone :)
Sex and happiness. Happiness and sex. Someday you may realize they are seperate.
Its not a chore to make my wife feel loved. Sometimes its a chore to have sex though.

Different things.
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The day my lover feels its a chore to make me happy is the day I ask her to move on because I asure you I will move on the day I feel its a chore to make my lover happy.



Spoken like a true younger person with lots of testosterone :)
Sex and happiness. Happiness and sex. Someday you may realize they are seperate.
Its not a chore to make my wife feel loved. Sometimes its a chore to have sex though.

Different things.



HAH! You have no idea how old I am but I do appreciate the compliment. :D

Please reread what I stated because I did and I see no mention of sex.
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I'm going to leave the rest of it alone, because it's about to turn into a pointless argument, and if you and your wife are happy, it's not for me to be critical.



Hey thats no fair!
Here I went and made that really clever comment about cleaning the toilet and having sex.

Actually my wife and I are happy. There was some trouble for a while because of natures little joke. As age advances the female sex drive seems to increase while the males decreases. Haha, very funny.

She was feeling unloved because I didnt want sex as much as she did.

I have found that there are many ways to make someone feel loved.
Sex is just one of them. By using a combination of sex and other ways we are able to keep us both happy.

Why does this work? Because its not really about the sex at all which is my whole point.
Its about feeling loved, and there are many ways to make someone feel loved.



Okay, look...the fact that the two of you have talked about it and worked it out is good. Communication in a marriage is as important as sex, although to me, sex is a form of communication.

I'm not trying to be smart or anything, but...well look, it is well known that May/December pairings are actually more "level" as far as sex is concerned--a 35+ woman has the sex drive of an 18-21 year old man, and a 40-year old man is better suited to a 25 year old woman (ages approximate). Taking that into consideration, I would still say to an older guy that he should have his testosterone levels checked. It's something doctors seem not to do unless asked, but testosterone supplementation (for both men and women) seems to work wonders when sex drive flags.

And as I said, sex confers great health benefits, probably more so than the traditional workout.

rl

P.S. Cleaning the toilet and having sex? It reminded me of something, and I shied away from it completely:

My first husband told me that to him, taking a good shit felt as good as sex. He was screwy in other ways too. The marriage didn't last long for other reasons, but if I'd known that before the ceremony, there would never have been a wedding.
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Please reread what I stated because I did and I see no mention of sex.



Sex (or lack of) is what this thread is about.

I'm not suggesting that people should not try to make their SO happy.
I'm saying that sex should not be a requirement in that process.

Maybe you should reread the thread from the beginning ;)
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sorry if im with someone I better be taken care of in some way shape or form.... if I wanted to masturbate my life away, I would have stayed single...

Granted sex isnt #1 on the list of importance but it sure is up there

Sex is part of life, fulfilling a partners sexual needs is an important part of sharing a life. It is a need. If god forbid my SO couldnt have sex wed find alternitives but to negate ones needs in a relationship because youd rather work out or take out the trash is in my opinion wrong.

However , in your relationship you both compromised and thats the difference between you and Husky, she has no compromise, she is willing to try to negate her physical needs and desires because her man refuses her sex often enough to where she has to come on a public forem and ask for help.
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I know what the thread is about and it certainly isn't about chores. LMAO :D

My point is that Husky's description of her husband's behavior makes him seem a selfish lover which personally I wouldn't accept in a lover.

....But hey what would a younger person like me know about sex, chores, and relationships in general? :ph34r:
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If you are a confident, self assured person, being refused sex would never affect your self image regardless of how often it happened.
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I'm sorry Chris, without knowing the context, that is total crap. What ever idealized version of being self-actualized , independent, confident, and whatever semantic you want to attach....the REALITY of life and the HUMANS that populate it is very different, espcially when one is involved in a intimate relationship, married or not. People can still be vulnerable and express needs...and still be healthy and not relegated to being selfish.



If you need sex 3 or 4 (or more) times a week to feel good about yourself
I'd say you have a larger issue to deal with than whether or not your SO still loves you.



Believe it or not, for some ppl that is a slow week, and may very well be a sympton of something besides co-dependence.

Finally, I don't know that anybody here, myself especially, can or should speak so definitely about a person, people, and or their situations. Dude, check your tone, will ya?

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testosterone supplementation (for both men and women) seems to work wonders when sex drive flags.



I may consider that if I were to lose all interest. That hasnt happened. Its just that there is a little imbalance which as far as I've seen is pretty normal. I'd prefer to leave my endocrine system alone unless something serious demanded it.

