ryoder 1,590 #1 February 19, 2015 http://thedailyedge.thejournal.ie/wedding-invitation-harsh-1945070-Feb2015/"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wolfriverjoe 1,523 #2 February 19, 2015 Sad more than funny, IMO. I guess some people just shouldn't have kids."There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy "~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #3 February 19, 2015 wolfriverjoe Sad more than funny, IMO. I guess some people just shouldn't have kids. I can't tell if she turned out OK or not.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wolfriverjoe 1,523 #4 February 19, 2015 Yeah, it's hard to tell if the daughter is "ok" and survived some horrible parents, or if she's just as bad as them, or if they are reasonably ok and she's the problem. I've seen all three. More of the middle than either of the two "ends.""There are NO situations which do not call for a French Maid outfit." Lucky McSwervy "~ya don't GET old by being weak & stupid!" - Airtwardo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #5 February 19, 2015 Having come from a dysfunctional family myself, I can fully relate to that story. When you verbally abuse your kids daily, and physically abuse them weekly, don't be surprised when they want absolutely nothing to do with you once they have left home."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #6 February 19, 2015 ryoder Having come from a dysfunctional family myself, I can fully relate to that story. When you verbally abuse your kids daily, and physically abuse them weekly, don't be surprised when they want absolutely nothing to do with you once they have left home. Its a true bother to try to not repeat their actions as well.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MikeJD 0 #7 February 19, 2015 ryoderHaving come from a dysfunctional family myself, I can fully relate to that story. When you verbally abuse your kids daily, and physically abuse them weekly, don't be surprised when they want absolutely nothing to do with you once they have left home. Sure, but isn't it depressing that the internet seems to have become one big scramble for approval? Too many people have decided that having a viral hit is more important than having discretion or class or, you know, not making stuff up. I think there's a good chance this isn't real. If it is, then the classy response would have been to ignore the parents' attempts to get an invitation or to send them a politely-worded but firm note explaining why they weren't wanted. What a shame that the thing that'll make this woman feel best about herself is to write something like this, put it online, and have it endlessly reposted. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #8 February 19, 2015 It may not have been intended to go viral, but, given the years of abuse she suffered, and the repeated attempts by her parents to horn in on HER wedding, if she doesn't want them there, they don't need to bother showing up. She got the message across about as bluntly as anybody could. You go girl!"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #9 February 19, 2015 BillyVanceIt may not have been intended to go viral, but, given the years of abuse she suffered, and the repeated attempts by her parents to horn in on HER wedding, if she doesn't want them there, they don't need to bother showing up. She got the message across about as bluntly as anybody could. You go girl! What do you think of her tone of voice when she said it?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #10 February 19, 2015 turtlespeed***It may not have been intended to go viral, but, given the years of abuse she suffered, and the repeated attempts by her parents to horn in on HER wedding, if she doesn't want them there, they don't need to bother showing up. She got the message across about as bluntly as anybody could. You go girl! What do you think of her tone of voice when she said it? Sure sounded seemed like several years of pent up aggression to me. I think she only did this after her parents wouldn't stop trying to get in on her wedding."Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #11 February 19, 2015 Quote What do you think of her tone of voice when she said it? I think she should have shown maturity by having a direct conversation with them. Instead, she stooped to their level. Some people have a hard time breaking the cycle. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #12 February 19, 2015 skymama Quote What do you think of her tone of voice when she said it? I think she should have shown maturity by having a direct conversation with them. Instead, she stooped to their level. Some people have a hard time breaking the cycle. Yeah. People seem to get a little overly upset about what others say and do. This drives them to say things publicly that should be either left unsaid, simply because of the sentiment, or communicated privately. Almost like a knee jerk reaction "gone wild".I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #13 February 19, 2015 QuoteI think she should have shown maturity by having a direct conversation with them. I respectfully disagree. Sometimes the best way to disengage from an abuser is to cease all contact and communication. It's not uncommon for the abuser to then try to conjure up ways to pull the victim back into direct communication of any kind. That's the wedge. Between my 50+ yrs life experience and a legal career handling my own share of family law cases, I've seen this in action many times. That's what these parents seem to be doing - using this an an opportunistic way to wedge their way back into direct communication with her. This is her way of telling them to back the hell off without giving them the wedge of direct conversation that they crave and she has the right to avoid. On the one hand, it may have been immature for her to do make the "fuck off" public, rather than keeping it private. On the other hand, note how the parents were using other mutual cohorts to communicate with her. So, going public like this might well be her way of communicating to friends and relatives to not allow themselves to be used as her parents' enablers like that. ETA: As an aside, the girl's method may very well have been a form of cathartic self-therapy. It kind of smells like something a therapist might suggest. In any event, may she find some healing from this. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #14 February 19, 2015 Said it better than I could have. The parents seem to have exerted an unusual amount of emotional control over her throughout her life, and can't seem to let it go. She's had enough of their bullshit. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
