Am i out of order?

[mx19 0]

Ok, here's the situation:

I had a friend move in with me into a 2 bedroom apartment beginning of June, i was back and forth most of the summer but when i got back end of august he had got a new mrs who has since spent every night here. She doesn't make a lot of money from what i gather and sends a lot home. Apparently she has her own room in another rented apartment but she has never stayed anywhere but here in the last few months.

Am I out of order if i ask her to help out with bills and/or rent?

I just wanted to get a general consensus before bringing it up!

Cheers

[BIGUN 1,486]

It doesn't matter that she does not make much money and sends most of it home....

If she has another apartment; they can either pay 66% of the rent & utilities or move to her other apartment.

Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard.

[wmw999 2,588]

Or, since the two of them share a bedroom (are they the same size?), it could be figured a little differently, based on use of common area, along with taking the smaller bedroom use into account.

That's how we handled 3 roommates in a 2-BR apartment (for a short while -- then one of the sharers decided that he preferred the enclosed porch).

Wendy P.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[JohnMitchell 16]

Yep, I once shared a 3 bdrm house with 2 guys and one of the guy's gf. Since the couple only used one room, we split the bills 30-30-40%, with the 40% for the couple. Easy math and it seemed to work well. At least, until she got tired of her BF's friends.

[BIGUN 1,486]

IMO
Sounds like he agreed to "A" roommate.
Another one is still 33% more of the common area; utilities, furniture, kitchen, bathrooms, etc.
The roommate should have had a sit-down, email conversation, etc. before moving her in and worked out the details then.
Once the roommate took advantage of the situation without having that discussion, he was taking liberties.
For that; it needs to be clear, clean & concise.
If the OP agrees to less than 66%; then that is his decision.
Personally, I think it's only going to get messier from here.

Been there; done that.

Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard.

[airtwardo 7]

Ass, Grass or Cash...nobody rides for free!

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[BIGUN 1,486]

Fucking Harley rider

Nobody has time to listen; because they're desperately chasing the need of being heard.

[Andy9o8 2]

BIGUN

IMO
Sounds like he agreed to "A" roommate.

This. It really is about more than money; it's about space. The OP signed-on to share the space of a 2-bedroom apt w/2 people, not 3.

[airtwardo 7]

BIGUN

Fucking Harley rider

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[ryoder 1,590]

airtwardo

Ass, Grass or Cash...nobody rides for free!

And Kemosabe was trying to play innocent a couple days ago.

"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones.

[format 1]

Is this the right thread?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3iVwdmAmZ8&feature=youtu.be

What goes around, comes later.

[airtwardo 7]

ryoder

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Ass, Grass or Cash...nobody rides for free!

And Kemosabe was trying to play innocent a couple days ago.

~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~

[Tink1717 2]

Absolutely charge her rent!! And don't wai to to it, either. If you let it go, before long they'll be expecting to sponge off of you. Nip it in the bud pronto!!

Been there before, it gets ugly.

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[turtlespeed 226]

ryoder

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Ass, Grass or Cash...nobody rides for free!

And Kemosabe was trying to play innocent a couple days ago.

NO TONTO!

Dammit - I said to bring a POSSY!! - take those women back to the brothel!

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[Andy9o8 2]

Tink1717

Absolutely charge her rent!! And don't wai to to it, either. If you let it go, before long they'll be expecting to sponge off of you. Nip it in the bud pronto!!

Been there before, it gets ugly.

Exactly. She's not just a sometimes-guest, she's a 3rd person living in the entire space. You should pay no more than 1/3, and she should pay no less than 1/3.

(Unless the original deal is that either of you can have a live-in S.O. But that needs to be established at the beginning of the lease, not afterward.)

[LuckyMcSwervy 0]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BofddwtPBPw

Always be kinder than you feel.

[MikeJD 0]

Andy9o8

This. It really is about more than money; it's about space.

And not even just that. In my experience, living with a couple is often more difficult than sharing with two single people. You can easily start to feel like an intruder into their cosy domesticity.