Those suppliments can also be extremely expensive and only work as long as you keep pumping them into your body.

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And as I said, sex confers great health benefits, probably more so than the traditional workout.



I wont argue that point, although some workouts are better than others :)
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My first husband told me that to him, taking a good shit felt as good as sex.



Yikes! Well, he either had amazing shits or lousy orgasms :)
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Thats right, its incredibly unfair, if a SO in a relationship is completley shut off from physical affection and sex it can create other problems. I dont care how perfect everything else is. If there is no compromise then it will be hard. You giving up is not compromise



There is physical affection. Most nights we sleep curled up together. Every night we cuddle up on the couch. He is quick with hugs. There's definitely flirting and groping on a regular basis on both of our parts. We dance in public to imaginary music. No lack of touching, just total lack of sex.

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Sudsy,
You use your mouth better than a $20 whore!!



I've never seen him use a $20 whore. Have you?

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There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

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to negate ones needs in a relationship because youd rather work out or take out the trash is in my opinion wrong.



You misunderstood what I was saying.
That comment was meant to put across the idea that sex should not become a chore and that I refuse to let it be such.

I dont prefer to work out instead of have sex. In point of fact, I dont enjoy working out at all. Its a necessary evil to have the level of fitness I want.

I do enjoy sex, but dont want it to become a chore by forcing myself to do it when I dont feel like it.

I wouldnt expect my wife to "put out" for me if she didnt feel like it either and if she turned down (which has certainly happened on occasion) it doesnt hurt my feelings. Not even a little bit.
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how you describe your relationship is how I describe my gay male relationships. Gay men are the best to snuggle, flirt and spend my time with because it doesnt go beyond that. A matter includes sex, sorry it does, no sex is grounds for divorce in most every state...

if he doesnt want to have sex with you then I would figure out why, if he isnt willing to compromise then he does not care about you as much as you think he does. In my opinion, from what we all know on here.
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Dude, check your tone, will ya?



I'm not aware of any "tone".

I'm expressing my opinion in a polite, respectful way.
I havent insulted or belittled anyone, and I've evben interjected a couple humorous comments to lighten it up here and there.

If you disagree with me thats certainly your right but this is a public forum where someone asked a question on a rather personal issue.
I've answered that question and other comments with my own opinions
on the subject, which were meant to convey the idea that what the person is dealing with may not be as big a problem as she fears.

Other folks seem bent on convincing her that there is a big problem.

Either way I dont see why this is a problem for you. I didnt get the sense that anyone was offended by my comments.
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That comment was meant to put across the idea that sex should not become a chore and that I refuse to let it be such.



Okay I agree, kinda.... as long as it isnt a physical reason of being sick, why would you refuse your partner physical joy? Ive certainly had sex when I wasnt 100% there, it wasnt a chore per say but I still think that when two people love each other they provide the other person with their needs, and if it happens to be sex 3 times a day, guess where he will be?

okay so your wife has on occasion refused sex due to varies reasons, and it hasnt affected you. Lets compare that to a person who for years is refused sex regardless if it is by oral or penetration , but refused so often that they feel they need to go to a bunch of strangers for advice on what to do?

Maybe for you it works, but for me and many people I know , the value of sex is up there in importance. If its on occasion I am refused, then fine, my ego wouldnt suffer. However that being said if it was a regular occurence Id re-consider his attraction to me. Id re-consider our chemistry, etc etc etc

If it was a physical issue and he refused to at least try alternitives Id be pissed to. Relationships are give and take.... if the man aint giving, and the women isnt giving then neither are taking , that null and voids the relationship and downgrades each other to gay friend status
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sorry , I keep forgetting this is a public forum and a free country. If I were on a public forum and in a free country and someone asked advice or opinions then everything I posted would be what I think. Dont like it dont read it. She only said she doesnt think he is gay.
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I wouldnt expect my wife to "put out" for me if she didnt feel like it either and if she turned down (which has certainly happened on occasion) it doesnt hurt my feelings. Not even a little bit.



If I'm in a relationship that's happy and healthy, I'll "put out" even when I don't feel like it...because I know that about five minutes into it, I'm going to feel like it.

Consider all the things that partners do for each other, whether they "feel like it" or not, and tell me why sex should be any different.

Someone I love should suffer because I don't "feel like" having sex? I don't think so. If I'm sick or otherwise incapacitated, it's one thing. But if it's just that I'm not in the mood, I'll go ahead and get into the mood. At the very least, I should be able to manage fellatio (unless I have a head cold).

rl
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